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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 3:05:12 PM   
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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 3:06:13 PM   
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Let me try to explain it to you, fauxprincess.
1) There are these uber icky things called...jobs. If you get one, you do things and the boss person gives you currency. With that currency, you buy the things "we all need and enjoy" that bring you "comfort and pleasure". (And if the only things that bring you "comfort and pleasure" have a price tag, you have a sad little life, cupcake)
2) Relationships don't mean the other person has to do the above FOR you, no matter how privileged you think you are. Cuz see, a D/s or M/s relationship? It's still a relationship.
3) See steps one and two.

If you don't know how your sub/slave can serve you other than buying you a shiny new dildo or pair of stilettos, you have so, so much to learn.

So you see, that, my little grasshopper, is why I don't think enough facepalms in the world exist.
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I agree with this 800 percent. I really don't understand the "facepalming", though. The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure, they all have price tags. If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?






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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 3:47:02 PM   
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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 3:58:16 PM   
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Let me try to explain it to you, fauxprincess.
1) There are these uber icky things called...jobs. If you get one, you do things and the boss person gives you currency. With that currency, you buy the things "we all need and enjoy" that bring you "comfort and pleasure". (And if the only things that bring you "comfort and pleasure" have a price tag, you have a sad little life, cupcake)
2) Relationships don't mean the other person has to do the above FOR you, no matter how privileged you think you are. Cuz see, a D/s or M/s relationship? It's still a relationship.
3) See steps one and two.

If you don't know how your sub/slave can serve you other than buying you a shiny new dildo or pair of stilettos, you have so, so much to learn.

So you see, that, my little grasshopper, is why I don't think enough facepalms in the world exist.
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I agree with this 800 percent. I really don't understand the "facepalming", though. The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure, they all have price tags. If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?







I genuinely didn't expect such hostility and I'm surprised that no one has answered the question I posed. In the interest of not hijacking this thread, I'll clear up confusion on one thing. I am not a pro domme. I do not earn a living or support myself with D/s.

I guess we pursue and experience two completely different types of intimacy in our relationships. In my world servants =/= lovers. So, when a man approaches and offers to serve, I expect he'll do just that. Let's say my servant's service doesn't involve me traipsing around the mall. Let's say he maintains my yard. He doesn't live next door to me, though. How does he get to my home to do his job? Am I paying for his gas/public transportation? Would you?





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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:08:59 PM   
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If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?

So, in your view there isn't any service unless it involves money?


Absolutely.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:11:39 PM   
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Oh fuck it... get me some coffee and rub my feet. That will do.

I'll second that! Much better than $$ any day in my book!

Coffee isn't free and that's my entire point :)

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:14:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lol I am confused at this person. What exactly is your definition of "serve"? Paying you to have a relationship with him? Typically if there is such a relationship, the server is the one who is paid. A butler does not pay the rich man. You do not pay to serve in the Armed Forces.

By the way, just for reference, most Dominants, from what I've seen, prefer to pay for dinner. Paying for dinner in a way asserts your dominance in the relationship.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:17:36 PM   
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Oh fuck it... get me some coffee and rub my feet. That will do.

I'll second that! Much better than $$ any day in my book!

Coffee isn't free and that's my entire point :)



LOL... I buy my own damn coffee. I just want him to serve it.




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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:31:26 PM   
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LOL... I buy my own damn coffee. I just want him to serve it.

Actually, I like buying my own too. It's nice to have it served though.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:36:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		In a nutshell, service is something I can enjoy with all of my senses. 

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:39:19 PM   
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LOL... I buy my own damn coffee. I just want him to serve it.

Actually, I like buying my own too. It's nice to have it served though.

That's perfectly understandable however, some of us don't have live in servants.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:41:45 PM   
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In a nutshell, service is something I can enjoy with all of my senses. 

So you admit you enjoy it. Yet you demand to be paid before you will choose to enjoy it? And you will only do it if you can freeload off your partners?

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 4:59:20 PM   
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In a nutshell, service is something I can enjoy with all of my senses. 

