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angelikaJ -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:12:08 PM)

I know it is hard when someone has dyslexia.
I would not hold that against someone.
However, I have a good friend who has dyslexia and it isn't her dyslexia that bothers me, it is that with spell-check programs there is no need for what she writes to be incomprehensible, and mostly, that is just laziness on her part.

If you are dyslexic then letting people know should allow people to be compassionate with you.



Lockit -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:20:59 PM)

I've gotten some emails where my eyes crossed and I was sitting there saying... what? Later they would share that they had dyslexia. Oh! Thank you! That helps a lot! Did I judge? You bet I did! I am no grammar queen as I break rules of grammar all the time. Hell, I will do it for the fun of it or in use of accents or simply because I don't know all the rules. However, a part of my life is writing and I might want my partners input. I may want that to be a big part of our life. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be nice to them, but they might not fit my life real well.

If I don't like a profile, I can move on. I don't get irritated even if it is filled with wanky fantasy. Now if I think their cock is ugly and it was like too many pixels big in my face... then I might be irritated enough to block them so it wouldn't happen again. Then again... I might send friends the link to the ugly in your face one. Hell, they have sent me enough links... it is only fair. (You know who you are!) [:D]

Dear god, I need sleep... two edits and I am still off. lol



kalikshama -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:27:15 PM)

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Now - in this politically correct era - are you really telling me you wouldn't have anything to do with someone because they suffer from poor literacy skills?


Alas, the CM mail does not save deleted mail so I cannot tell you how many men I have rejected solely on the base of their shortcomings as a writer. This is a textual medium.

If I met someone promising offline and he turned out to be lacking grammatically I would be disappointed but perhaps he could offset it in other ways.

I have a "No one under 30 policy" but I did make an exception for a Rhodes Scholar. While I've been with men more proficient in BDSM, he was certainly the wittiest conversationalist.



LadyPact -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:30:03 PM)

OP, I'll give you half credit. Maybe a little less than half. The silliness that Lockit pointed out about how you want to do things to people that are physical in nature over something that is so miniscule is a bad sign. If I remember correctly, you had written another semi-rant that had a similar theme.

You also lose points for trying the tired, "if they were really submissive" line. (Paraphrased, but you get the drift.) Even attempting to use that one to support the argument weakens it.

Believe it or not, I do tend to agree with you about Grammar Nazis in general. A helpful correction when needed is fine. I think anybody should be able to forgive a typo or that one time when the wrong homophone is used during a fast post. When people rely on it rather than good debate, I see it as a rather weak tactic.



kalikshama -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:34:15 PM)

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Oh, people can have whatever preferences they like, thats entirely down to them. No problem with that.

For me, it's just the impression it creates - very off putting. They are submissive, but so infuriated by poor literacy they won't even consider a relationship. WTF?


You're sending mixed messages about whether it is ok to have a preference. Perhaps it's the way they put it that's off-putting, not the mere fact that they put it? For example, I say:

"I'm polyamorous, but need to be the alpha female, so won't be joining established couples."

Rather than:

"NO COUPLES NO COUPLES NO COUPLES."

Or something that insults polyamoury.



kalthus -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:56:04 PM)

Guys,

I’m sorry, some people are taking what I said seriously and that wasn’t the intention.

For the record:

I believe people can have whatever preferences they want – that’s entirely up to them. It’s no ones place to judge, least of all mine.

I just found references to a Dom needing good grammar a bit amusing, that was all. It strikes me as picky, and on the face of it a ‘picky submissive’ sounds like a contradiction in terms.

I do understand that submission is a personal private thing and of course being picky does not mean you are less submissive when you choose to be. That was not intended as a suggestion that anyone on this board who is concerned about grammar etc is not a real submissive.

I would not actually tie anyone to a flogging horse and submit them endless examples of bad grammar. That’s not a realistic response, and it wasn’t intended to be. But (other than the tying part) it’s not physical in nature and definitely not intended as a serious threat.

Think that covers it. I apologise for any offense I may have given.



lizi -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 5:58:49 PM)

Incorrect use of spelling and grammar comes off as having juvenile qualities. Think of how skill with language grows with time along with everything else. If a man wants me to see him as adult partner material for adult activities, then he should at least try to present himself as an adult. A mistake or two is acceptable to me, but if a man chooses to communicate in a substandard manner I don't want anything to do with him.



OsideGirl -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 6:10:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalthus
It strikes me as picky, and on the face of it a ‘picky submissive’ sounds like a contradiction in terms.


Submissive does not mean "stupid and easy".



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 6:23:59 PM)

[image]http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lhx12di09a1qz6l95o1_500.jpg[/image]

For all of the cat picture posters...

Actually, I know my grammar sucks but I do find misspelled words annoying as all hell. Well, that and "Text speak".



dcnovice -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 6:32:17 PM)

FR

I'm manfully resisting the temptation to copyedit the OP.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 6:44:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalthus

I would not actually tie anyone to a flogging horse and submit them endless examples of bad grammar.


I would tie them to a flogging horse and submit them to endless examples of correct grammar, correct spelling, correct punctuation and correct syntax.

I am the epitome of the spelling sergeant, grammar guru, and punctuation police all rolled into one. Your worst proper written English nightmare, dude. Be very afraid! [:D]



Winterapple -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 6:59:45 PM)

If you find something off putting in a profile
there is no reason it should be a problem.
Don't contact them. Problem solved.
Other fish in the sea, a lid for every pot,etc



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 7:29:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalthus
It just makes me want to tie them to a flogging horse and split infinitives at them until they start screaming for mercy..........


