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level of income - 9/19/2012 5:44:48 PM

Allypopsthecorn

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Question for the heterosexual male dom:
would you date a female submissive that makes more money than you?

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 5:48:56 PM

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 5:59:13 PM

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 6:08:40 PM

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*I thought about responding but I couldn't keep a straight face*

I will say that economic times have changed for a lot of people and I feel sorry if anyone's sense of dominance or submission is tied to their income...

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 6:33:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Allypopsthecorn

Question for the heterosexual male dom:
would you date a female submissive that makes more money than you?

Lucky for you a real heterosexual male dom happened by.

I think I probably have (dated a female submissive that made more money than I).

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 6:59:05 PM

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I'm doing it now.

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 8:13:03 PM

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I think the more compelling question is:

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ORIGINAL: What Allypopsthecorn Should Have Asked

Question for the heterosexual female sub:
would you date a male dominant that makes less money than you?

If she can submit knowing she has more fiscal power, I see it as a plus. 10/10 I would rather have the submissive pet man-eating-tiger than a dependent fledgling who might be with me because it covers her rent. It would be a bigger problem if she had no income. Except for the unemployed (those who had jobs, but are victim to a bad economy), women (usually young, straight to college) who have never worked are a deal breaker. I would never again date/take as a sub/submit to a "student" who has never worked.

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 9:31:13 PM

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I have always made more money than all of the men I have been with over the years. It has never caused any problems between Master and I although He has given some remarks about what he would do if he did make more than I do. So in the future, who knows but neither of us make that a big deal in our relationship. It's more of a passing comment that is made and that's about it. No big deal.

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 10:01:08 PM

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Damn... If I could only be so lucky.....

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 11:10:38 PM

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My dom relocated internationally to be with me, so for visa reasons he couldn't work and I made ALL the money. He did most of the housework too. Crazy, huh? Then for a while I was actually on double his wage. At the beginning of this year he got a much better job and now I don't work at all and he makes all the money.

So in order to have me as a sub he had to put himself in the financially weaker situation for a few years.

But you know, I've said this a bunch of times - for me the term 'partner' means just that. We're a family, a team. That means where one can't provide, the other picks up the slack. I've never thought of it in terms of 'my money, his money'. It's just 'our money'. Whoever has the bigger wage at any given point, we both put in equally to upholding the relationship and caring for the family. That's what matters.

Now I would have problems submitting to someone who was terminally unemployed or an adult living a student lifestyle, or in a poor job with no ambition to improve. I know, anyone can get ill or unexpectedly lose a job. But someone without a good work ethic and at least an ounce of professional ambition wouldn't match me well.

Someone who was very insecure and couldn't cope with me possibly earning more (because I am ambitious) would also be a bad match.

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RE: level of income - 9/19/2012 11:40:46 PM

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...But you know, I've said this a bunch of times - for me the term 'partner' means just that. We're a family, a team. That means where one can't provide, the other picks up the slack...

What a beautiful and healthy way of looking at it.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 12:02:19 AM

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That is what I was going to say. There have been times that I make way more than He does, but there have also been times that he has brought home the bacon. In our little world, what one can't do the other covers and vice versa. We always come out on top. :)

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 3:34:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Allypopsthecorn

Question for the heterosexual male dom:
would you date a female submissive that makes more money than you?

Yep. Thing is I'm a working stiff who's toiled hard to gain the relative financial comfort I now enjoy, without ever remotely being considered rich. I'm debt free, own my modest home and have a decent bank balance - things that are important to a self-confessed "control freak".

In other words, I'm not looking for a meal ticket in a partner. If she makes more, we'll obviously live a bit better. As long as she doesn't try to unduly influence or (*gasp*) control me with her greater means, we're sweet.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 6:59:04 AM

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Most definitely! Let me know when you find one!

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 7:56:00 AM

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I make more than he does and neither of us could care less about it.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 8:16:10 AM

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Oh hell yes. And I have.
I've had Doctors, lawyers, CFO's.
Fuck, I was bartending and dating a model/playboy gal who charged something obscene like $1000 an hour for photoshoots.
And they weren't even porn!

I'd date a wealthy woman in a heartbeat.
I'd greet her at the door when she came home from work buck ass naked with a red ribbon tied around my cock for her to undo with her teeth. ;-)

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 9:10:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BambiBoi

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

...But you know, I've said this a bunch of times - for me the term 'partner' means just that. We're a family, a team. That means where one can't provide, the other picks up the slack...

What a beautiful and healthy way of looking at it.

Ditto. I've never dated anyone who made more than me (some didn't work, period) but I didn't care then and don't now. If I had to help my girl out I would; if I needed help I would ask her for the same reason Athena gave. Same word, too.

Partner. She's mine, I'm hers. We stick together and help each other.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 12:19:22 PM

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Personally, I prefer to have my slave not work. I would rather their attention be solely on me then at work. This creates a greater burden on me. But I prefer it that way. Being married to my current slave, we do have a financial agreement in place in the form of a prenuptual agreement. I am taking on a new sub who I most likely will make work to sustain her own living in the event she is released from service. I don't want rent etc. But i also don't want her sticking around because she is broke and not worked in a year or two. Planning for.my future must include planning for my properties also. I owe them that.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 2:11:58 PM

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Could I imagine a situation in which a slavegirl made enough that she could afford to pay me to blow me? Yes, I believe I could hang with that.

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RE: level of income - 9/20/2012 2:37:47 PM

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Ah hell I will pay ya $5 to blow ya.

Of course, you gotta handle the mortgage and utilities and groceries and gas and all that other petty shit.

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