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Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:11:15 PM

Wulfchyld

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I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Which ever may apply.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:14:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Which ever may apply.

I find them generally unattractive and am put off by the health risks.

But it depends more on the body frame and overall fat factor rather than just "largeness." Especailly in the gay community, big or "bear" type men can be highly sought after as a physical body type.

As always with the happy caveat that of course it's not the ONLY factor I consider.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:16:48 PM

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I think it all depends on how they carry the weight, to me a woman who is in perfect shape and one who is not can look just as good depending on how the weight is carried. Different people are different and different structures wouldn't look right otherwise. Annorexic and seriously obeese are equally unsexy.

For instance I am about six foot tall and roughly 240 pounds. Granted I could stand to loose quite a few pounds but if I went all the way down to say 190-200 my body simply wouldn't look right. I don't say this simply because I have always seen myself in the mirror big and never seen myself slim, but simply how my body is shaped I wouldn't look right. If I had to venture a guess somewhere between 210-220 would look just about right.

In the mean time I'm big and furry and some chicks dig the big teddy bearness

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:28:25 PM

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I've never had a super sized Dom, but Himself is definitely a big teddy bear, hair and all. I have played with lots of bottoms who have been everything from very petite to extremely obese and there are always pro's and con's to both sides. For me, attitude is everything and I'd rather play with someone who's a hell of a lot of fun than someone who is always angry at the world..

When I say that size 'does' matter.. I'm taking about 'men' and a certain area within a certain region of the body.. and it ain't above the waist.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:32:17 PM

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I most prefer the teddy bear type myself, not obese, but stocky built....

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:42:09 PM

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Im a fan of the bear shape for certain head spaces. Daddy dom for instance, for me, just works well on a bear. Put me in a gay club on a dance floor, surrounded by bears, im one happy little1. Never met a attractive heterosexual bear yet, so couldnt say if id get the same little1 space, from a straight guy. Dunno. And ive never played with a bear, this is all inside my imagination of fantasy. But hey, just coz i didnt get what i wanted, doesnt mean i dont know what i want.

The obese person. Nope, sorry, im not doing Princess Leigh to Jabba the Hut role play for anyone. Ewwww. But that's just me.

As a play partner. Rubenesque women are hot in my book. All curves and so so soft. mmmmmmm and sub, yeah, gotta be sub. And lovely big breasts - just gorgeous.

Im a 6 foot female. I feel 'large' at times. Im of the thin variety. I do have extra weight on, but im so tall it dont show. In order for me to get to 'little1' space, i have to 'feel' small. Larger framed, males do this for me. My Sir is also tall and thin. He doesnt fit my fantasy of Daddy Dom. So we employ other tricks to get me there. But his height over me does. So id say there are more ways to be large, than weight. Height is a alternative to size for me. And like Wolf says, its how you carry it.
Because i am larger than the average female, i realise, consistantly, how i am 'stronger' physically. Larger people therefor equal stronger people in my fucked up head. And strong, is a aphrodisiac in my world.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:44:37 PM

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quote:

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

It depends on if they are 'large' as in muscle or 'large' as is fat. If they are muscle big and healthy, I am all over them [males], {wipes drool off keyboard}; if they are fat as in overweight and they don't take care of themself, I feel bad for them that they don't have the self-control.
They are addicted to food, and thats just as bad as someone who is addicted to heroin or cigies or alcohol. I look at is as another addiction and I won't go there again. I married and divorced one addict, I won't go through that hell with another. I love my child an myself too much to do that.

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How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

{see above} If they are muscle I think 'wow', good for her/him. If they are obese as in 'fat' I feel bad, but then I look at them as another addict.

Sorry to be so brutally honest; but that's the only way I know how to be.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:46:30 PM

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My sub is 6' 4 and 250lbs I love every inch and pound of him. I feel as long as he is healthy and feels good about himself what more I could ask for? I happen to love big guys regardless if they are D or s.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 8:48:46 PM

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No need for an apology rose, honesty is what I am looking for. Thankies.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 9:24:45 PM

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Personally, I read between the lines when I see someone...everyone actually, whether I'm thinking about romantic interest potential or otherwise. In other words, I discriminate everyone equally

lol

To me, someone who is fat shows a lack of control, in their lives, of themselves, their impulses, emotions, etc. People are fat for one of 3 reasons:
1. Genetics
2. Compulsive/emotional eating
3. Pristine laze
I don't care to have any of that in my life. The only one I'd compromise for is the genetics because if I loved the man through and through and his only 'fault' was his weight...I'd be a complete moron to let him go over something so trivial and superficial.

From my experience, the greater majority of fat people are in group 2 or 3, and why in the hell would I wanna deal with those issues?

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 9:34:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.

How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

How do you feel about very large or obese sub/slaves?

Which ever may apply.

I am in great shape, although I think I could lose 10 pounds. I work out at both of my jobs, as well as between them a bunch of times a week. I watch my diet. Etc.

I dont do this for anybody else by myself. I have things I need to do with the time I have been given here, and being in good shape makes it possible to do those things.

Im not sure how I feel about people who dont take care of themselves. They tend, in my mind, to not be sexually attractive to me. But then the most attractive part of a person, to me, is their mind and soul.

Just me, could be wrong, etc.

Sinergy

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 9:55:26 PM

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From a purely visual point of view, 'very big men' don't do anything for me. That's not to say I would totally rule out being with one if the personality was right, just that I don't personally find them attractive.

