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ORIGINAL: subbyinlosangele

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ORIGINAL: forcedsensuality

Alecta,

There were no rules in her profile about how to address her.

I stuck to her other rules, pretty much giving her all the info she wanted
(and these requirements seemed reasonable enough)

so she ignored what i had included, the stuff she said she wanted.

But this "how i wish to be addressed" was all the reply i got.
Then she ignored my reasonably-toned follow up inquiries.

I finally pointed out that i thought this was a bit unreasonable.
But she ignored (unread) seven messages before blocking me.

I've seen a friend's rejection letters from publishers. They are much more polite and helpful and somewhat encouraging, even if they are standard letter responses.

I enjoy being rude to people but only if they've been awfully rude to me first and so I'm a little bit justified .. i hadn't got to being rude with this person yet .. still trying to be reasonable..

People that change the rules all the time scare me, .. arbitrary, unpredictable, no rhyme or reason, not sexy

(oh well, just one example, but it could have been fun on Judge Judy)

Look at it this way: You sent an unsolicited email to a domme. The domme wrote back and said she didn't like the email you wrote.

I don't know why you assume that one exchange means the woman is morally or ethically required to respond to subsequent emails or to engage in a conversation you if she doesn't wish to.

You, after all, were the one who sent unsolicited email after email after email after email after email after email after email to a woman who had not in anyway encouraged these efforts. I am not surprised she blocked you -- you were pestering her.

She doesn't owe you an explanation or formal rejection letter. She didn't owe you anything, and it's hubris on your part to think she did, just as it's hubris to declare categorize your missives as "reasonably toned." There is nothing reasonable about bombarding a stranger who has shown no interest in communicating with you with seven emails. Your whole account of the exchange reeks of a sense of self-entitlement. The only surprising to me is that she didn't block you sooner.

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ORIGINAL: Alecta

How does publishers' rejection letters come into this? lol Publishers reject the work, not the author. They are delicate and polite because maybe someday you will come back with something they could be interested in and they don't want to have already salted the earth. Sorry, in this instance she is rejecting you the person, not the "work", and she doesn't care if you come back.

Maybe you don't realise, seven messages after she's indicated she doesn't want to hear from you would probably be considered harassment by Judge Judy :p