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lizi -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 1:50:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSockSlave Hi, I posted a very detailed description of what I want and need. That thread was deleted, but I'm not sure why. It seems as though you were told why it was deleted, the message from the Mod said it was an extension of your profile. quote: And I don't think a woman wants to hear about my love for cheese. It's been proved on these forums again and again that a love for cheese will get you a lot more positive attention than a statement of something sexual. Women don't really give a rip about some stranger's description of what gets him hard, however if it's someone we care about then we are interested. quote: Help me out. I just received another message from a Mod explaining my thread was deleted because it was an extension of my profile. Isn't that the point of this type of introduction? No, sexual wish lists are not the point of this type of introduction. This area is for people to talk about what makes them people. Not what they do naked. On the forum menu page it says this... Introduce Yourself Break the ice and introduce yourself here so we can get to know more about the person posting. Did you read that? I thought it was fairly specific. Does it ask for what sexual acts you love to do or what type of relationship you want? In other words, how did you parents teach you to introduce yourself when meeting people? Was it to tell them how you like to cum? quote: The Mod then suggested that I share my hobbies and interests. Again, this being a kink site, that's what I did. You are misunderstanding that a kink site means that it's only about kink/sex. It's not. People frequent this site. If you want to meet people- what do you do? In particular, you want to meet a woman. Think really hard on how a woman would like to be approached. When you see someone you'd like to meet in real life do you go up to her and tell her that you want to smell her feet in order to get off on it? Or would she find that crass? quote: I was also suggested to ask doms to review my profile, so go do that. I'd like to ask about this part of your posting as I'm not clear on it. Are you saying "so go do that" to Doms in general so that they will review your profile?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 1:52:17 PM)
May I also say that the ski mask is extra rapey? I really am not a profile reader, but that picture is not one that I would respond to in a positive way.

tsatske -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 1:55:05 PM)
BSS, your name is very de-constructable. Remove the last letter, and it seems most approprate. What women want is a partner - rather in a play pal, a short term relationship, or a long term one, we want someone we can talk to, someone with shared vanilla interests. Try leading with that - with what SHE wants, and, as you get to know someone, you can test the waters and see if she interested in your kinks. BDSM dating is just like vanilla dating, until its time for play. which is not on the first date, or anywhere close to it. Good luck in your search.

BlackSockSlave -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:03:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Welcome... And seriously, the ladies here are trying to help you. I bet you really are a great guy. Aside from the fact that I don't want a kinky guy around ME.....I do think most guys are pretty decent. But the way you are presenting yourself here is with the 'guy' brain mindset. The ladies are trying their level best to explain to you that isn't going to get you what you want. Pay attention. And quit being so passive aggressive fucking defensive already. I don't need any help getting a beautiful woman. Let me elaborate. My vanilla dating profiles garner celebrity attention and my inboxes are always full. (I have a screenshot for proof.) I'm something of an online dating legend and the funniest guy, says women everywhere. The ONLY PROBLEM is once I share my fetish, she loses all interest. That's why I'm on a kink site: to target that fetish to women who want that in their lives.

LaTigresse -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:07:05 PM)
Okay........so now we get to the part where anything any of us would say, that could be even mildly constructive to you, would be against TOS. Bless your heart. Welcome, enjoy your short stay. Good luck.

pyschosubmission -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:10:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSockSlave I'm something of an online dating legend and the funniest guy, says women everywhere. I'm 8ft 7in and can shoot lasers from my man nipples, says women everywhere

RemoteUser -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:14:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSockSlave I'm something of an online dating legend and the funniest guy, says women everywhere. I'm 8ft 7in and can shoot lasers from my man nipples, says women everywhere I've seen him do it. It's terrifying and strangely man-hawt.

LadyPact -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:14:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission I'm 8ft 7in and can shoot lasers from my man nipples, says women everywhere And, if he <William Wallace> was here, he'd consume the English with fireballs from his eyes and bolts of lightening from his arse. Sorry, I had to do it.

LaTigresse -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:15:14 PM)
I love you guys!!!!!!! (and lady...)

BlackSockSlave -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:17:21 PM)
This is the only thread I ever wanted to make. No more replies. If you're her, find me. Good luck, all.

