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CougarRick -> Younger subs (5/12/2012 10:00:28 PM)

OK, this is maybe a bit braver than I'm ready for, but since this is just chat I figure this may be a safe place to ask. Does the idea of a large age gap appeal to dommes? Do women ranging from late 20's to early 40's find the idea of a guy who is very young (legal but barely) interesting? Older women have always been a fantasy of mine, dommes maybe a bit intimidating, but I am curious. Is this an appealing thing, or is it a turn off?



LadyConstanze -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 10:35:14 PM)

Dunno how others feel about it, but if somebody could technically be my son I get a bit squicked out...



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 10:38:24 PM)

I have a friend that I call "virgin hunter" that loves the young guys. So, there are women out there, and often they are into the 'mommy dom' thing. Or they just like fresh meat! Most of us really dont want to be with men our children's ages.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 10:42:23 PM)

Well, from your profile it doesn't seem like you are actually looking for a long term relationship with someone.  You want someone to meet your fantasy and take your virginity.  Certainly there are going to be women who are older who would be interested in that, but they aren't likely going to be looking to follow all your "wants" in your profile.  Not that you are looking for something weird, but people (both women and men, but especially dominant women) are not looking to be what is called around here a "fetish delivery system."  In other words, they want to be seen as people, not just a physical being who exists to fufill your fantasies, that's a turn off.



CougarRick -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 11:10:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Well, from your profile it doesn't seem like you are actually looking for a long term relationship with someone.  You want someone to meet your fantasy and take your virginity.  Certainly there are going to be women who are older who would be interested in that, but they aren't likely going to be looking to follow all your "wants" in your profile.  Not that you are looking for something weird, but people (both women and men, but especially dominant women) are not looking to be what is called around here a "fetish delivery system."  In other words, they want to be seen as people, not just a physical being who exists to fufill your fantasies, that's a turn off.




You made this point in my intro thread, however it does not address the question I asked in this one



LadyConstanze -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 11:15:07 PM)

Errr, I had a look at your profile, honestly you aren't doing yourself a favor with it, because upon reading it, I get the impression you really think you're some top prize and dommes should line up to take your virginity in the way you want it. Even if I was into young guys, I wouldn't go near you, you sound dreadfully immature and full of yourself, not a good combo, but that's just me...



CougarRick -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 11:52:32 PM)

Please to meet you too.

Look, it seemed to fit the theme of this place. Either way, I asked a question and you didn't bother to address it but rather came here to tell me what you thought of my profile?

To clarify, actually I don't think I'm some prize at all. I just wanted to come here to discuss my fantasies and meet likeminded people.

If I have ended up on your ignore list, I'm sorry to hear that. I never meant offense

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Errr, I had a look at your profile, honestly you aren't doing yourself a favor with it, because upon reading it, I get the impression you really think you're some top prize and dommes should line up to take your virginity in the way you want it. Even if I was into young guys, I wouldn't go near you, you sound dreadfully immature and full of yourself, not a good combo, but that's just me...




LadyConstanze -> RE: Younger subs (5/12/2012 11:54:47 PM)

I was just telling you what I think about your profile and how I would react to it, thought I am somewhat your "target audience" and that's how it translates to me. What you think you're saying and how it's perceived might not be the same.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 12:01:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CougarRick


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Well, from your profile it doesn't seem like you are actually looking for a long term relationship with someone.  You want someone to meet your fantasy and take your virginity.  Certainly there are going to be women who are older who would be interested in that, but they aren't likely going to be looking to follow all your "wants" in your profile.  Not that you are looking for something weird, but people (both women and men, but especially dominant women) are not looking to be what is called around here a "fetish delivery system."  In other words, they want to be seen as people, not just a physical being who exists to fufill your fantasies, that's a turn off.




You made this point in my intro thread, however it does not address the question I asked in this one


Well, considering I didn't post to your intro thread....

Regardless, I DID address your question.  There is a lid for every pot and so yes, there will be women interested.  What LC and I have tried to point out to you is that your profile is going to cause you some problems in getting what you want. 

If you expected to post your question and have a bunch of women volunterring to take your virginity, well, it isn't likely to happen.

There are women on this site looking for younger men, however, there are more women who aren't interested in someone so young.  There is little common ground between a 40 year old woman and an 18 year old boy.  Little to talk about, little in common.  So you need to have patience and take the time to find a women who doesn't care about those things.

But getting a whiny, pissy attitude on the boards is not going to help you in your quest.



CougarRick -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 1:25:00 AM)

Fair point. I meant to be a bit over the top, but I saw it as more humerous than anything. I generally don't intend to be taken all the seriously.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I was just telling you what I think about your profile and how I would react to it, thought I am somewhat your "target audience" and that's how it translates to me. What you think you're saying and how it's perceived might not be the same.




