BambiBoi
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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12 . . . 1) I begin talking to a man who defines himself as a Master, but within the first few minutes of talking he tells me how he spent 2 years as a 24/7 CNC slave for a Mistress before switching to being a Dominant. 2) A man contacts me who has labelled himself as a slave in his profile. He tells me that he likes my profile and is interested in 'switching' (his words) in order to enjoy some anal play and am I interested? When I tell him no, he claims that he has always had a dominant personality and that he is not a switch, and that he is not going to repeat himself to me because it's my fault if I just don't get it. 3) A man contacts me who has labelled himself as a switch. When I tell him I am not looking for a switch he replies that he is not actually a switch, he merely labels himself as a switch so that he can decide 'what situations he puts himself into'. So, thoughts? 1) He identifies as a switch because he did switch. In this scenario, try to be more understanding that some people are not born with an innate knowledge of their D/s orientation. Especially dominants. Most people start as novices, and its easier to bottom when you have no idea what you're doing. I consider it a mark of value in a top that they were once a bottom, not a black mark on the record. We all submit one way or another, so why be so picky on exactly how? Even listening to a mentor can be described as some sort of submission. 2 and 3) Just trying to get laid. Let it be said that "slave, sub, switch or dom" are insufficient titles to properly classify the wide taxonomy of human sexuality. But anyone who claims one and back peddles later raises a red flag for honesty. I'd assume this type of person is trying to get a leg over through opportunistic behavior. I wouldn't instantly rule them all out: Maybe they have a legitimate excuse. But I'd apply a strict level of scrutiny to their story. I, for example, identify as a switch. It's because I will gladly service top if that is desired. If it is not desired, I won't service top. I feel no "need" to do it, it's just an optional kink: Like licking feet or washing pans (two other things I'm not psyched to do, but will comply happily if ordered). So a submissive might feel "ugh, Bambi could never enjoy my submission thoroughly because he's just switching." That would be accurate. A dominant could say "ugh, Bambi could never submit because he's a switch." That is not accurate. The legitimate reason I identify as a switch does not affect that relationship. Just like Guy #1, who has made a net-shift to the other side, is not incapable of enjoying a subby. tl;dr? The ranks of switches is full of horny boys. And Bambi bois. And I heard there's a girl switch, but that's just rumor. Like Nessy and Bigfoot.
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