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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Another Collarme thread of "your kink is not my kink so YOUR KINK IS WRONG!". Great jobs, Fornica and others.

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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953
So you admit you enjoy it. Yet you demand to be paid before you will choose to enjoy it? And you will only do it if you can freeload off your partners?

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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

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ORIGINAL: Privileged


And it gets wilder! See what I bolded? That line with the question mark at the end? That's a question.
"The things we all enjoy and need, the things that bring us comfort and pleasure..."-For some reason, you're reading this as "Support me" when that's not even close to what I said or meant.

A rhetorical question maybe. You know, the kind that's not really a question that you just use for emphasis.

I'm not reading it as "support me". I'm reading into the fact that you've made absolutely no indication that you are willing to spend any money on your relationships.

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I genuinely didn't expect such hostility and I'm surprised that no one has answered the question I posed. In the interest of not hijacking this thread, I'll clear up confusion on one thing. I am not a pro domme. I do not earn a living or support myself with D/s.

I guess we pursue and experience two completely different types of intimacy in our relationships. In my world servants =/= lovers. So, when a man approaches and offers to serve, I expect he'll do just that. Let's say my servant's service doesn't involve me traipsing around the mall. Let's say he maintains my yard. He doesn't live next door to me, though. How does he get to my home to do his job? Am I paying for his gas/public transportation? Would you?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

And you were a fool.

There are plenty of examples where the same acts worked out amazingly well. And yes, marriage can be amazingly similar. It's just that the marriage gig is cloaked in romance and love and all ooohs and aaaaahs.

The problems arise when stupid people jump into situations without taking the time to know the person they are ceding control to. Or they make assumptions rather than ask questions and actually.....gasp.....communicate.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

No, you were the one fooling yourself. Take responsibility for your part in the fiasco. He wasn't all that cunning. The red flags were there. He isn't that special. Very very VERY few really are.

In your mind you set him up to be what you wanted him to be. You put him on that pedestal and ignored the red flags.

I don't doubt he is a charming bugger, in your eyes. But I also am quite certain your eyes had some serious rose coloured glasses on also.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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I genuinely didn't expect such hostility and I'm surprised that no one has answered the question I posed. In the interest of not hijacking this thread, I'll clear up confusion on one thing. I am not a pro domme. I do not earn a living or support myself with D/s.

I guess we pursue and experience two completely different types of intimacy in our relationships. In my world servants =/= lovers. So, when a man approaches and offers to serve, I expect he'll do just that. Let's say my servant's service doesn't involve me traipsing around the mall. Let's say he maintains my yard. He doesn't live next door to me, though. How does he get to my home to do his job? Am I paying for his gas/public transportation? Would you?

If that is true then why does your profile say "I train and use financial servants online, exclusively."

Sounds like a pro to me.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I agree with Saharah in that......so what!

I get bloody well sick of the divas that dive onto anyone, especially another female dominant, like vultures onto road kill, every time a woman is being honest and saying they expect their slave to cough up some cash. It's ridiculous and shows far more that is negative about the vulture than their intended prey.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I agree with Saharah in that......so what!

I get bloody well sick of the divas that dive onto anyone, especially another female dominant, like vultures onto road kill, every time a woman is being honest and saying they expect their slave to cough up some cash. I get bloody well sick of those petty vultures making assumptions about that kink. It's ridiculous and shows far more that is negative about the vulture than their intended prey. FUCK THAT!

While demanding a wanna be slave spend money on me isn't my kink, I respect it. Especially from a clearing out the chaff point of view. Especially with men. Especially knowing the mind set some dominant women take with it. If a woman can actually make a living and pay allllllllllllll of their bills with it she's got to be living pretty sparsely. People, men especially do equate money with power. Turning over the power of the money is a big deal to some men.

