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RE: findomme - 7/18/2012 3:45:36 AM

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Who´s for feminising Lookie?

Go on Lookie, let´s see how much you can earn by the end of the year ...

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Im only new to this site but it seems to me that so called "findommes" have ruined this site. The same generic profiles over and over again ie. " Im perfect, give me all your money" I have no problem with this, but 90% of these "dommes" have no interest in this liifestyle and only have blank profiles to make a quick buck

Who gives a shit?

If I could dress up in heels and get some dude to buy me books, clothes or a car....I'd all fucking over that.

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RE: findomme - 7/18/2012 10:52:01 AM

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I am so down for that. Lookie you can get a car!!!

Cyberhard- I said that defending your thoughts that fin dommes probably don't do things like give to charities. Which I'm 100% sure is what you meant when saying that. So, to answer your question, ME is who does that. Anything else? Or can you not tell this thread has moved on, again.

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RE: findomme - 7/20/2012 4:37:05 PM

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That is GRADE A impeachment. Lawyers dream of that kind of stuff. Its better than sex.

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RE: findomme - 8/12/2012 9:54:47 AM

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"Beauty is to men as money is to women." - Marilyn Monroe

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RE: findomme - 8/12/2012 10:54:16 AM

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Not all the time cuck, but I do like that statement.

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RE: findomme - 8/13/2012 9:27:57 PM

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Something that has, at least to me, been somewhat obvious, is that the term 'FinDom' is somewhat new and is actually a corruption of an actual and trust worthy act. That being what financial domination is actually intended to be. Financial Domination is supposed to be essentially Financial Control Power Exchange. Meaning that the Top or Dominant controls the finances RESPONSIBLY in the relationship. The problem came about when people who do not understand the ethics, morals, and Code of Conduct that this lifestyle is supposed to encourage; IE: Trust and Safe, Sane, Consensual exploration. Meaning that when people who don't fully understand the lifestyle figure that it's about ruining someone's life and that subs and slaves (of both sexes, yes there are male FinDoms) are subhuman. The worse part is the Subs and slaves that encourage this behavior by feeding it. I guess my point being is that there is a difference between Findom(me)s and those who practice traditional Financial domination.

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 9:16:50 AM

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Oh dude........the combination of your name and photo just gave me a great chuckle. Reading your profile just added to it.

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 9:45:39 AM

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Soooo...I'm guessing FinDommes are not your bag of joy?

It's lovely that you've figured that out for yourself.

Doesn't mean that it's the same for everyone else. For someone who's so keen on the rules and protocols of this 'lifestyle', I'm guessing you're not so keen on the YKINMKBIOK stuff then?

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 11:20:28 PM

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Soooo...I'm guessing FinDommes are not your bag of joy?

It's lovely that you've figured that out for yourself.

Doesn't mean that it's the same for everyone else. For someone who's so keen on the rules and protocols of this 'lifestyle', I'm guessing you're not so keen on the YKINMKBIOK stuff then?

No, whatever floats peoples boats is fine with me. What i have a problem is people who don't know jack about the lifestyle except from what they see in a porno taking advantage of things. If two individuals, who are knowledgeable sit down, talk about exactly how far to rape a wallet, and mutually agree on it, thats cool. Cuz that follows the concept of SSC. What i do have a problem with are the FinDommes that are only into making a guy go bankrupt then dumping them. Thats not Sane by my standard. Thats all i'm saying.

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 11:27:11 PM

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Nobody is forced to send anyone money. In fact, Collarme warns everyone not to send money to others.

So we're supposed to find even more ways to help someone who is so ruled by their dick and bad porn that they bankrupt themselves sending money to a complete stranger?

That level of stupid is beyond help.

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 11:33:00 PM

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Nobody is forced to send anyone money. In fact, Collarme warns everyone not to send money to others.

So we're supposed to find even more ways to help someone who is so ruled by their dick and bad porn that they bankrupt themselves sending money to a complete stranger?

That level of stupid is beyond help.

sorry, I just couldn't help myself...

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RE: findomme - 8/14/2012 11:54:51 PM

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I'd spank you, but I doubt you could afford my fees

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 12:12:56 AM

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 12:16:57 AM

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You do realise that, seconds after this clip was made, that ebil cat tore off the dolly's head and shat down it's neck?

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 9:05:12 AM

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After eating the brains of course.

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 9:10:12 AM

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Hi, member here since 2006. Far be it from me to say that all financial domination is the same because surely it isn't. A dominant woman controlling her actual sub or partner's money
as part of a TPE is really not something I look down on. But let's not split hairs here. This isn't what the original poster is talking about and it isn't what the majority of FinDomme looks like.