Seriously, I get that how you communicate is an important part of how you are judged – but surely there are more important criteria in this lifestyle than knowing the difference between 'your' and 'you’re'. I find it very off putting and doesn't leave me thinking the author is someone likely to be very 'submissive' overall.

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalthus
it's just the impression it creates - very off putting. They are submissive, but so infuriated by poor literacy they won't even consider a relationship. WTF? To me that kind of signals that they are going to be essentially a very picky person, and that doesn't seem like a good personality type for a sub

Really kalthus? You get that worked up over a submissive having the fucking audacity to have opinions and standards? Really? Get a grip, man! Subs and slaves have every right to have opinions and standards about what sort of person they want to get involved with, just as much right as you, me, or anybody. Just because someone wants to receive a properly written letter, it does not mean she or he isn't submissive. As for picky not being a good trait in a sub, I think you'd agree you'd rather she be picky than careless when she's cleaning your house or cooking your dinner.

I find your posts whiny and that's very unbecoming of someone that calls himself a Dominant. I find it ridiculous that you would actually get that worked up over it. If you cannot control even yourself, I cannot possibly see you as Dominant and fit to control anyone else.

You should see some of the shit that comes into MY inbox from subs. And when I used to be a sub, from Doms. Endless text speak, incomplete sentences, run-on sentences that could make up an entire paragraph. Then there are the letters with absolutely NO punctuation or proper capitalization whatsoever and the ridiculous S/slashy S/speak. I can see every so often misspellings and being in a hurry but if you don't even get the basics for crying out loud, I just don't even want to bother with it.

If it really bothers you THAT much, just hide/block the people so you never have to see those profiles again.

NBMG



ReMakeYou -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 7:38:20 PM)

This is a perfectly acceptable gripe about subs. I mean, why should someone who is going to trust you with their safety care whether you're a stickler for details who likes to dot all their i's and cross all their t's?



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 7:44:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ReMakeYou

This is a perfectly acceptable gripe about subs. I mean, why should someone who is going to trust you with their safety care whether you're a stickler for details who likes to dot all their i's and cross all their t's?

Great sarcasm!! [sm=rofl.gif]



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 7:46:46 PM)

I type the way I speak, it's one of the reasons I post so quickly! If someone offers up an illiterate mess of a note to me, they're not going to get much positive attention.

It seems to me that a submissive is entitled to be as picky as possible, just as any other person is. THEY ARE NOT YOUR SUBMISSIVE UNTIL THEY AGREE TO BE.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 7:53:07 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: ReMakeYou

This is a perfectly acceptable gripe about subs. I mean, why should someone who is going to trust you with their safety care whether you're a stickler for details who likes to dot all their i's and cross all their t's?

Great sarcasm!! [sm=rofl.gif]


I thought we had a special font for sarcasm. [8D]



littlewonder -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 8:41:54 PM)

To be honest, if Master had a profile that was full of mistakes and so were his emails to me, I would have dropped him like a hot potato. Yes there are other more important qualities but ya know, first impressions mean a lot and on here, your photo is first and your profile and emails, second. The incorrect grammar and typing mistakes would tell me one of three things; that he probably is dyslexic and lazy (sorry even a dyslexic knows how to use auto-correct so that's not an excuse), he's foreign and to be honest, because of the language barriers and being I only speak English, I wouldn't have been interested in him, or he's unintelligent, cannot be bothered to learn his own native language and that he's lazy. None of those qualities are attractive to me.

I mean a few typos here and there, a few grammar mistakes here and there, then ok, but if you can't even be bothered to read over your profile and emails to each other and at least make it look somewhat presentable, then you'll find the problems you have now.

Now that's not to say when I'm writing in the forums here that I don't make mistakes but that's usually because by the time I get to the forums I'm tired and really, I don't care. I'm not here looking for someone. I have him already.

So instead of complaining about it and since it seems you have heard this from others before, then maybe it's time to brush up on your grammar lessons.

ETA: oh and as for the dyslexia you say you have, sorry, not an excuse to me. Master has mentioned on several occasions that he is dyslexic but if you ever looked at his profile or his writings you would never know because he reads over stuff before he hits the send button and uses the auto-correct. If he misses something after he hits the send button, he'll immediately go back and edit it so that it's correct. Being a dominant who likes order which is such a wonderful trait in a dominant man, he makes the effort to make sure even his grammar is in order, despite his dyslexia.



littlewonder -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 8:55:19 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ReMakeYou

This is a perfectly acceptable gripe about subs. I mean, why should someone who is going to trust you with their safety care whether you're a stickler for details who likes to dot all their i's and cross all their t's?


Love it! [sm=yourock.gif][sm=yourock.gif]

I need to remember this one.



playfulotter -> RE: Grammar Nazi fetish (6/29/2012 9:06:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

[image]http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lhx12di09a1qz6l95o1_500.jpg[/image]

For all of the cat picture posters...

Actually, I know my grammar sucks but I do find misspelled words annoying as all hell. Well, that and "Text speak".


wow! thanks for this pic of the grammar Nazi cat...I just sent it to someone who just told me they are big into grammar being wrong on profiles and all....I am sure he will get a kick out of it!



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