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need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it hard - 8/4/2012 8:53:29 AM

yyxxone

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thank you for nothing................. been very helpful.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:02:05 AM

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Sigh.

OP, here's why I find your OP so awful.

Firstly, you're reconnecting with her after not seeing her for a year. I'm not sure how she can be "your sub", it seems to me that she's a chick you're hooking up with. But, that's probably because I have these quaint ideas about relationships.

Secondly, you're looking for creative ideas about how to manage a masochist who likes it hard?

That scares the shit out of me. What that says to me is that you don't have any ideas of your own. This woman is placing herself in your hands, and you.... well... I gotta say it... you appear not to know what you're doing man.

My most creative idea for you (and I say this with enormous sincerity and with her health and potentially your freedom in mind) would be to cancel the date and suggest to the sub in question that she start her search for a dominant man again, and that next time she be just a little bit more discerning.

Please take my advice, because each time I re-read your op I keep seeing newspaper headlines with the words "Victim" and "Perpetrator" in them.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:03:57 AM

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Thank you, Crazy.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:10:26 AM

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Is she an emotional or a physical masochist?

If it is emotional, just be you...I'm sure your incompetence and lack of creativity will be painful enough.

If physical, take her to a munch and introduce her to a sadist that knows what the hell he is doing.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:19:32 AM

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Oh please re-instate your OP!

There are many more regular posters, many with a great deal more experience than me in these matters.

I was literally fucking wetting myself in anticipation of what they were going to say.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:20:03 AM

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OP, I read your profile and you don't sound like a dumb or bad guy.

So, why don't you calmly just ease back into things with this woman and even if she likes it "hard", if I have not seen someone in over a year, I would play it by ear.

I probably would not be too thrilled if a guy I knew came to a message board to get ideas on what to do for me. I usually like to work out that out between the two of us.

Oh, edited because the OP became whiny and changed his post. So, not creative and a baby, alrighty then....

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:21:12 AM

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This is why you should always use the quote feature: For posterity.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:21:53 AM

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I know I know.

It burns, really it does.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:30:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yyxxone

thank you for nothing................. been very helpful.

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I am reconnecting with a submissive that I have not seen in about one year. She is a masochist - we usually play at my house I have a lovely garage with all the proper toys and hoist,pulleys etc. I will be heading to her apartment with is a very small place. Any thoughts or ideas on compromising positions using house hold items or furniture for a Masochist..... what have you done with your submissive. Thanks... submissive's chime in too. Thanks, TM

If she's a real masochist, take her out to eat, treat her like gold, wank her a few times, maybe a wee bit o spanking, and that's it.
Leave her begging for more...and meanwhile reconnect on the more important emotional and internal levels :-)

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:43:00 AM

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Kana! Telling him commonsensible stuffs!!

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:45:08 AM

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Yay! Thank you Master for quoting the op.

Yeah, gotta say...I like Master's idea.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:51:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: yyxxone
need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it hard

Why go for creativity when all you need is Viagra?

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 9:57:33 AM

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Hey there OP.

You know I mentioned people that know more about this shit than me....

Here's one of 'em.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: yyxxone

thank you for nothing................. been very helpful.

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I am reconnecting with a submissive that I have not seen in about one year. She is a masochist - we usually play at my house I have a lovely garage with all the proper toys and hoist,pulleys etc. I will be heading to her apartment with is a very small place. Any thoughts or ideas on compromising positions using house hold items or furniture for a Masochist..... what have you done with your submissive. Thanks... submissive's chime in too. Thanks, TM

If she's a real masochist, take her out to eat, treat her like gold, wank her a few times, maybe a wee bit o spanking, and that's it.
Leave her begging for more...and meanwhile reconnect on the more important emotional and internal levels :-)

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 10:14:39 AM

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It would suck to be a Dom with no imagination. I wish her luck with you.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 10:15:02 AM

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Ok I got confused when I saw the "thanks for nothing" part and was like wth? Thanks Kana for clearing that up.

OP I have to go with ML on this one, you have a maso and yet you are asking others, I think communication, trial and (hopefully small) error, and did I mention communication is the best advice. I know everyone has to start somewhere. Just try to manage no emergency room trips. *sighs*

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 11:47:22 AM

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McDonald's...

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 12:14:56 PM

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She's his sub yet he's searching for one to be his one. Let's hope she's an emotional masochist because tying yourself up with a guy who says one thing to your face and doesn't mean a word of it is suffering enough. In a bad way, of course.

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 12:23:17 PM

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Ahhh. A Dom without imagination and not enough experience. Good luck to her !!!

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 12:36:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

McDonald's...

I don't get it...

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RE: need some creative ideas for my sub...she likes it ... - 8/4/2012 2:01:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: yyxxone

thank you for nothing................. been very helpful.

And you have been very rude. Editing out your entire OP when people have already taken the time to give thoughtful answers to you is very rude and inconsiderate. As for myself, I missed your OP, it looks like Kana quoted it. Thank you Kana.

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I am reconnecting with a submissive that I have not seen in about one year. She is a masochist - we usually play at my house I have a lovely garage with all the proper toys and hoist,pulleys etc. I will be heading to her apartment with is a very small place. Any thoughts or ideas on compromising positions using house hold items or furniture for a Masochist..... what have you done with your submissive. Thanks... submissive's chime in too. Thanks, TM

First, I don't see her as your submissive if you haven't connected with her in a year. I see it more as you're reconnecting with a submissive but she's not yours. If she was, why the year of no contact?

Second, it must really suck big time to be a Dominant with no imagination. Are you telling us that you honestly have no ideas on how to use pervertible household items? I feel sorry for you, so here's a couple threads....
creative kitchen toys
Crafters/pervertible fans, show ya stuff

Third, I feel sorry for that sub. To submit to a Dom who doesn't know what he's doing? Not a good thing.

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