Hillwilliam -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:17:59 PM)
But, there will be replies.

lizi -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:18:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSockSlave I don't need any help getting a beautiful woman. Let me elaborate. My vanilla dating profiles garner celebrity attention and my inboxes are always full. (I have a screenshot for proof.) I'm something of an online dating legend and the funniest guy, says women everywhere. The ONLY PROBLEM is once I share my fetish, she loses all interest. That's why I'm on a kink site: to target that fetish to women who want that in their lives. Except that kinky women on a kink site have mailboxes jammed full too. You and your fetishes are not an attraction or a draw. We keep trying to tell you that women don't want to be approached like a menu item, they aren't men. They are offered kink and sex innumerable times a day. It's not something we have to search for, it's boring because every guy on here leads with his dick needs and expects that will capture our attention. It doesn't. I can see how frustrating it would be to get close to someone and find out your secret desires are unwanted, but there is no way to circumvent the process of getting to know someone. Women want to be treated as people, not as fetishes. You leading with the fetish means you get kicked to the curb twice as fast. Let me turn this around. You see the lovely woman of your dreams at a party. She seems to be everything you want. Do you walk up to her, whip out your penis, and ask to smell her feet? Or do you say hello, how are you, along with all of the other boring stuff...? You are at that party here Dude, no one cares about what your dick needs. I can say I have never once read a description in a profile and said oh wow, I physically fit that stranger's description of what gets him off, I think I'll write him. Women find sex all day long. It's not hard for us and it's not novel or rare. You can look at all the posts so far as food for thought or keep rejecting what a whole bunch of KINKY WOMEN here are telling you. I asked you a question earlier, perhaps you could answer it please? Edited to add: Ah well, as I was writing the OP flounced. Wasted effort.

SlipSlidingAway -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:20:08 PM)
I get the feeling the op does not quite understand the fact that this side of the site is to foster discussion. It's not here to drive interest to profiles on the other side. Although, when one becomes a regular poster here, one with insight and sincerity, it might result in other posters looking at a profile. However, he's not comprehending that's not the function of these forums. To the OP: introducing yourself on the message boards, you pretty much do so in order to let the other people posting here get some idea of why you are here (on the forums), who you are in a general sense, and what you might hope to learn or contribute to the forums. Again, this side of things is about discussion. It's not to drive traffic to your profile. Which is why what you posted was inappropriate and pulled.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:22:41 PM)
sigh A Domme is not a CATERER. Thinking of Dommes that way is the mistake a lot of sub males make. Don't approach her as though you are ordering bacon-wrapped scallops, caviar nibbles, or those cute little weiners arranged on a plate to arouse your appetite. SHE doesn't serve YOU. If a D/s relationship forms, YOUR position will be to serve HER. Same as any relationship, start by RESEARCHING to find dominant women with similar vanilla interests, start a meaningful conversation, perhaps something will develop. I'm sure there are Dommes in your area. Read their profiles over thoroughly, if their interests are similar to yours then contact them. Remember, Dommes are approached by LOTS of subs, many of them very qualified, so there are probably others competing for Her attention. You will need to stand out from them. I agree with ChatteParfaitt's comment: quote: We get so used to ignoring all the male subs like you, we really don't see you. We are responding to you now in the hope you may learn something. You're new, you get a few free passes, don't squander them. quote: --MM

DNAHelicase -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:25:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSockSlave I don't need any help getting a beautiful woman. Let me elaborate. My vanilla dating profiles garner celebrity attention and my inboxes are always full. (I have a screenshot for proof.) I'm something of an online dating legend and the funniest guy, says women everywhere. The ONLY PROBLEM is once I share my fetish, she loses all interest. That's why I'm on a kink site: to target that fetish to women who want that in their lives. I didn't know Ron Burgundy was into black socks. [image]http://i93.photobucket.com/albums/l52/shaka1213/ron-burgundy.jpg[/image]

Bemyprize -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:27:10 PM)
[/quote] Let me turn this around. You see the lovely woman of your dreams at a party. She seems to be everything you want. Do you walk up to her, whip out your penis, and ask to smell her feet? Or do you say hello, how are you, along with all of the other boring stuff.............. [/quote] Ah... that explains the slaps Im getting at parties... I snickered at the visual....

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:28:26 PM)
Hm. Am starting another thread in general.

OsideGirl -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:37:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlipSlidingAway I get the feeling the op does not quite understand the fact that this side of the site is to foster discussion. The OP also doesn't understand that he's looking for a woman in a venue where sub men outnumber Dominant women 50:1. The women get to call the shots and if he doesn't like it, he'll be the one who pays the penalty by not finding what he's looking for. The women here couldn't care less if he's dated celebrities or if his vanilla email box is full. All that's registering on their radars right now is that they have told him that they don't like being approached as a kink delivery system.....and he's trying to tell them that they're wrong.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:40:33 PM)
Since we are also not slender, petite, blue eyed brunettes who are local to him, AND most people on the profile side don't read the forums...

OsideGirl -> RE: What's an acceptable introduction? (10/3/2012 2:52:56 PM)
I just found the whole "I've dated celebrities" thing to be funny. I don't define myself by who I've dated. I've dated a guy that has written three books and a lucrative computer program, a guy who is the VP of a radio network and the owner of a who's who restaurant. I've dated a sportscaster, a model, two guys whose families show up in the Social Register and one in Burke's. Big whoop....all that and $3 will get me a latte at Starbucks. None of that raises your value. If you're putz, you're a putz no matter who you've dated.

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