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oddlots347 -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 12:11:26 PM)

TheLilSquaw If They would do what you were saying they would only be trying to deceive. I do not ask every person I have contact with on the internet to do this. Just ones that are honestly looking for 24/7 D/s relations and I do not just immediately say send me that picture. It is after a is common interest has been formed.



absolutchocolat -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 12:29:25 PM)

if the people you talk to already have photos on their profile, just google the image. if thousands of results pop up, chances are, the pic is fake.



chatterbox24 -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 12:51:38 PM)

I only message back and forth if someone tatoes their ass with my name on it on the second email and shows me on cam. No one is taking me up on this? Not sure why.



oddlots347 -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 1:27:04 PM)

chatterbox24 Wow that is a bit extreme, but if it works for you then that is all that matters.



AllisonWilder -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 1:29:53 PM)

I have 14 pictures on my profile. All pictures of me. I hate cam verifying who I am because it makes the other person look paranoid but if I say no it immediately gets posted all over their profile that I'm a fake, a scammer and a man. If I was going to pretend to be someone I would at least pick one of those hot blonde, barbie types. I certainly wouldn't pretend to be a bbw with goofy hair.



LadyPact -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 3:06:15 PM)

I'd tell you to piss off.



xLaChienne -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 3:18:30 PM)

I know it is a radical idea - but I meet someone in person long before I ascertain if they are honest, sincere, or genuine.

Any fool can say they are seeking 24/7 blah blah blah on the internet.

I've never had someone ask Me to verify. If they did and I were truly interested then I would tell them to meet Me at X event. Simple. Direct. No muss, no fuss.

No matter what kind of picture you ask for, it can be faked. If someone is set on deceiving you then there is no amount of on line verification than can't be faked. So why bother? Just meet in person.




Kaliko -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 5:13:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

reminds me of the old kidnap movies hold up today's newspaper to your face. Let me get back to you on that....LoL

BadOne



Yes. This.

And the request seems...degrading. I wouldn't do it.



theRose4U -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 6:08:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

Osidegirl then if I had someone who told me that, that would be that and we both could walk away. As I said, it is something very simple and I could care less if someone has many pictures on there profile. If they can not or will not do this simple thing. It gets me wondering. They do not have to show there face, just hold it at there waste that would be fine as well.

First off...where do you get off? They aren't in a relationship with you, don't know you & have the sneaking suspicion all this obey me or else is because your dom sent you shopping for him.
So why should a person be bossed by someone they don't know?
That's likely shopping for a lazy dom?
That VERY likely wouldn't do the same for a stranger & would claim how smart that made them.

Seeing why this got moved [:'(]

Edit to add: as I suspected its 3rds you're doing this to. If you're this passive agressive it will guarantee you never have to share!!



oddlots347 -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 7:55:05 PM)

theRose4U Where I get off is simple. At first I was not like this then after wasting to much time talking with to many people who are not who or what they pretend to be, this is what I do to at least let me know the person I am talking with is who they say they are. It is as simple as that. I do not immediately request this, but if there is a common interest and we are not close enough to each other to meet then I mean it is not like I am asking them to spread there pussy and write the number on there pussy lipps and then take a picture. It is so simple.



Darkfeather -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 8:07:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

theRose4U Where I get off is simple. At first I was not like this then after wasting to much time talking with to many people who are not who or what they pretend to be, this is what I do to at least let me know the person I am talking with is who they say they are. It is as simple as that. I do not immediately request this, but if there is a common interest and we are not close enough to each other to meet then I mean it is not like I am asking them to spread there pussy and write the number on there pussy lipps and then take a picture. It is so simple.


You are missing the point. To ask someone to verify strictly for your peace of mind is at best insulting to them, at worse opening you up to fraud (moral sense, not legal). Most people just use common sense to weed out potential problems, you'd do best to go that route



DesFIP -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 8:26:11 PM)

Anybody who starts out talking to me saying they believe I'm a fake and a liar is not someone I would want to meet. So the moment someone tried that on me, I'd be saying bye bye entitled asshole.



artemiss -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 10:19:50 PM)

Seems to me, if you doubt them enough to necessitate that, there are already issues.

Besides, a pic with a number on it doesn't prove anything about intention. One can play games just as easily with a recent pic as they can with a stolen pic.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: A simple task (11/9/2012 11:26:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

SylvereApLeanan I am glad for you and glad everything worked out for you. I have just met to many players and wanna bee's since I have been on this site and for me it works best.


I call bullshit.

If your way were in any way superior, you would not have the problem of meeting "to many players and wanna bee's" [sic] and you would be finding qualified and quality partners left and right. You certainly wouldn't feel the need to come to this message board and instruct us on how to avoid them. (As if we needed your advice, which we don't. Promise.) But you did feel that need, so it seems to me that your way isn't working out all that well.

On the other hand, I have never asked for this type of verification and I have met at least dozen people from this site, three of whom have been play partners, and the most recent is my current submissive. I know for a fact that several of the other posters on this thread have met and played with more than twice as many people from this site as I have. Some are currently involved with a partner they met here. From where I sit, the numbers appear to be in favor of those who don't require verification in order to engage in conversation.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 2:25:37 AM)

FR:

That these people still don't see the flaw in their logic and make attempts to defend themselves tells you everything you need to know about this couple.

The verify yourself with a picture thing has been around for a good 15 years that *I* know about. It's nothing new, and as others have pointed out, not any sort of real verification in any case.

Treat people like people. If they are incapable of treating you like a person back, then stop communicating. If they *are* capable, then plan to meet early. Since most 'fakes' are incapable of following through on a meet, it's *the* weeding out process.

I've never had a no-show when meeting real time someone I'd met first online, but then I think my bullshit-o-meter is fairly well calibrated.



littlewonder -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 12:03:44 PM)

If someone on here told me to do that, I'd just delete his email with no response back. It says to me that he's paranoid and doesn't trust people and is taking this all WAAAYYY too seriously.

Then again, I met Master with no picture or phone calls. <shrug>



OsideGirl -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 12:16:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather


You are missing the point. To ask someone to verify strictly for your peace of mind is at best insulting to them


Assuming someone is fake and expecting them to prove otherwise is an extremely negative way to start dialog. Plus it tells me that your cognitive skills aren't very good. It paints the OP in a negative light and makes me question their decision making ability.

I'm also going to go back to a statement I make thousands of times:

There are a zillion couples looking for a third and very few women willing to be a third. Your competition is extremely stiff. How you come across is going to matter because those women get to pick and choose.

You just had a bunch of people tell you that your approach would cause them to walk away. But, rather than taking that to heart and understanding what we're saying.....you still keep arguing that your way is the right way.

If you ignore what the purchaser thinks, you won't sell your product.....and you'll have a very long, unproductive search.



FlashinaPan -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 2:46:49 PM)

I can't say that I've ever encountered anyone who's been fake (and that might be bc I'm not male) but I don't think it takes a rocket scientist to figure out fake from real. In my experience, real people speak in complete sentences, use proper grammar, and actually say something about themselves and what they want. Unless there's something tangible in it for the person who's doing the scamming (money, etc), I don't think they'd go through the motions of making themselves appear real.



oddlots347 -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 8:06:29 PM)

All points taken and understand. If we are going to start a conversation with someone, just do that and see where things and how things go and do not just assume they are fake because of this or that.



littlewonder -> RE: A simple task (11/10/2012 8:10:20 PM)

Now you're getting it. You talk to people here just like you would anyone else on the planet you would run into. No different. And if you can't tell a scam from the real thing, I would take a break and do some studying for awhile until you figure it out.



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