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OsideGirl -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 9:29:05 AM)
With some guys, it seems like they're trying to prove they've seen a real live woman naked. When I get guys that contact me that have a picture of another woman, I pretty much just say "You must already have a woman, since shes on your profile".....and then watch them try to back peddle.

Whenready -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 9:30:47 AM)
Perhaps it illustrates "this is what I like". I know a female sub or three with similar pictures. The message SEEMS to be "this is not me (aka I don't want to show my face yet) but this pic will give a clue about my likes/dislikes". Of course, I could be wrong too....

Moonhead -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:06:46 AM)
Looking at a few of the Doms who have female subbie pics all over their profiles, they may not be getting enough action to have a clue what they like. (This could have a connection to all of those threads whining about fakes who won't meet them off the bus naked on their knees, come to that...)

TNDommeK -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:43:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Bah, I keep getting a Kana in Hawaii whose picture is decidedly not of you! haha....uh, yeah, that one's not me. His is of my breasts with a bunch of needles in it. He's quite proud of his handiwork. lol I saw that pic....WOW that's awesome. I'm very squeamish around blood so I couldn't do that. First time I used a needle and blood skeeted I would pass out,lol. How Dommely of Me,lol. The pics I hate is to see either sex having their "no no regions" (as one of the girls here puts it) all sprawled wide open. Really?? No, just NO!

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:48:13 AM)
It's the age-old truism in action. IN GENERAL, men see pictures of other women and transfer themselves into it (femdom w/male sub: he thinks 'oooo, I'd SO like to be that guy!). Male dom w/female sub pics thinks 'here ya go, baybee, this could be YOU!' (because that's the way HE thinks.) IN GENERAL, women see pictures with other women in it and think 1) he's a bedpost-notching douche 2) he's another dumbass who doesn't understand how to appeal to a woman 3) he's going to plaster pics of me all over the net without my permission. Next!! While we're on the subject of impressions, same goes for the ubiquitous toy-layout on hideous bedspread (especially insertables). Guy thinks 'look at all my stuff, doesn't that just make you a puddle of goo?' Woman thinks, 'Gross! How many people has he stuck those into and does he know how to properly sanitize that stuff? Next!!!'

OsideGirl -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:51:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt While we're on the subject of impressions, same goes for the ubiquitous toy-layout on hideous bedspread (especially insertables). Guy thinks 'look at all my stuff, doesn't that just make you a puddle of goo?' Woman thinks, 'Gross! How many people has he stuck those into and does he know how to properly sanitize that stuff? Next!!!' It also makes me think that play sessions are the most important thing to him.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:57:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt While we're on the subject of impressions, same goes for the ubiquitous toy-layout on hideous bedspread (especially insertables). It also makes me think that play sessions are the most important thing to him. True dat.

Moonhead -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 11:59:36 AM)
Some of these guys can't even be arsed with making the bed before laying out their props on it. I'm told that's a bit of an interest killer...

Deliena -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:04:45 PM)
Yarp as is unattractive wallpaper, nasty chintz curtains, stained bedsheets.... oh I could go on and on :P but then I'm a horrible person really :)

Fleshy -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:16:08 PM)
I don't mind female pictures too much on mens profiles, sometimes it gives an insight into their tastes, it does depend on the picture though. They only really annoy me if they are stolen from the internet and they pretend they are their own. The ones who have pictures of their equipment amuse me the most. Oh look, I have handcuffs, rope etc....I MUST BE REAL! they will even put toys in the picture like butt plugs or whatever. I don't really like the thought of hand-me-down equipment, rope that has been chafing someone else's skin, toys that might have been inside someone else. I mostly assume: a) the things have never seen the light of day b) they have been put to use on themselves c) they are just plain stingy If you have equipment that can't be cleaned properly and it has been used intimately with someone, its only polite to give it as a gift, otherwise keep it in its packaging! Even if the plug has been sterilised or whatever, or they use it with a condom its still major ewwwwwwness. Edit* I wrote this before as all the people above had pretty much the same thought! Bad decor is a killer...I can't take my eyes off bad wallpaper, or a room that is a pigsty. Never mind your cock, why on earth would you put those cushions with that sofa!

