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Just what is safer today? - 4/6/2012 5:49:59 PM   
FlGirlSeeksOwner


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Status: offline 		Hello All,
i have met a Dom that i am interested in, but find that he is has had unprotected sex with seveal women recently.
He is ok with using a condom for safer sex for sex, but not for BJ's.. any suggestions?
Also anyone have any knowledge on how safe ana worship and drinking pee is for STD's?
Thanks
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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/6/2012 8:11:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I would use barriers for every activity involving an exchange of anything wet that isn't yours: pee, precum, ejaculate (male or female), blood and even saliva (no analingus without a barrier).

Your dom's problem w/condoms for oral sex is a cop-out, and he needs educating. Say, for instance, you are Hep B positive (many people are without their knowledge) and happened to have flossed too hard that day so there are trace amounts of blood in your mouth. Say, for instance, he happened to have picked up chlamydia and HPV from one of his various unprotected encounters last week and HIV from another. He may not know he has them yet. Oh, one of those women also gave him a UTI from the e-coli she got after licking his butt without a barrier, then sucking his unprotected cock. You two have unprotected oral. So your blood-borne Hep B goes up his chlamydia, HIV, HPV and e-coli-irritated urethral tissues and takes hold there. His chlamydia, e-coli, papilloma-laden precum and/or ejaculate settle nicely in the broken mucous membrane around your flossed gum, as well as down your throat, which is raw and tissue-compromised from a hacking cough from your allergies. Bing, bang, boom...two people, one unprotected encounter, 6 STIs exchanged, 3 of which can only be managed, NOT CURED, with medication.

Personally, I would not engage with a person that showed so little regard for protecting his partners and himself, and would take a pass altogether. But if you insist on proceeding I'd add: 'fine, no barriers, no oral or butt-licking for you, sparky. We can always just go to a movie.'





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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/7/2012 1:33:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd tell him if he wants the blowjob, wear a condom. Simple. If he really wants one, he'll agree.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/7/2012 10:35:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, well MDA certainly covered everything. I wanted to add that after reading the OP my immediate thought was to stay away from someone with this attitude of being so cavalier about their own health and ultimately the health of anyone they encounter.

I'm assuming he's around your age which should mean he knows better, and actually at that age with his admission that he has unprotected sex, I'd assume that he's got something lurking about in his body somewhere. He didn't just start having unprotected sex, these aren't his only encounters, and if he's had several recently then he's had exponentially more in his past. Sounds like someone to stay away from, just my opinion.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/7/2012 11:30:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Two words for you sweetie...

Pin Worms.

Google it, get grossed out and make him wear a fucking condom or drop him altogether for being such a jackass to refuse one.

YOU are responsible for your health. Own it and handle it accordingly.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/7/2012 12:51:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ummm, I was in the middle of lunch when I read that.

Lost my appetite.

OP, I forgot to mention: to stay safe, assume everyone is a walking Petri dish, and protect yourself accordingly.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/8/2012 12:08:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		MissDA, you left out HSV1 and 2 which can cross types. If the OP had a cold-sore starting where she flossed she could give him that also, or he could have contracted it with one of the other women and pass it on to the OP through bareback oral (to either person's genitals) or mouth kissing.


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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/8/2012 12:24:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Ummm, I was in the middle of lunch when I read that.

Lost my appetite.

OP, I forgot to mention: to stay safe, assume everyone is a walking Petri dish, and protect yourself accordingly.



Sorry about that...hope it wasn't noodles :)

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/10/2012 4:09:40 PM   
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Personally, I would not engage with a person that showed so little regard for protecting his partners and himself, and would take a pass altogether.


Another reason to pass - Florida was # 2 for new AIDS cases in 2009 and Miami was the # 1 city in 2008.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/10/2012 8:43:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucifyre


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Ummm, I was in the middle of lunch when I read that.

Lost my appetite.




Sorry about that...hope it wasn't noodles :)


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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/11/2012 12:50:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucifyre

Two words for you sweetie...

Pin Worms.

Google it, get grossed out and make him wear a fucking condom or drop him altogether for being such a jackass to refuse one.

YOU are responsible for your health. Own it and handle it accordingly.

Lucifyre

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/11/2012 5:25:07 AM   
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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/12/2012 3:14:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lol I like what DarkSteven said..... and for general information, I am aware of a woman who had unprotected sex once ... the first time she had sex, and contracted AIDS and died. From having sex once! Makes you think doesn't it?
And this is the daughter of someone i work with. Very sad.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/14/2012 12:01:01 PM   
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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/16/2012 7:46:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FlGirlSeeksOwner

Hello All,
i have met a Dom that i am interested in, but find that he is has had unprotected sex with seveal women recently.
He is ok with using a condom for safer sex for sex, but not for BJ's.. any suggestions?
Also anyone have any knowledge on how safe ana worship and drinking pee is for STD's?
Thanks



Suggestions, sure, go find someone who has respect for his own health and the health of his subs or stick with him and make sure you have decent health coverage.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/16/2012 10:18:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FlGirlSeeksOwner

Hello All,
i have met a Dom that i am interested in, but find that he is has had unprotected sex with seveal women recently.
He is ok with using a condom for safer sex for sex, but not for BJ's.. any suggestions?
Also anyone have any knowledge on how safe ana worship and drinking pee is for STD's?
Thanks



I'm not a sub but I'm a woman and a guy who's playing Russian roulette with his health? I hope you're not that desperate that you actually consider even shaking his hand, far less sucking on anything that is his.


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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/17/2012 8:58:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FlGirlSeeksOwner

Hello All,
i have met a Dom that i am interested in, but find that he is has had unprotected sex with seveal women recently.
He is ok with using a condom for safer sex for sex, but not for BJ's.. any suggestions?
Also anyone have any knowledge on how safe ana worship and drinking pee is for STD's?
Thanks



You've gotten excellent advice, and I'd like to add one more piece about what I bolded above.

How did you find this out? Was he up-front with you about this information, or did he only disclose his previous behavior after you had to question it a lot?

His willingness to be up-front and disclose that is important about him as a good, safe partner IMO.

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/17/2012 11:22:44 AM   
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You've gotten excellent advice, and I'd like to add one more piece about what I bolded above.

How did you find this out? Was he up-front with you about this information, or did he only disclose his previous behavior after you had to question it a lot?

His willingness to be up-front and disclose that is important about him as a good, safe partner IMO.


I'd agree that his willingness to disclose rather unsavory material is a good point on his behalf, but overall I don't think I'd say he was a safe partner based on his cavalier attitude with his own health. Doesn't really say he'd be too concerned with hers...

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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/17/2012 11:56:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Killerangel


quote:

ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

You've gotten excellent advice, and I'd like to add one more piece about what I bolded above.

How did you find this out? Was he up-front with you about this information, or did he only disclose his previous behavior after you had to question it a lot?

His willingness to be up-front and disclose that is important about him as a good, safe partner IMO.


I'd agree that his willingness to disclose rather unsavory material is a good point on his behalf, but overall I don't think I'd say he was a safe partner based on his cavalier attitude with his own health. Doesn't really say he'd be too concerned with hers...


Agreed.



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RE: Just what is safer today? - 4/17/2012 12:23:12 PM   
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