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RE: 24/7 - Gorean, Is it really what I'm looking for? - 6/7/2012 1:52:23 AM

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I'm going to leave the Gorean part alone because those who have that as their personal choice in life and therefore are far more knowledgeable with that aspect than I am. I'll just go with the perspective of if you had come here and asked about a type of culture that I'm more familiar with.

There's very little in your posts here that says to Me that you are in the right place. Not everyone who wants to control other people is necessarily doing it for healthy reasons. I'm surprised that whatever professional that you saw automatically assumed you were sexually Dominant if your sessions were as revealing as you were here. None of which came across to Me in what folks in authority dynamics generally deal with.

If you are running into a pattern of creeping people out, that doesn't mean that you just haven't found the right kind of chick yet. The other possibility is that you are on the path of using force, control, and possessiveness in a way that is being interpreted as abusive.

Like it or not, the truth is that not every person who wants to control others is necessarily just Dominant. It might turn out that you are, but it's coming across that you have a lot of unresolved stuff in there that needs to be taken care of first. The girlfriends, etc, that you are creeping out can't all be wrong.

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RE: 24/7 - Gorean, Is it really what I'm looking for? - 6/9/2012 5:46:33 AM

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If this man is a serial rapist in the making I do not think he would come here and tell everyone!

I have had a problem and rapist do not speak out they just wait and rape!

He needs therapy and bad but to say he is the making of a rapist and or something else is not so as anyone ever known a
rapist I have and live with him, nice as can be and he never let anyone know what his thoughts were!

I maybe wrong on this but they hide they seek, the wait in the dark or daytime and attack!

I have seen many people whom post here and they are the true rapist, there words are full of hate!

I never right all of the time so it is my opinion

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RE: 24/7 - Gorean, Is it really what I'm looking for? - 6/9/2012 7:35:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: halberd388
I love women, LOVE them, in ways that could be considered creepy to most of society. I don't look at them as sexual objects, but as gorgeous wonderful people who are sometimes out of control and need guidance. I see a beautiful woman walking down the street wearing skimpy cloths and most of her naughty parts on display I don't think "Damn, that girl is hot" I think "That girl needs someone to show her how to respect herself and others" and I begin to imagine roping her to a bed, using her sexually like she seemed to be asking for and breaking her will until she's free of the feeling and need to be on display in front of the world and just in front of me.

Umm, she is not asking for that. You just delude yourself that she is asking for that.

We in the Christian countries have an Arthurian-Christian culture: girls are courted by males and provide the opportunity and invitation to be courted and us guys are faithful to them if they give us their favor - and look the other way, and are still faithful to her, if the Divine causes them to be adulterous.

From that perspective your possessiveness and subjective ideas about how a girl should dress, is unhealthy.

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ORIGINAL: halberd388
When I am in a relationship, without THINKING or knowing what I'm doing I tend to control my girlfriends (and ex-fiances) to the point of creeping them out. I tell them how I feel about them and instead of being pleased they are normally creeped out that I think of them as 'mine' and 'belonging to me'... but the word love is just too small, I feel I should protect them and guide them... that's more than what someone who loves you does in my opinion.

So my question is... am I really a dom as I was told by the sex therapist years ago or am I just socially awkward and need to learn better self control over how I think?

In my opinion you are not a dominant. In my opinion all indications in your first post suggest that you are a narcissist.

If so, your ideal mate is a natural slave; not a submissive. She will provide for your narcissistic needs - and, having a conscience and cognitive abilities that narcissists lack, she will be able to guide and counsel you wisely. And do not ever think that you and her have anything in common. As far as each of you is concerned, the other might as well be some incomprehensible alien monster from a far planet.

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