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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 10:29:55 AM

mydestiny2043

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ORIGINAL: NCSilverWolves

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ORIGINAL: becca333

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

All the easier to use the magnifying glass.

Warning........Never read something like that when you have a mouth full of coffee

it's not a pretty picture

and I'll be blowing coffee out of my nose for the rest of the day.But OMG it was worth it ROFLMBO.
I'll excuse myself now and go clean up my mess and perhaps think about investing in a bib for occasions such as this

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 10:37:23 AM

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Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken.

The problem is, I can go right now and make a screenname and assert myself as a dominant. It doesn't, however, make me one. How can you honestly expect someone to just take the word of a complete stranger in this v/t world and acknowledge they are anything other than human? Are you suggesting that someone should be taken at face value and if they say they are a dominant, they should be believed and respected and acknowledged as such?

Why?

When that question can be answered, then I'll begin to take these sorts of posts seriously. Until then, how I handle my email box is my own business.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 11:01:33 AM

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what Celeste said..

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 11:12:40 AM

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I show respect to A/all unless I'm disrespected, After that All's Fair...

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 11:26:58 AM

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I have been in this lifestyle a long time too and its not only sub/slaves with no respect but also Dom/mmes. I also notice that manners aren't really high on both list either.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 11:43:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

I save my respect and courtesy for my real time encounters.
It's a small reserve and I'd hate to use it all up on online wankers and not have any left for the nice little old man next door who needs help carrying in his groceries.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 2:27:21 PM

OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY
but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM

Just because someone says they're a Dom, doesn't mean they are.

Basically, however you act towards me, is how I'm going to react towards you. So, if you're acting like an arrogant jackass, then I'm going to treat you like an idiot. If you're polite, I will be polite.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 3:59:27 PM

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My sub shows respect to all Doms/Dommes online and offline until they give her a reason not too. As far as answering emails, that is up to her, especially if it against something she states in her profile.

She was taught that many years ago when she started in the lifestyle and has stuck to it. On the other hand, I expect the Dom/Dommes to be polite to her too.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 4:07:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: becca333

I think respect should be shown to everyone, sub, Dom or whatever. And emails should be given a polite response unless they're from obvious trolls.

Bravo Becca! (Like a Dom should get more respect than me? Nope, not unless he's my Dom!)

Respectfully,
Irish

< Message edited by irishbynature -- 6/5/2006 4:11:45 PM >

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 4:10:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

The smiley here says it all....YAWN!
LOL

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 4:24:04 PM

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I don't call people Ma'am on here, nor Sir, nor Master, nor Mistress.

I don't do any weird caps rule.

I don't even pretend to give a rat's ass about whether someone is Dom or sub.

I'm here to exchange ideas, make friends, and maybe find someone to housebreak me.

If you show me (and the general community here) that either you're willing to learn, or that you know what it's all about and are willing to learn, I'll show you respect.

If not, tough luck for you.

Don't like it? You can dress up as a fire hydrant for Hallowe'en.

Yours,

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 4:30:40 PM

Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

Maybe they dont do miniatures?

Sinergy

p.s. no disrespect intended, but it was such an easy target...

< Message edited by Sinergy -- 6/5/2006 4:31:56 PM >

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 4:34:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

I show respect to A/all unless I'm disrespected, After that All's Fair...

Hello A/all,

I find the best revenge is to kill disrespectful people with politeness and respect.

What ends up happening, especially if there are other people around, is it penetrates their grey matter that they look like a
profound doofus to all and sundry.

Be nice, until its time to not be nice. -Patrick Swayze, Road House

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:08:15 PM

sabswife

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I don't call people Ma'am on here, nor Sir, nor Master, nor Mistress.

I don't do any weird caps rule.

I don't even pretend to give a rat's ass about whether someone is Dom or sub.

I'm here to exchange ideas, make friends, and maybe find someone to housebreak me.

If you show me (and the general community here) that either you're willing to learn, or that you know what it's all about and are willing to learn, I'll show you respect.

If not, tough luck for you.

Don't like it? You can dress up as a fire hydrant for Hallowe'en.

Yours,

benji

Sorry--just made me giggle.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:11:14 PM

BitaTruble

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I find the best revenge is to kill disrespectful people with politeness and respect.

If only that really worked. It's my experience it just encourages them to continue their ways because they have the mistaken belief that being polite just means that you are exactly what they think you are.. someone whom they can walk all over and treat like trash because you are 'just' a slave, 'just' a woman etc and a polite response is the same as consent to them. I find the block feature to be much more useful.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:13:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

OMG, you crack me up

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:24:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I don't call people Ma'am on here, nor Sir, nor Master, nor Mistress.

I don't do any weird caps rule.

I don't even pretend to give a rat's ass about whether someone is Dom or sub.

I'm here to exchange ideas, make friends, and maybe find someone to housebreak me.

If you show me (and the general community here) that either you're willing to learn, or that you know what it's all about and are willing to learn, I'll show you respect.

If not, tough luck for you.

Don't like it? You can dress up as a fire hydrant for Hallowe'en.

Yours,

benji

Bravo benji

I'm just me on here, the good, the bad and the ugly. I give respect when it's earned and in general am courteous to people unless they obviously, to me, don't deserve even that. How someone treats or acts towards me is how I am to them in return.

I'm definitely not dressing up as a fire hydrant for Halloween....watersports aren't my thing

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:32:13 PM

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It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL

The fact is, you're not due any more respect or common courtesy than the next guy just because you say you're "DOM". Though it is a BDSM site, there is no protocol regarding dominant/submissive interaction or over the response of lack thereof to emails.

Personally, if someone has taken the time to craft a well-thought out and well-written email, s/he will get a response. If it is of the hello, you have DSL's, can I have another pic, do you have a cam, you're awfully pretty you must make your master proud, etc., etc., etc., you will not get the time of day from me.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:46:54 PM

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As one of the few women on this site who does not get inundated with emails on a daily basis, I would like to state that I am always willing to reply with a respectful, courteous response. That doens't mean that I'm going to continue that courtesy if I'm harrassed. But I'm always nice in my initial response.

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RE: "Respect and courtesy" - 6/5/2006 5:48:47 PM

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I don't know, Celeste, I've managed to talk a few people into not responding to me anymore!! Always being very, very polite and courteous.

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