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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker



I spoke to her about this and laid out the rules (9am-1pm work time, hour break, 2pm-4pm work, then off for the rest of the day)and the penalty for breaking them (spanking with various implements, corner time etc), and thought everything would be fine. The next day she KEPT coming into my office for no reason, but I screwed up, because I didn't keep to my own rules. Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
I would never walk into my Master's home office and unplug his computer while he is working to seek attention. Not merely because it would anger him, but because it is rude and selfish. It doesn't sound as if she respects you at all.

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker

Have you ever seen a parent tell their child not to do something, then watched the child look right at them and do it anyways?

In the last relationship I was in, my kitten had come from a string of horrendously abusive relationships and therefore equated being beaten savagely with being loved. I didn't realize this at first, and just thought she was causing trouble for troubles sake. I work from home, so I was always around her, but I still needed my space to work effectively (because I CAN'T get any work done with her wigglin' around).

I spoke to her about this and laid out the rules (9am-1pm work time, hour break, 2pm-4pm work, then off for the rest of the day)and the penalty for breaking them (spanking with various implements, corner time etc), and thought everything would be fine. The next day she KEPT coming into my office for no reason, but I screwed up, because I didn't keep to my own rules. Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.

I told a friend my situation and he suggested "Maintenance Discipline", essentially discipline for the sake of discipline, so that things don't get out of hand.

It worked 110%, and instantly fixed my situation. Routine is important, since it gives a sense of solidarity, so the maintenance was always at the same time. Hopefully this helps someone like it did me.

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

Child and parent.. not really an adult relationship -- not my cup of tea but perhaps it is for others...

the behavior is completely childish... and to my mind, ridiculous, attention seeking, grounds for ending the relationship...but hey that's me...

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker

Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.

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Were it me with a submissive that did that, the repercussions would NOT include giving him more attention. It would be something that he would NOT like and it would NOT involve giving him any further attention until after the discipline was finished. Then after the discipline time was over, we'd discuss what he learned, if anything, from it and how he would insure that the behavior would not be repeated. If he kept repeating it after that, he would be shown the door.

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker
Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker

I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.