So you admit you enjoy it. Yet you demand to be paid before you will choose to enjoy it? And you will only do it if you can freeload off your partners?

You're making some wild assumptions and I wish I knew why.
I don't engage in anything I don't derive pleasure from. As far as being "paid", I don't cater to fetishists. That means dudes who believe sticking the contents of their crisper into their orifices on cam is service, will get nowhere with me. I don't have any submissive "partners". If a servant agrees to serve my way, he's welcome to do so.

I asked a question about service in general and some of you are behaving as if I came in trumpeting findom as the way and the light. That isn't at all the case.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 5:23:47 PM   
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Not me. I always expect money from a slave. It goes hand in hand with the servitude inherent in slavery. That is, if slavery to a Woman is really what you're seeking. Chances are you're not really looking for that. This wouldn't make you unique in the least, however.



I agree with this 800 percent. I really don't understand the "facepalming", though. The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure, they all have price tags. If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?


You agreed with the quote saying "service=money". Then in saying "If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?" you imply that they are to do all the spending. You yourself are incapable and unwilling to spend money on your partner.

By the way, no, you did not ask a question. You came in here telling us submissives should be expected to carry 100% of the financial burden in your relationship.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 5:31:00 PM   
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Another Collarme thread of "your kink is not my kink so YOUR KINK IS WRONG!". Great jobs, Fornica and others.

As opposed to the OP being told that there is no service unless money is involved?

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 5:38:27 PM   
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Assumptions? More like logical deductions. See here:
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Not me. I always expect money from a slave. It goes hand in hand with the servitude inherent in slavery. That is, if slavery to a Woman is really what you're seeking. Chances are you're not really looking for that. This wouldn't make you unique in the least, however.



I agree with this 800 percent. I really don't understand the "facepalming", though. The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure, they all have price tags. If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?


You agreed with the quote saying "service=money". Then in saying "If a servant is incapable or unwilling to spend money, who is he serving and how?" you imply that they are to do all the spending. You yourself are incapable and unwilling to spend money on your partner.

By the way, no, you did not ask a question. You came in here telling us submissives should be expected to carry 100% of the financial burden in your relationship.


And it gets wilder! See what I bolded? That line with the question mark at the end? That's a question.
"The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure..."-For some reason, you're reading this as "Support me" when that's not even close to what I said or meant.




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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 5:42:45 PM   
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Another Collarme thread of "your kink is not my kink so YOUR KINK IS WRONG!". Great jobs, Fornica and others.

As opposed to the OP being told that there is no service unless money is involved?

That was my answer to the question he asked. Stating my opinion and saying "you're doing it wrong" is two different things.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 5:45:06 PM   
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And it gets wilder! See what I bolded? That line with the question mark at the end? That's a question.
"The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure..."-For some reason, you're reading this as "Support me" when that's not even close to what I said or meant.





A rhetorical question maybe. You know, the kind that's not really a question that you just use for emphasis.

I'm not reading it as "support me". I'm reading into the fact that you've made absolutely no indication that you are willing to spend any money on your relationships.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 6:20:45 PM   
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And it gets wilder! See what I bolded? That line with the question mark at the end? That's a question.
"The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure..."-For some reason, you're reading this as "Support me" when that's not even close to what I said or meant.





A rhetorical question maybe. You know, the kind that's not really a question that you just use for emphasis.

I'm not reading it as "support me". I'm reading into the fact that you've made absolutely no indication that you are willing to spend any money on your relationships.


It was a question I expected someone, anyone to answer. I suppose by not answering the question and opting to delve into my methods and "relationships", you've made your answer clear.

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RE: new slave - 2/28/2012 9:38:26 PM   
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LOL... I buy my own damn coffee. I just want him to serve it.

Actually, I like buying my own too. It's nice to have it served though.

That's perfectly understandable however, some of us don't have live in servants.


As a matter of fact, I don't. Who said I did? I said it was nice, I didn't say it was actually happening.

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