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Happy - 2/19/2012 3:23:30 PM

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So, after several years and many mistakes, I think I've met someone that makes me really, truly happy.

It took a couple of experiences bad enough that I left the scene. Then the only man I thought could have been my Dom died, and I realized that I wouldn't have met him if I hadn't been here, so I came back to CM. But this time, I realized (finally!) that I had to take care of my submissive side, vigilantly, until I met someone I trusted enough that he would take better care of me than I would.

I had a huge number of men tell me I wasn't 'real' and I finally came to decide that any man who told me I wasn't 'real' was just doing me the great favor of telling me he wasn't safe. I started embracing the idea that I wasn't a 'real' submissive--I was just me.

Last weekend, I spent 5 days in another country with the man (I met here, although my friends think we met on OK Cupid) that not only believes I'm real--he loves that I have a side of me that can take care of myself and a side of me that will surrender unconditionally, and he embraces both sides. It will be hard because we currently live in 2 different countries. Thank heavens for Skype! But I am very, very very happy.

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RE: Happy - 2/19/2012 3:28:37 PM

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RE: Happy - 2/19/2012 3:34:10 PM

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quote:

I had a huge number of men tell me I wasn't 'real' and I finally came to decide that any man who told me I wasn't 'real' was just doing me the great favor of telling me he wasn't safe. I started embracing the idea that I wasn't a 'real' submissive--I was just me.

I wish there was a thread of just damn good advice as I'd ask you to put this on there. Well said and well done.

Congratulations on your new relationship.

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RE: Happy - 2/19/2012 4:25:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FemmeDominion

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I had a huge number of men tell me I wasn't 'real' and I finally came to decide that any man who told me I wasn't 'real' was just doing me the great favor of telling me he wasn't safe. I started embracing the idea that I wasn't a 'real' submissive--I was just me.

I wish there was a thread of just damn good advice as I'd ask you to put this on there. Well said and well done.

Congratulations on your new relationship.

Thank you!!

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RE: Happy - 2/19/2012 5:58:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FemmeDominion

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I had a huge number of men tell me I wasn't 'real' and I finally came to decide that any man who told me I wasn't 'real' was just doing me the great favor of telling me he wasn't safe. I started embracing the idea that I wasn't a 'real' submissive--I was just me.

I wish there was a thread of just damn good advice as I'd ask you to put this on there. Well said and well done.

Congratulations on your new relationship.

What she said. ^

Congrats again!

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RE: Happy - 2/21/2012 6:49:10 AM

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Congratulations

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RE: Happy - 2/21/2012 1:50:35 PM

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I had a huge number of men tell me I wasn't 'real' and I finally came to decide that any man who told me I wasn't 'real' was just doing me the great favor of telling me he wasn't safe.

Just meant they weren't the one for you.

Congratulations.

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