SylvereApLeanan
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ORIGINAL: CougarRick Uhm, it's not just aboyt a sexual desire. I have long felt that I would feel a greater emotional bond with an older woman than I could with someone my own age. In reality, I realize that this is very slim, so I think I'm setting my sights on sex as that is probably the most likely option. Some women may go cougar on a young guy, but I can't see a woman in her late 20's to early 40's wanting to be seen in public with a guy my age, or to invite me to a party at her office. Professional women probably don't like their co-workers making jokes about "babysitting" when they are dating a guy. Don't get me wrong, I would love to meet an older woman who would actually be willing to talk, spend long hours, let me rub her feet...etc, but that is even less likely to happen than sex I imagine. I suspect however that a discrete relationship, where I am her "secret" might be the closest I can get. For personal reasons however, I think I would feel more comfortable if she didn't try to treat me like an equal, but had some kind of authority or control in the relationship. I'm not talking about walking around on a leash or anything, I'm just talking about her being in charge, deciding where we go, when we spend time together, when we have sex, and how and basically doing things on her terms. All of this sounds like you are looking for a longer term, if casual, relationship. I could be wrong, but that's how it comes across to me. If you're willing to be someone's "secret" have you considered an open, honest, polyamorous arrangement with an older woman who has multiple partners? You wouldn't necessarily be her primary partner, but there would at least be some type of emotional bond there. You might also be more likely to find someone willing to engage you as a secondary or tertiary, FWB type of situation than if you approached someone looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship.
< Message edited by SylvereApLeanan -- 5/14/2012 3:44:15 PM >
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