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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/11/2012 9:30:13 PM

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Using fast reply.

Is this really a question? Do you need to learn how to clarify? Are you not making the distinction between casual play, the getting to know you phase, and an actual dynamic?

How about something with a little more detail. I'm not a sub, but I've been using this one for years. "I'm not into sport fucking." Would that work? How about "no casual sex?" If people aren't interested in you after hearing that, fuck 'em. There will be plenty more who will.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/11/2012 9:35:23 PM

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That's why I liked SD's answer. Rather than relying on cryptic and poorly define BDSM code words she could, just speak in plain English.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/11/2012 9:44:07 PM

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We are in complete agreement.

My best to Carol.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/11/2012 11:11:17 PM

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Ignore, block and delete the ones that don't match what you want/need. ANd be wary of the ones that DO agree in text. Follow your gut.

Oh man, that what will she be left with? Ha!

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 12:41:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
... just speak in plain English.

Can we please add "sport fucking" to the Webster's dictionary? See "dogging."

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 2:56:16 AM

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so basically you want a traditional relationship with all the wooing, seduction and waiting. Nothing at all wrong with that. It's what Master and I have and how we met. You just need to put that in your profile and make it clear. I don't find anything at all with what you want.

The problem is you are responding to boys who are just looking for an easy lay and I hate to tell ya but the majority are of this type on here. You just need to weed out those who are more compatible with what you seek. I wouldn't put what you want as a limit. I would just say what I said above...seeking a traditional courting, long term, loving relationship where you want to wait to have sex until you feel you both are what each is seeking.

Good luck.

^^^^This.

It's how Master and I started and, two years later, we're glad we did it this way.

I didn't describe 'no sex' in terms of a bdsm limit because, up until I was sure he was the right one for me, there wasn't any bdsm involved. We went to the movies, went out for dinner, went for walks...all that romantic stuff. Once we agreed we had something special, he put his collar on me and so the next part of our journey began

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 2:59:13 AM

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I think, MOS, you should detail that next part of the journey... don't leave ANYTHING out. Yes, I'm sure of it.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 3:06:53 AM

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You wanna take a while before trusting your life to someone be that your heart, fluid bonding or some exotic suspension bondage. Sounds like you are a)Not an Idiot and b)Sensible. Good for you.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 3:28:58 AM

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I think, MOS, you should detail that next part of the journey... don't leave ANYTHING out. Yes, I'm sure of it.

I would, but I don't want to scare the newbies

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/12/2012 7:48:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BambiBoi

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
... just speak in plain English.

Can we please add "sport fucking" to the Webster's dictionary? See "dogging."

I promise it's in the Lady Pact dictionary.

Every once in a while, someone comes along who really likes that one.

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/13/2012 4:39:43 PM

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Say what you mean....mean what you say.......stick to your guns....it is just not worth the compromise if that is what you feel you need

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RE: limits... how to express them accurately - 8/13/2012 4:53:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: BambiBoi

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
... just speak in plain English.

Can we please add "sport fucking" to the Webster's dictionary? See "dogging."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MXzaVOk_Ydk

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