CougarRick -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 1:53:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Dunno how others feel about it, but if somebody could technically be my son I get a bit squicked out...



Fair enough. I have always been curious about this. I enjoy the power differential when the lady is older, more mature, more assertive and self confident. It's not just the sex, but the general interaction, where she is more in charge of the relationship, in effect "wearing the pants" in the house. The intellectual difference makes for an interesting dynamic.



LadyPact -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 5:25:57 AM)

Another vote for not being interested in anybody young enough to be My son.



Baroana -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 5:55:54 AM)

You seem to be under the mistaken impression that courtesy and communication skills are unimportant, CougarRick. It really doesn't matter how many women are theoretically into you if your attitude turns them off in the first sixty seconds.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 6:20:24 AM)

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Does the idea of a large age gap appeal to dommes?

The honest and simple answer to this question is it does for some and it doesn't for other. Some of us are "mommy dommes" but only deal with those that seem to be stuck in their teen years. Some of us like to train it out of them. Others like to enjoy the youthful attitude many of them carry with them. Still others have no wish to go there at all. As with all "Do dommes like...(fill in the blank)" questions, there is never just one answer.

If you are reallly looking for advice I would suggest filling your profile out a little better. Tell the older woman/women what it is about her/them that you are really attracted to and what it is you believe you have to offer her/them. And I don't just mean with that list on the side. Use you words to convey who and what you really are.

Good luck.



Lockit -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 8:33:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CougarRick


Fair enough. I have always been curious about this. I enjoy the power differential when the lady is older, more mature, more assertive and self confident. It's not just the sex, but the general interaction, where she is more in charge of the relationship, in effect "wearing the pants" in the house. The intellectual difference makes for an interesting dynamic.




What you say right here is gold in being able to use to make a point. Most dominant women don't need age to back them up in feeling any sort of power or confidence. This is something you might feel and that is all well and fine. However a dominant woman tends to expect certain things from a partner and without needing some sort of weakness such as age, to feel our dominance and the power of anything, we aren't really getting the same kick out of it. It isn't your age or lack of anything that we are into. It is what you bring to the situation or relationship and that means, if a younger man wants to be with a healthy adult woman, he might need to be a few steps further in a few things than the average young person. Something about him must stand out. If we are more intelligent and all you have said here, then wouldn't we need more stimulation that just a hot bod that gets a kick out of our age and what comes with it? Just what are we going to get out of the situation?

If you really want a cougar... then you must have something that we can sniff out... that means we feed well. We can have a young hot bod fairly easy. What more can you bring to the situation other than that?

I am sure there are women that enjoy teaching a young man how to please a woman and some that fall deeply in love only to be left as they get a bit further into the age or life (his or hers) and some that expect very little, but the hot young bod... but they are a hard find and far fewer of them than there are young men trying to get them. You need to be pretty darn special in some way to gain their attention.



CougarRick -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 10:31:12 AM)

Have I been discourteous to you?

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

You seem to be under the mistaken impression that courtesy and communication skills are unimportant, CougarRick. It really doesn't matter how many women are theoretically into you if your attitude turns them off in the first sixty seconds.




Baroana -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 10:32:51 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CougarRick

Have I been discourteous to you?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

You seem to be under the mistaken impression that courtesy and communication skills are unimportant, CougarRick. It really doesn't matter how many women are theoretically into you if your attitude turns them off in the first sixty seconds.




You've been a bit snarky on this thread.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 10:42:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I have a friend that I call "virgin hunter" that loves the young guys.


SHHHHHH!!!!! You said you'd never tell anyone my "special" name!

[:D]

Seriously though, the answer to any and every question that boils down to "Are there any people who are into X" is going to be Yes. Yes, there are women who like younger partners. I certainly am one. I can count the number of people to whom I've been attracted and who are my age or older on one hand. All of my best relationships have been with people who are at least 4 years my junior. My husband is 7 years younger than I am and I've been known to date people as much as 15 years younger.

No, women who like younger partners are not always into the "mommy domme" thing. Hard fucking limit for me. I already have 2 kids; I don't want a partner who is childish. I haven't looked at your profile because I don't care. I'm basing my view of you solely on your words in this thread. Maturity is important. You might wish to cultivate some.



MissToYouRedux -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 10:52:51 AM)

I went through my cougar period [8D] , and recently had a wonderful twenty-something sub in my life for a couple of years. Still for me, personally, "legal but barely" is too young, but no worries. You're aging every day. [;)]



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Younger subs (5/13/2012 10:55:23 AM)

Can you really "cultivate" maturity? Or is it a thing that happens?



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