Dom/sub master/slave horror stories

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chatterbox24 -> Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 6:47:39 AM)
Im interested in hearing about others bad experiences with past relationships. What went wrong? What was asked of you? How did you feel? Anything you want to include really.

LoreBook -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 6:58:08 AM)
Basically I blew it. I concentrated far too much on gratifying her particular kinks and fantasies and on her in-the-moment happiness, and in doing so I neglected her deeper need to serve.

littlewonder -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:00:21 AM)
He cheated, he lied, I kicked him out.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:01:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder He cheated, he lied, I kicked him out. lol that was short and to the point!

littlewonder -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:02:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chatterbox24 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder He cheated, he lied, I kicked him out. lol that was short and to the point! It was a simple decision <shrug>

Kinkymartha -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:04:02 AM)
He decided that the punishment for a 'disobedience' (I had a flashback during play and had to stop everything) was to force me to have anal sex with him for the first time (as punishment, keep in mind) knowing full well I have previously been anally raped during a prologed and violent assault. I told him where he could go.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:09:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kinkymartha He decided that the punishment for a 'disobedience' (I had a flashback during play and had to stop everything) was to force me to have anal sex with him for the first time (as punishment, keep in mind) knowing full well I have previously been anally raped during a prologed and violent assault. I told him where he could go. I am so sorry to hear that, but Im so glad you arent there anymore. Unbeleiveable, the things people are capable of.

DarkSteven -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:10:22 AM)
I told her to quit smoking. She told me she had when she really hadn't and when I found out, she blamed someone else for smoking around her and tempting her. Another sub disagreed with my decision to punish her and told two other parties in YM that I shouldn't have done it and that I should have found out the reason she took an OD instead of punishing her.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:13:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I told her to quit smoking. She told me she had when she really hadn't and when I found out, she blamed someone else for smoking around her and tempting her. Another sub disagreed with my decision to punish her and told two other parties in YM that I shouldn't have done it and that I should have found out the reason she took an OD instead of punishing her. What kind of punishment? She took an Overdose? Im not understanding what happened.

DarkSteven -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 7:41:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chatterbox24 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I told her to quit smoking. She told me she had when she really hadn't and when I found out, she blamed someone else for smoking around her and tempting her. Another sub disagreed with my decision to punish her and told two other parties in YM that I shouldn't have done it and that I should have found out the reason she took an OD instead of punishing her. What kind of punishment? She took an Overdose? Im not understanding what happened. Very dysfunctional but I thought I could fix her. She didn't like an ex-sub of mine and demanded that I get her out of my life. I refused and she took pills. She evidently thought she had a legit gripe, but the OD was out of line. Period. I punished her instantly (an extremely hard spanking coupled with a furious lecture) and was wondering if/how I could control the relationship when I found she'd trashed me in Messenger, and out she went.

Hillwilliam -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:03:54 AM)
About 8 years ago, I was mentoring a sub long distance and she went against my advice on a meet with someone and ended up being gang raped and badly beaten. Fortunately, I knew someone in her hometown who was a kink friendly counselor. It took about a year before she was semi stable. Calling a counselor 800 miles away and telling them to call 911 and get an ambulance to someone's house because on the other line you have someone who is nodding off from an OD is no damn fun. The good news is that she is now in a stable relationship. And people wonder why I refuse to have anything to do with LDR's any more. [8\|]

bighappygoth39 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:14:33 AM)
Him assaulting me pretty much ended my worst relationship, if I can even call it that. His vile actions had slowly alerted me to the fact that he wasn't actually a sub at all, but even at the age I was at, I didn't want to face up to the reality. It proved to me that you can make huge mistakes even when you think you're too old to, but it also made me perfectly sure what sort of person I never wanted to be with ever again. We live and learn. [:)]

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:25:46 AM)
Every experience in life takes us closer to knowing our true self. THe most painful ones are the biggest lessons and unfortunately the ones we learn from the most.

tj444 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:31:20 AM)
I learned to qualify better.. one persons idea about paddling but not extreme can be very different from my idea about it.. now there is no way in hell any guy will subject me to pain of any type or degree.. I learned that being the wrong Dom's slave sucks and now i will never give anyone that amount of control over me (no where near).. And,.. since said Dom also barefaced lied to me about him seeing someone else,.. I walked away and have had nothing to do with him since..

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:39:23 AM)
I had no idea I wanted to submit until meeting my dom. My experience showed me it can be a beuatiful experience, a scarey experience, a dangerous experience, and an absolute learning experience. There is nothing to me more satisfying, content, peaceful, inspiring then total trust. I really wanted that once I understood the concept and reasoing behind it. The journey of finding someone like that is like finding a needle in a haystack. Its like finding a dream relationship. SOmeone you are attracted too, someone who knows you inside and out, someone who cares for your well being, somoene who matches your values, someone who has the same interests. Im sure people spend their entire lifes trying to find it. Only a lucky few really get it.

tameeks -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:47:27 AM)
Welll... I'm only on my second D/s relationship (and hope to not have to find another one anytime soon), my first Dom was an ass, however, he never got the chance to "do" anything to me because I got out before he could complete his diabolical plan. I just thank Gawd he was smart (stupid?) enough to tell me his plan in advance of doing anything. Basically I was to change my appearance, only have my hair straight instead of curly, I was only allowed to wear french manicure on my hands and toes. I was going to be pimped out, but I wasn't to worry because he would always be there to protect me. It was to start with me caming with him for money, then to me stripping in a club (and he didn't want to hear I was too tired etc when it was time for me to dance), and eventually it would lead to me being given to other men for money. On top of that, I was to bring him $175 each time I got paid... Oh, and bring him a macciato (sp?) from Starbucks to his job every morning. The night of this speech was the very last night of our relationship. Oh yes, and I forgot, I was to put him first above all else, including my daughter and Mom. Ummm what asshat? You must be out of your rabbit assed mind. Not gonna happen fuckface. Mind you, I told him in the beginning that I am not to be shared with anyone, I won't whore myself out for anyone. I would have to be in dire straits to even consider stripping or selling my body, and even then my DAUGHTER will be the one to benefit from it (monetarily). I damn sure ain't doing it for a man. Nope, not gonna happen, no fucking way.

mnottertail -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 8:58:36 AM)
the french manicure idea was a winner though hah? bet you would look good in that too. my horror story is we (when there was a we) got dressed up for halloween.

tameeks -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 9:05:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail the french manicure idea was a winner though hah? bet you would look good in that too. my horror story is we (when there was a we) got dressed up for halloween. Ha! You are correct. It does look good on me. I've since started to use colors instead of just white. I got fancy with it! hahaha I'm just glad my Dom now LOVES my curly hair. He loves that I'm not one of those women who has a fit about him touching my hair. :D

LaTigresse -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 9:26:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LoreBook Basically I blew it. I concentrated far too much on gratifying her particular kinks and fantasies and on her in-the-moment happiness, and in doing so I neglected her deeper need to serve. This is the closest I can come to a horror story also. I had to learn it's okay to be me.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom/sub master/slave horror stories (2/29/2012 9:58:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LoreBook Basically I blew it. I concentrated far too much on gratifying her particular kinks and fantasies and on her in-the-moment happiness, and in doing so I neglected her deeper need to serve. DOes this mean you were not firm enough, giving direction and commands?

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