I had an experience by CMail that vaguely annoyed me. Thought I'd share and see if anyone else had run into the same thinking.
In my profile I list myself as a switch because, well, I'm a switch. I love being on both sides of the kneel. As far as my "Looking for" I list submissive women and switch women, but not dominant women. I explain in my profile that although I might be a fit for some dominant women, in general I don't think I'd be a good candidate for a relationship with a Domme.
So recently I got this CMail which basically said "If you don't want to be with a dominant then why do you list yourself as a switch? You're really a dominant". I guess the person figured that since I was interested in sub women (implying I'm good with being the dominant all the time) I wasn't "really" a switch. Now I've got my reasons for being okay with starting a relationship with a sub but not a dom, but they're not really relevant to this conversation. What I'm wondering is if other switches get hit with the "You're not really a swtich, you're a dom/sub" because they don't list dom, sub, and switch in their "looking for"? That seems overly restrictive to me. Thoughts?
My thoughts: I generally don't give a shit about random strangers who offer up unsolicited opinions, because the opinions generally have little to do about you, and almost everything to do about them. By and large, the only reason someone would bother to write to you about this is because they trying to get something from you -- a reaction, a change of perspective so you will meet their needs, whatever. Remember: Putting up a profile here isn't an invitation for every wackoff to critique your values, needs, and desires.