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saddleface -> Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 12:09:33 AM)

Hi, I,m a submissive and totally new to all this and as yet had no real interest despite contacting some people. Is it because I live in New Zealand where the scene is almost non-existent or is because my profile is crap? Or both? If it's my profile I will try and improve it but if it's because the scene in NZ is crap I may as well become celibate and go find the nearest pub.
I am a young looking 46 year old bi-curious, very submissive male.

Any constructive advice will be much appreciated.



absolutchocolat -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 12:16:46 AM)

well, you can start with adding more about yourself. what are your kinks? there aren't any listed. even if you've never tried anything, what interests you about being submissive? put those things in your profile.



saddleface -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 12:59:44 AM)

Hi absolutchoclate, thanks for the reply. So you think my profile needs more detail? I did think about putting more in but I thought it would be better to keep it concise and to the point. I was worried about it turning in to a big ramble. So, for example if I put something like: Loves foot/boot worship, pony play, hand over mouth and being face sat would increase interest?

Btw- I love your face-sitting quote- very true-for me anyway [:)]



DaddySatyr -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 1:02:39 AM)

Just for clarification; I would also make sure you add plenty of information about you, as a person. I don't mean full name and address but what you like to do, some of your goals and positions on things. You know, let people know who you are, a little bit.

Good luck to you.



Peace and comfort,



Michael

Edited to Add: I just looked at your profile and saw that you're a Kiwi! Kia ora! Tene kotau!



AllisonWilder -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 1:10:33 AM)

If you make your profile too kink-oriented people will assume that you're only looking for sex. Find a balance. Talk about who you are, what you like in the vanilla world. Utilize the interests check boxes to show some of your kinky interests so you don't have to spend paragraph after paragraph writing it, too.



absolutchocolat -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 1:28:16 AM)

thanks. daddysatyr and allisonwilder are right...add some stuff about you as a person. speaking for myself, when i see a profile with only kinks listed i skip right past it, because the person behind the kink is much more interesting.



saddleface -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 1:41:57 AM)

Thank you everyone, this is all good feedback and seemingly I have also made some spelling mistakes (embarrassing!!).

Saddleface



GreedyTop -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 2:34:59 AM)

Also include skills that you have (or are willing to learn) that indicate stuff you can do to make your mistresses life easier (bookkeeping/cooking beyond basics/handyman/etc).



FrostedFlake -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 3:07:45 AM)

And this might help.

http://www.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html
http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_60/66b_success.html
http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_100/117_success.html
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1717756
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057095/tm.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm
http://the1585.com/performativemasculinity.htm
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting?page=1
http://gayglobeus.powweb.com/barbarella.html

Best wishes.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 3:53:11 AM)

The most important thing you have to do to become enslaved is to be the type of person someone wants to enslave.

And since you haven't met the person yet, you work to be the best person you can be.

You're new, there's lots to learn, and this is a good place for it. Welcome to the discussion side.



DarkSteven -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 5:49:44 AM)

1. "If you are a genuinely dominant woman or man looking to capture a slave in the Wellington area then you could have me on my knees and at your feet soon! I am here to be taken. I am willing to commit as much as possible."

A D/s relationship is a relationship. It takes time to gauge compatibility. You want some insta-fix. That and the title "what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved" indicate that you think that this is a matchup of kinks. It's MUCH more.

2. Also, I just hosted a young lady last month who is quite active in the Auckland scene. Saying that the entire NZ scene is crap is ridiculous. Here is a Wellington group:

https://fetlife.com/groups/37119



OsideGirl -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 7:58:18 AM)

I second what everyone else said...add more about WHO you are. The good news is what you have there is well written and shows you in an intelligent light.

There's a sticky at the top of the Ask a Mistress forum that has some good information, too.

Welcome to the forums.



theRose4U -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 8:05:10 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: saddleface

Hi absolutchoclate, thanks for the reply. So you think my profile needs more detail? I did think about putting more in but I thought it would be better to keep it concise and to the point. I was worried about it turning in to a big ramble. So, for example if I put something like: Loves foot/boot worship, pony play, hand over mouth and being face sat would increase interest?

Btw- I love your face-sitting quote- very true-for me anyway [:)]

This is the EXACT OPPOSITE of what everyone meant!!

Try enjoys football, excelent grill cook, technically minded & enjoys face sitting (explaining name & only one kink you enjoy)



kalikshama -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 9:58:43 AM)

I don't look at profiles that don't include pictures and other women may feel the same way. You can easily make them anonymous, for example, by putting a big blue square over your face.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 10:02:56 AM)

Make sure that you are not making yourself look like you want a kink delivery system rather than a woman. There is nothing less appealing than a man looking for a generic "Mistress' to enslave him because he wants the slavery more than he wants the woman he is with.



saddleface -> RE: Hi and what's a guy gotta do to be enslaved? (11/12/2012 10:37:08 AM)

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply. There are some things here for me to consider no doubt.

Saddleface



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