Now, as for my own thoughts on the matter and how they apply to me. If a person is MY SLAVE then you damned skippy better bet that I will be controlling, either directly or indirectly, 100% of her assets. Now the vultures can swoop in and make all sorts of wrong assumptions as they have throughout this thread or they can fucking well use their brains........novel concept I am sure. The fact of the matter is, if a person wants to be MY slave, everything they have is MINE. They fucking well know that going into the dealio. They also will know ME and my ethics, my personal morals and how I conduct my life and my business. They will know that BEFORE being MY SLAVE. With all of the velcro and internet collars running around this place I know that is another novel fucking concept. You see, for SOME people, slavery is actually 100% relinquishment of control, not just a cool little moniker so they can fit in with the spiffy crowd. It's not about well, he/she has complete control BUT....... For some people there are no fucking BUTS. Another novel concept and one that the vultures like to have all wrapped up in pretty romantic ribbons so that they can call it something else to feel better about themselves, their own life choices, and what they want.

Just because a person that owns a slave controls the assets does not mean they use them in the manner that the whacko vultures like to assume. I have read about a great many slave owners demanding their slaves use their assets for charitable work. From what little I know of Saharah, I sincerely doubt her slaves, devoted and lovely as they are, support her. I am quite comfortable in saying I believe she takes care of that quite competently all by herself.

There are a lot of relationship examples running around out there and here, that I just don't purely get from my own personal perspective. But that doesn't mean they are wrong or that there isn't validity for the people in them. To shit all over them just because they are not MY THING, is just purely childish and with the impending half century birthday looming, I really cannot pull off too much childish without making a complete fool of myself. If I am going to make a fool of myself, I would rather it be not at someone else's expense. Especially when that someone/s else is displaying the courage of being honest about themselves in the face of petty, childish, twats. And doing so without sinking to the petty childish levels of said twats.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

I am sure there are great caring Doms out there who really do have a subs best interest at heart. It definitely takes time to find out someones true interest.
Just be careful out there, some people have the patience of Jobe and little by little they get into your head, maybe taking months to condition you into doing things you never thought yourself capable of doing. They are cunning charming and sly.

Trust me I know I was just a few days of linking my assets with a Dom who never worked for them. Giving the gift of trust for him but making me a huge dumb dumb. Drop of the hat he could have took my life away as i know it today. So really really really think things through before you act on such a life changing action. A broken heart will mend, but its better to have that then a broken hear, and an empty wallet saying "shit what do i do now????"

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

I am sure there are great caring Doms out there who really do have a subs best interest at heart. It definitely takes time to find out someones true interest.
Just be careful out there, some people have the patience of Jobe and little by little they get into your head, maybe taking months to condition you into doing things you never thought yourself capable of doing. They are cunning charming and sly.

Trust me I know I was just a few days of linking my assets with a Dom who never worked for them. Giving the gift of trust for him but making me a huge dumb dumb. Drop of the hat he could have took my life away as i know it today. So really really really think things through before you act on such a life changing action. A broken heart will mend, but its better to have that then a broken hear, and an empty wallet saying "shit what do i do now????"

I realize that you are wounded whether you took a part in your own wounds or not, but do you really have to make most your posts and threads you join a part of your healing process? You don't like it when people continue to comment on your previous train wreck threads and situation, but you are inviting it by continuing to bring it up from a victim position.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

I am sure there are great caring Doms out there who really do have a subs best interest at heart. It definitely takes time to find out someones true interest.
Just be careful out there, some people have the patience of Jobe and little by little they get into your head, maybe taking months to condition you into doing things you never thought yourself capable of doing. They are cunning charming and sly.

Trust me I know I was just a few days of linking my assets with a Dom who never worked for them. Giving the gift of trust for him but making me a huge dumb dumb. Drop of the hat he could have took my life away as i know it today. So really really really think things through before you act on such a life changing action. A broken heart will mend, but its better to have that then a broken hear, and an empty wallet saying "shit what do i do now????"

I realize that you are wounded whether you took a part in your own wounds or not, but do you really have to make most your posts and threads you join a part of your healing process? You don't like it when people continue to comment on your previous train wreck threads and situation, but you are inviting it by continuing to bring it up from a victim position.

She's actually swung from victim, to "fuck your advice, I'm the uber-slave", back to victim. Credibility has been lost and we're all just waiting for the next swing.