AVegasMaster -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:16:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: femslut4u What on earth makes so many Male Doms think that a profile picture of a female submissive is going to be of interest to a prospective female sub? Even worse there are countless Male Dom profiles where this is the ONLY picture on the profile, or the main profile pic. I can understand a picture of the Dom WITH a female sub, or an extra picture portraying a specific kink or fetish as an adjunct to your own head or body shots, but putting a solitary female up as the thumbnail for your profile seems just as out of touch as the guys who think a girl is going to be impressed by naked lady decals or mud flaps on their car. Mind you, I'm voraciously bi and LOVE the female form, but that form has virtually no place as the primary picture on a straight male profile. Save the hot sexy female pics for your dorm room walls and computer wallpaper boys. How many female submissive profiles do you see with a shirtless picture of Brad Pitt as the profile pic? Heck, how many with a picture of any solitary male figure other than perhaps their Owner if the woman in question happens to be attached. If you want to come across as a MAN and attract real life women, we expect to see YOU as the primary profile picture, not your favorite female stroke inspiring ideal. :) I'm not sure what your problem is. I see most Dommes post photos of their subs. Why is that OK, and a DOM posting photos of his conquests so wrong?

fetisheden -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:41:06 PM)
probably because it is not a conquest, just a pic he found off the internet

fucktoyprincess -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:45:36 PM)
I see such a picture as an expression of their wants as opposed to what they, themselves, might have to offer. And despite my preferred role, I'm still interested in Dominants who are willing to present themselves and what they have to offer me in a D/s dynamic as opposed to just the ones who are interested in the myriad ways that I can serve them. For me to choose someone requires knowing what it exactly that I'm getting in the bargain - not just what I will be doing. [&:] As for pics of anyone with someone else, particularly engaged in not just a BDSM act, but a sexual act - well, I don't like pics like that UNLESS it is a couple's profile and the pic is of the couple during play. I'm not sure I want to dissuade people from using such pictures, though. Up to now, it has served as an excellent screening tool....[:D]

OsideGirl -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 12:53:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AVegasMaster quote: ORIGINAL: femslut4u What on earth makes so many Male Doms think that a profile picture of a female submissive is going to be of interest to a prospective female sub? Even worse there are countless Male Dom profiles where this is the ONLY picture on the profile, or the main profile pic. I can understand a picture of the Dom WITH a female sub, or an extra picture portraying a specific kink or fetish as an adjunct to your own head or body shots, but putting a solitary female up as the thumbnail for your profile seems just as out of touch as the guys who think a girl is going to be impressed by naked lady decals or mud flaps on their car. Mind you, I'm voraciously bi and LOVE the female form, but that form has virtually no place as the primary picture on a straight male profile. Save the hot sexy female pics for your dorm room walls and computer wallpaper boys. How many female submissive profiles do you see with a shirtless picture of Brad Pitt as the profile pic? Heck, how many with a picture of any solitary male figure other than perhaps their Owner if the woman in question happens to be attached. If you want to come across as a MAN and attract real life women, we expect to see YOU as the primary profile picture, not your favorite female stroke inspiring ideal. :) I'm not sure what your problem is. I see most Dommes post photos of their subs. Why is that OK, and a DOM posting photos of his conquests so wrong? Because men and women view things differently. Men tend to be turned on by picturing themselves in the role of the man in the photo. Women tend to be turned off because they're more interested in who he is rather than how many toys he has or who he's fucked.

needlesandpins -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 1:06:55 PM)
i commented on this very subject in another thread today. to answer VegasMaster's question; the difference is that a Domme may have a slave/sub photo, but i bet it hasn't got his gaping arse spead all over it. where as the pics that doms have are usually some other woman he's played with, with her pussy stretched wide enough that nearly see her cervix. it's vile! if i were to be looking there is no way in the world i'd have anything to do with a guy who had photo's of a previous woman in his profile. i don't mind an arty type pic, and nore do i mind the cock shots. however, fake photo's will also get a negative reaction from me. why the hell would i be interested in someone who can't be honest right from the outset? needles

