JstAnotherSub -> RE: Doms that do not accept BBWs (7/27/2012 7:51:09 AM)
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Well......here I go.... First, I am a fat chick, morbidly obese, according to the charts. Do I know it is unhealthy? Of course. Do I find excuses? HA! I have so many of them, it aint funny. Bio mom, who was obese within 1 years of having her first child, 2 half sisters, raised in different families, who were both obese within a year of having their first child. Guess who else was obese within a year of having her first child? ME!!!! Had I known my family history, when I gave birth, would I, could I, have done things to make that not happen? WTF knows. That is history now, so I quit wondering about it. Grew up, a size 16 from about 7th grade, until having my son. I was teased about being fat all my life! Size 16 was not in the "regular" sizes back then, it was in the "husky" sizes. Add to that a mom, who was tiny, and who always was trying the latest way to try to make me tiny, ugh, yeah, I got issues fer shure. I hit 50 back in April. It came like a ton of fucking bricks, made me realize my mortality, made me know I have less years left than I have lived, and really made me think about my health. I have slowly made changes, have lost about 22 pounds since my birthday, and, I am hopeful that I will continue to lose weight and, more importantly, get healthier. So, do I want a domly dude who is not attracted to fat chicks? No. Even I have my own ideas of what turns me on in a man. If a blonde, blue eyed male, with a hairless chest, came to me and said but I am the exception, you WILL find me attractive, I would have to say sorry dude, I just can't get a twitch from you physically, and, whether we like it or not, that twitch is very fucking important. Do I want a domly dude who will accept me as I am? Yes. And no. I want someone who will help me become the best I can be, in all aspects of my life. That is not saying I am not absolutely fucking awesome alone. That is not saying that I am not content alone. That is saying that I want someone who can use me, and my knowledge and strengths, to help them. I also want someone who I can use (yeah I went there, Ima sub and wanna use him!) his strengths and knowledge to help me. All that means is, I do not want someone who will bring me chocolates and tell me that I am fine like I am. I want someone who will say I care about you, and you turn me on, but I want you with me a long time, so eat these fruits and veggies and get on that fucking treadmill. So, now that I have gone from Georgia to California, via North Dakota, I will say that I totally get where the OP is coming from, and I totally don't get where the OP is coming from. Life, and relationships, just aint that easy, to be able to say yes, I domly dude would help some chick lose weight. But, it also is not impossible that there could be that "twitch" upon meeting a fat chick, and, after discovering her deepest self, you decide that you would be willing to be her cheerleader and motivator, in all aspects, not just health. I have rambled too long, but, for some reason, I felt the need to say all of this. Blame it on what ya will. Oh yeah, I absofuckinglutely HATE HATE HATE the BBW moniker. All big chicks are no more beautiful than all skinny chicks are. Fat is nothing more than an adjective, like tall, short, thin, freckled, etc so on and so forth. IMHO, if you are unable to even use the word fat to describe your self, you got issues.
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