My Master is 'big' in the sense that he is much taller and stronger than me but he isn't on any count obese. But I am only 5ft1, so most people seem tall and strong to me. I like it, it makes me feel vulnerable or protected as the situation requires and it also means I can pull the 'small and cute' card.
Obesity though is a whole different issue and I would be very very concerned about the health of my partner if he were seriously overweight.

I think it's wonderful when people have self-respect and can love themselves regardless of their weight. It's also great when they can find another person who either prefers that body type, or loves the person inside enough for it to not matter. Even so, the health risk is undeniable and were my partner highly obese I would be talking to him about losing weight purely because I wouldn't want to see his health suffer because of it.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 10:56:50 PM

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I prefer large men. I am very aware that most people who are obese have genetic issues more than lazy issues that they are dealing with, being BBW myself, so I understand the reason behind the fat and choose not to judge by that. A person's physical appearance is generally not what I make choices on though. It's not one's looks, it's their natural dominance that draws me.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 11:15:18 PM

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i am also a bbw... and i love big men... but at 5' almost every one towers over me...lol a larger man makes me look smaller and more delicate .....and that can never be a bad thing...lol and there is nothing any more sexier than a big man that waits on you hand and foot.. there are pros and cons to a big man... i would perfer that he be in porpotion to his body type... and if there some extra ..... well you can call that gravy, icing, or just more to love.....

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 11:23:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
I am curious to get the communities views and very large men.
How do you feel about very large or obese Doms?

See when you title it as Very Big Men, I got all excited as I thought it was about penis size, lol.
I find it interesting though that overweight women are replying that they dislike overweight men. Reminds me of other threads re: overweight subs disliked by overweight Doms, or the reverse, with a twist and every variation. Proves that double standards are not a trait of males only.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 11:25:12 PM

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Given this topic, I had to reply.

I'm 6'8, and 390 lbs basically a straight male Teddy Bear Sadist, and while there are some people that may be turned off by my size, there have been many more who find my size to be a distinct feature. Somehow I seem to end up playing with women over 6 foot tall.. Imagine that. *grins*.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/3/2006 11:46:53 PM

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i don't look disproportionate (at least i don't think so - and all of my pictures are recent ;)), but i am well above the recommended weight for my height. obesity runs in my family and i'm doing my best to NOT end up at the same weight range as some of my family members. however, i don't think it's right to consider all obese people to be addicts, as not only genetics but a host of other things can contribute to obesity - thyroid problems, etc. also, some of my more recent weight gain has very little to do with what i eat (less than i was before) and a lot to do with stress (eating less and exercising more since my parents died has caused me to gain 20 lbs in 6 months...i don't think so). so weight gain or loss of any sort doesn't necessarily always have to do with whether or not a person is addicted to food.

i'm very much attracted by men and women who are taller and larger than myself, because i like feeling small. i've always wanted to be shorter and smaller, especially shorter (and i'm only 5'3" now). He is only a few inches taller than i am but it doesn't bother me - i don't tend to let physical appearance get in the way of anything. i may be more physically attracted at first to certain body types...i find bbw who carry their weight proportionately and are confident in themselves to be an ABSOLUTE turn-on...i find tall, somewhat burly men a turn-on...but the few women i have been with have all been around my size, usually smaller, and most of the men i have been with have either been shorter or of a smaller build than what i find ideally attractive. to me, whether or not someone is attractive has very little to do with their weight, so i place little importance on physical attraction.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 12:45:37 AM

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Personally I take good care of myself. I workout often, I hike and camp. Sometimes I go on archaeological digs, which requires a degree of fitness believe it or not. It is important to me that whomever I am with has a connection with fitness and exercise, however he stays in shape. A few pounds overweight truly doesnt bother me, in fact like a little meat on my Dom, he doesnt have to be Lance Armstrong... But he should be fit in an age appropriate way. I run almost daily, and I do yoga, and I am increasing my flexibilty even though I am in my late 30s. I work hard to make the person in my life proud to be with me and increase his pleasure by having a fit and flexible body... I do not think it is wrong for me to want someone that wants to stay fit with me.

I want someone that has more self discipline than I do or at least as much discipline as I do. That includes eating healthy and exercising regularly... this takes discipline.. a lot of it too... and if I was with someone that didnt have it I would wonder if they could discipline me.But if my Lover was injured or became disabled some other way I would still stay. If he gained weight I would not find him less attractive as it is what is between the ears that matters the most to me. To a certain degree physical attraction plays a part in forming a connection to someone,... it is what is inside of that person that keeps you there and commited.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 12:53:32 AM

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Not everyone who is overweight is addicted to food. Hypothyroidism can make one overweight as well.

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RE: Very Big men D or s - 6/4/2006 1:04:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie

Personally, I read between the lines when I see someone...everyone actually, whether I'm thinking about romantic interest potential or otherwise. In other words, I discriminate everyone equally lol

To me, someone who is fat shows a lack of control, in their lives, of themselves, their impulses, emotions, etc. People are fat for one of 3 reasons:
1. Genetics
2. Compulsive/emotional eating
3. Pristine laze
I don't care to have any of that in my life. The only one I'd compromise for is the genetics because if I loved the man through and through and his only 'fault' was his weight...I'd be a complete moron to let him go over something so trivial and superficial.

From my experience, the greater majority of fat people are in group 2 or 3, and why in the hell would I wanna deal with those issues?

Julia & Timeout......

Excellent posts, both of you. And I agree with both the laziness and genetics. Some of born with poor genes, where they'll just have to work harder to stay fit; while others are just plain lazy. And in my book, a lazy partner is no fun at all.

- R

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