Killerangel -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 2:17:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AVegasMaster I'm not sure what your problem is. I see most Dommes post photos of their subs. Why is that OK, and a DOM posting photos of his conquests so wrong? We're telling you what the problem is. If you're not interested in what a woman thinks or prefers then feel free to ignore the comments, but women are saying it's a major turnoff and exactly why that is and it's been repeated quite a few times now. I really do not see Dommes posting photos of their subs, if they do however, that would be clever since they would be appealing to men in doing that - they're taking into account what men like to see. Just like men are persisting with what they think will work but haven't put in any thought to what women like to see. If you want a man then put up those type of pics, if you want a women, don't. This is why it would be smart for a women looking for a man, and possibly one who pays her if it's a fin-Domme, to bait her hook with what a man likes to see, but by the same token it's sudden death for a man trying to get a woman because of all the reasons already listed.

TNDommeK -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 3:42:02 PM)
FR~ I saw a fin Domme with sheets tacked up for curtains. Room was a pig sty. I about died.

Karmastic -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 3:53:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: AVegasMaster quote: ORIGINAL: femslut4u What on earth makes so many Male Doms think that a profile picture of a female submissive is going to be of interest to a prospective female sub? Even worse there are countless Male Dom profiles where this is the ONLY picture on the profile, or the main profile pic. I can understand a picture of the Dom WITH a female sub, or an extra picture portraying a specific kink or fetish as an adjunct to your own head or body shots, but putting a solitary female up as the thumbnail for your profile seems just as out of touch as the guys who think a girl is going to be impressed by naked lady decals or mud flaps on their car. Mind you, I'm voraciously bi and LOVE the female form, but that form has virtually no place as the primary picture on a straight male profile. Save the hot sexy female pics for your dorm room walls and computer wallpaper boys. How many female submissive profiles do you see with a shirtless picture of Brad Pitt as the profile pic? Heck, how many with a picture of any solitary male figure other than perhaps their Owner if the woman in question happens to be attached. If you want to come across as a MAN and attract real life women, we expect to see YOU as the primary profile picture, not your favorite female stroke inspiring ideal. :) I'm not sure what your problem is. I see most Dommes post photos of their subs. Why is that OK, and a DOM posting photos of his conquests so wrong? Because men and women view things differently. Men tend to be turned on by picturing themselves in the role of the man in the photo. Women tend to be turned off because they're more interested in who he is rather than how many toys he has or who he's fucked. well said, 100% agree!

Karmastic -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 3:56:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Whenready Perhaps it illustrates "this is what I like". I know a female sub or three with similar pictures. The message SEEMS to be "this is not me (aka I don't want to show my face yet) but this pic will give a clue about my likes/dislikes". Of course, I could be wrong too.... perhaps true. but as others have pointed out, you have to sell to your audience. a female audience wants the pic to make them interested, by showing what the man has to offer, not what the man wants. it's all about her in that context.

Karmastic -> RE: Straight Doms with Female Submissive Profile Pics? [WTF] (6/14/2012 3:58:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt It's the age-old truism in action. IN GENERAL, men see pictures of other women and transfer themselves into it (femdom w/male sub: he thinks 'oooo, I'd SO like to be that guy!). Male dom w/female sub pics thinks 'here ya go, baybee, this could be YOU!' (because that's the way HE thinks.) IN GENERAL, women see pictures with other women in it and think 1) he's a bedpost-notching douche 2) he's another dumbass who doesn't understand how to appeal to a woman 3) he's going to plaster pics of me all over the net without my permission. Next!! While we're on the subject of impressions, same goes for the ubiquitous toy-layout on hideous bedspread (especially insertables). Guy thinks 'look at all my stuff, doesn't that just make you a puddle of goo?' Woman thinks, 'Gross! How many people has he stuck those into and does he know how to properly sanitize that stuff? Next!!!' lo fing L!!! funny and informative, as-in, true dat. life ain't fair, who ya gonna call?

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