Being a Pro Domme is also not what this looks like because the majority of these women do not offer anything substantial beyond "gimme, buy me, then fuck off." It's a scam perpetuated
by women that are short on rent, low on gas and, oftentimes, in substantial supply of ham sandwiches. Does anyone here honestly
believe that this should be so disproportionately represented on the personals here? Personally, I don't. I'm not about to make a thread
about it but I do report every scammer profile I see unless the user specifies that they are a professional and offer actual BDSM services,
of which I do not think any of us should count FinDomme.

FinDomme is only a part of an otherwise more diverse BDSM experience. On its own two legs it's little more than what a PSO might offer,
which no shame on PSOs but that's hardly what this website is for. I don't think the average FinDomme can even be compared to the
noble PSO occupation. I would call them more so dreaded "cam whores" and most personals websites discourage their type like
the plague, yet for some reason any guy that questions them here is derided by people with thousands upon thousands of posts
who have lost all perspective that some of us might still be looking for a significant match. Some of us might be using this service
in conjunction with real world activity.

If that chaps anyones ass then I make no apologies. I'm not in the business of placating egos outside a relationship.

He's right. FinDomme scammers have flooded the personals section of this website. It's to the point where 9 times out of 10 I can randomly click a profile and
wind up with some snarky BS about FinDomme. It isn't that we can just "block them and move on" because it makes actually looking for someone of interest
far more daunting than it ought to be. From an administrative perspective, it's bad for communication on a communications based website. This deserves
the regular criticism it receives.

As to the accusation that people who have a problem with this state of affairs are "whiny" or "broke," generally speaking most people do not pay for
any sexual service and it would seem that not every guy is a hard dick that's just mad he can't find a 19 year old perfect Domme. I'm certainly not.

Regardless of whatever BS the original poster might have going on, he's right.

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 9:14:39 AM

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Something that has, at least to me, been somewhat obvious, is that the term 'FinDom' is somewhat new and is actually a corruption of an actual and trust worthy act. That being what financial domination is actually intended to be. Financial Domination is supposed to be essentially Financial Control Power Exchange. Meaning that the Top or Dominant controls the finances RESPONSIBLY in the relationship. The problem came about when people who do not understand the ethics, morals, and Code of Conduct that this lifestyle is supposed to encourage; IE: Trust and Safe, Sane, Consensual exploration. Meaning that when people who don't fully understand the lifestyle figure that it's about ruining someone's life and that subs and slaves (of both sexes, yes there are male FinDoms) are subhuman. The worse part is the Subs and slaves that encourage this behavior by feeding it. I guess my point being is that there is a difference between Findom(me)s and those who practice traditional Financial domination.

That's exactly accurate and well said.

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 10:44:37 AM

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Soooo...I'm guessing FinDommes are not your bag of joy?

It's lovely that you've figured that out for yourself.

Doesn't mean that it's the same for everyone else. For someone who's so keen on the rules and protocols of this 'lifestyle', I'm guessing you're not so keen on the YKINMKBIOK stuff then?

No, whatever floats peoples boats is fine with me. What i have a problem is people who don't know jack about the lifestyle except from what they see in a porno taking advantage of things. If two individuals, who are knowledgeable sit down, talk about exactly how far to rape a wallet, and mutually agree on it, thats cool. Cuz that follows the concept of SSC. What i do have a problem with are the FinDommes that are only into making a guy go bankrupt then dumping them. Thats not Sane by my standard. Thats all i'm saying.

You are aware that what we do is not SANE for most of the population? So the whole SSC stuff is pretty useless anyway, window dressing, I prefer RACK, because yeah, most people don't see that spanking, bondage, edge play or D/s are all that sane.

As for a findomme making a guy go bankrupt, that would be one hell of a stupid findomme, why would she kill the goose who lays golden eggs? But if she says upfront "I am going to make you bankrupt and then dump you" and the guy signs up for it, his choice, she doesn't make him, he does it because it gets his dick hard. It's not your wallet and it's not your kink, cool, but it's also not your right to tell people which kink they can have, as long as it's consensual, I am all for people taking responsibility for their own actions!

Now I don't have a problem with findommes, I don't even notice them much, I also don't send them money - it really is that simple...

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 10:46:34 AM

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This thread is old.

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RE: findomme - 8/15/2012 10:57:11 AM

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if, by "old", you mean "omg how many times have we had this conversation on these forums? and FFS, will these people grow some balls and common sense?????"...

I agree :)

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