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ORIGINAL: RaspberryLemon Some choose to include contracts, some do not. Some find them essential, some find them useful, some have no opinion, and some find them ridiculous. My Master and I have a contract. It's a living document (can be changed upon both of our agreement) that lays out the foundation of our dynamic, our responsibilities and rights to each other. Although it is certainly not a replacement for ongoing communication and management, we do find it to be useful. It is a nice reminder and layout of all our basic obligations, rights, and intentions and a written agreement (commitment) to uphold to these things. It was useful to talk it out together, write it out, and lay it all out in a manner that is comprehensive and easy to understand in a big-picture way that can be looked back upon and referenced in the future. It is nice, in our opinion, to manifest this commitment in a formal sort of way--sort of like a written form of my collar, a physical symbol of our commitment and bond. It is special to us. Of course, it isn't legally binding. It isn't meant to be. But to us it is morally binding and that's all it has to be. This. For us, the process of writing it together was really good for us. It took many hours over the course of several weeks, and gave us an opportunity to talk about anything and everything we would both like to see in the relationship, why we want it, and/or why some things needed to be tabled for later. We don't see it as a replacement for communication; quite the opposite, in fact. Nor do we see it as legally binding. It was a formal way of stating our commitments and intentions. We'll review it every 6 months, but either of us can talk about revising it at any time, which of course, will prompt further conversation.
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