DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: ScoutsHonor My question is, would XXX be topping from the bottom, because that's something I really don't want to do, even on accident. Katie, you're a sweet girl. But this sentence worries me. 1. You're relying on an EXTERNAL rule. A Dom who referenced an external rule would be IMO weak. Let me explain. If your Dom were to say that he doesn't want you wearing jeans and wants you to wear skirts and dresses, that's HIS rule. If he says the exact same thing and then explains it because it's illegal in Iran, then he's referencing someone else's rules. If he says that XXX is TFTB, then he's referencing someone else's rules, not his own. 2. You will screw up by accident. It's gonna happen. Breaking rules deliberately is a serious thing. Breaking them accidentally is not. Focusing on the small stuff and not the big stuff, isn't healthy. Finally, with respect to the issue itself - you GOTTA share. If you don't, then you'll keep thinking, "He's not doing this properly", because in your mind you'll be holding him responsible for the entire relationship without any input from you. It takes two to make a relationship work, D/s or otherwise. I like the dynamic where both parties say what they want, what they don't want, etc., and then the Dom decides. Katie, welcome to collarme.
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