|
Lucifyre -> RE: What Bugs You Re: Dommes & What Do You Like? (4/24/2012 9:05:10 AM)
|
NBMG,
This one is a difficult one for me to answer. I kind of get into a sub frenzy with women because of all the things I love about our "fairer" sex (if you knew what I did for a living you'd understand the quotes LOL)
*disclaimer* When I say "YOU* in this post, it is in the general sense, not directed at anyone in particular and it is also not just directed at women, so please don't anyone get their buttplug in a burr.
Don't likes:
Women who think they're too good for anyone. Everyone has all the same bodily functions. Even if you don't usually wear any, your panties still go on only one leg at a time just like everyone else. What you do in life does not make you better, just different.
Women who act like the rest of the world owes them something. It's one thing to be dominant, it's entirely another to expect everyone to submit or act like you expect it.
Bad hygene. I can deal with unshaven whatever, hair grows and sometimes we just don't have the chance or feel like running sharp steele across skin but if you stink, fuck off. The groin and armpit areas should always be a NO FLY ZONE!
Rudeness, especially in public. I waitressed and did nails for quite a few years and ran into many (vanilla) dominant types who thought it was ok to be rude to people providing service. It's not. Ever. Even when that service person is not perfect.
Discriminitory. Negative commentary regarding someones racial, sexual or gender orientation is NOT OK with me. People are what they are and they were born or are wired that way and for someone to feel it is ok to be snide about those things is ignorant and bigoted and just well...an asshole that doesn't deserve to speak IMO.
This was probably only a partial list, but I feel pretty strongly about the above.
OK, now on to the good stuff:
Women who take care of themselves. I am a sucker for a woman who likes to dress well when going out for an evening. I personally don't own a lot of really nice clothing myself but I wish I did. This goes also along with women who smell and taste good. Sweats and t shirts are ok, even in public sometimes, but out on a date...fucking impress me cuz I'm sure going to dress for you.
Women who like to grab a handful of hair and tell me all the evil things they plan to do once they have me bound and helpless...and then proceed to do them. I could go on with a very long list of kinks but that's a good start hehe. (hello Mind, meet Gutter)
Women who respect limits and constantly check in with me especially during the get to know me phase of a relationship. Limits are not uhh...limited to things that happen during a scene. I am not a mindreader and I suspect none of you are either so until we are BOTH sure of eachother or at least know eachother well enough to spot nonverbal ques it's a good idea to keep the communication flowing.
Women who enjoy a mindfuck just as much as a physical one. Please, by all means, get into my head, I like you there tormenting me <grin>
Women who understand and respect that my fears are real, they are hard limits and not EVER to be fucked with because if those lines get crossed that is the END of the relationship, then and there. I am happy to share them if you're interested in getting to know me personally, but otherwise they aren't relevant (for those of you who are asking)
Women who want to be a part of my *whole* life, not just bits and pieces. I am a complicated little flower with many petals and leaves and stem (onions stink so I don't wanna be an onion LOL) This lifestyle is part of my life but it's only one of the pieces that make me a whole person. If you just want my kink we can play on occasion but we won't get past aquaintances.
Again, only a partial list...but I ain't writing a book. (maybe I should)
BTW, the above goes both ways. I hold myself to all those things as well.
Lucifyre
|
|
|
|
