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1st Time with a Strap On - 6/3/2012 1:43:33 PM

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Does any one have any advice for the first time you get taken by your mistress with a Strap On

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/3/2012 7:10:50 PM

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Good lube. Astroglide X is a silicone variant and better than water based imo.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/3/2012 7:50:54 PM

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RS beat Me to it.

Well, that and get off of your butt to make her a sandwich afterward.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/3/2012 7:55:22 PM

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I have recently heard good things about Elbow Grease. I do like Astroglide.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 1:12:10 AM

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So there we have it, Astroglide and a sandwich.

What more does anyone really need to know?

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 5:20:19 AM

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The correct choice of beverage is also important.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 5:23:15 AM

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Hope she's gentle and knows what she's doing.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 5:40:35 AM

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Oh Hilly. You have made me do the silent wheezylaugh! Thanks.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 7:02:20 AM

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Before you bend over and take it like a big boy, do your Mistress a favor and make sure your clean!

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 10:51:25 AM

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RS beat Me to it.

Well, that and get off of your butt to make her a sandwich afterward.

And a napkin.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 12:06:55 PM

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So let me see, if we summarize all we have learned it goes like this:

1. Douche your ass so you are nice and clean
2. Lube up with Astroglide X, the silicone will literally save your ass. Water based lubes are a no-no because they will come up short in a long session.
3. Do not yell "well smack my ass and call me Sally" when she penetrates you.
4. Bend over and take it like a man . . . well, like a male prisoner or Bubba's cellmate.
5. Plan ahead and make her favorite sandwich out of gratitude and to keep her in a good and forgiving mood.
6. Don't forget the napkins and her favorite beverage with that sandwich. Protocol is important. Food without drinks, napkins or the proper utensils is cause for punishment and she will surely rip you a new one.

Anything to add. Let me know if we missed anything. I'm just trying help the guy out. Yo all know me, I'm Mr. Helpful.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 2:04:10 PM

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Never mind, lol

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/4/2012 2:07:37 PM

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Does any one have any advice for the first time you get taken by your mistress with a Strap On

Before using a silicone lube, be certain her strapon dildo isn't also made of silicone...I read somewhere that silicone lube will mess up a silicone toy.

My advice? Buy diffeent lubes and put some on a finger and insert your finger in your anus. This is just to get some lube up there, to see if you have any problems with the lube. My boy's ass goes on fire in a bad way with almost every lube we have tried. Silicone has been okay, but as for the water soluble ones...all of them hurt him and so I just use (be prepared to laugh) Crisco. LOL.

I don't use a strapon on him yet, but an attachment on our Hitachi. At this time, I prefer a hands on approach for ass play most of the time, and the Hitachi only some of the time. I do gentle anal massage first to relax him there before plunging anything inside...but then, I'm nice...and do not just grab him by the hair and f*ck him while he's tightly clenched and without lube.

Other advice...ask her if you may wear a butt plug for a while beforehand to help loosen you up. She may say no, if she wants you to feel more violated and gets a kick from all that taking your virginity thing while you scream a little.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 12:35:24 PM

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Thanks for the advice especially about the sandwiches and napkins

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 12:38:02 PM

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We are givers here.

Actual sandwich details are personal of course. Last night I had a most excellent sandwich of roasted red peppers, hot soppressata and provolone cheese. On white toast, with butter. Butter is essential.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 12:57:12 PM

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What, no Casu marzu?

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 1:08:04 PM

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I have never had the chance!

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 3:13:20 PM

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Add that to your Amazon list?

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 3:36:33 PM

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I need to bookmark this page. My thanks to RS for the summary. Between that and Cynthia's comments, that's really about what you need to know as the receiver. A little more if you are the person doing the penetrating, but that's not your end. Pardon the pun.

As to Cynthia's comment about butt plugs, listen to her about how it's preference and if it's really needed. There are exceptions to the rule, of course, but most people don't need to be "stretched" to accommodate something the size of a penis. The body is already made that way. With the proper stimulation and technique, you'd be surprised what the muscles combined with the sensation of the nerve endings actually do. If you are in the minority that needs to work up to it over a period of time, look at your options.

Personally, I'm not one of those who would opt for the use of a butt plug during the submissive's own time. The only fun I get out of that is knowing I gave the command and it was followed through. That means no sexual play for Me, no fun loosening the partner up Myself, or any of the other stuff I'd like to do. Isn't the idea of anal to enjoy how tight somebody's ass is? And that's coming from a chick using a silicone device. I can only imagine how the male tops see the issue.

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RE: 1st Time with a Strap On - 6/5/2012 3:41:19 PM

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Personally I don't get the whole "stretching" notion, either. It's a sphincter (well, two sphincters) and they are meant to open and close. Just let them do their thing.

(and yes, thanks, I speak from personal experience)

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