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ORIGINAL: MizSuz

Gentlemen:

I have an account on alt (the screenname there is MizSuz1) which reads much the same as my profile here on collarme. I think that my profile is pretty clear about my orientation and desired forms of interaction (and especially what I don't wish to partake in).

I often get correspondence from dominant/top men. I am an equal opportunity corresponder and am quite willing to entertain some level of discourse with anyone who inquires in a polite way. It is not uncommon during the course of these interactions to be asked if I have any interest in switching, if I have interest in co-topping with them, or to inform me that THEY switch (for the right woman, of course). Again, I generally respond thoughtfully when I am approached using some form of polite social convention.

The following is an example of some of the 'drek' I often receive. To be fair I will post my response to this individual as well.

I am now asking you, as a dominant male, to please communicate to me what you think could possibly be happening in the mind of one who would initiate an interaction with a dominant woman in this manner.

I look forward to reading your thoughts and thank you in advance for your attention to this request.

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From "sirwilliam007" on alt.com

Know first that my initial attraction is too kiss your lovely face and engage in foreplay that makes your mind mine. Then get you all hot and bothered with my erostek remote the triggers various electro-stimulation toys to get you into expressing your feminine side.
I love whipping a woman... and it looks like you have plenty of them. The morgan single tail in your hand *note from Suz - the whip he is referring to is a Wheeler* belongs in my hands... and the stingy kiss thawks on your leather assed corset would be most delightful to my ears... and with your moans of pain and pleasure.

Meeting you at a brunch is a waste of my time... you're welcome to have a trusted female friend of yours chaperone our time together in your playspace. I will not be interested in her at all... I am attracted to your smug look... and a desire to wipe that look off your face and use you like a woman's meant to be used. Your friend needs to be very scene familiar or what I do to you will squick her out.

You can send me your website link if you so desire... but it definitly has limited interest to me. You look like a strong capable woman... one that has a good head of hair to grasp as I rip your feminine panties from you domme attire... forcing you in front of a mirror and showing you that your naked pussy means you're now going to experience the pleasure of being a very expressive bottom... and possibly become my exclusive slave.

Dare to bring up references of bad grammer with me and you will be harshly caned. Got it lil miss suzie.

I am interested in normal conversation and familiarity before I kiss you... or impart stingy kisses to your arse. Suggest a restaurant of your choosing... and some dates and times that work best for you.

Save the domme crap for the wimps. You know what I want from you.

Here is a pix of a girl that came as a domme and was made to switch clothes with her subby girl friend... she had it coming. She is now her girlfriend's capable and eager slave.

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A Dom/Top in the formal scene for 5 years. Being an engineer and sailor... technical bondage is one of my favorite scene activities. I use anything from ropes and chains, to shackles, suspension rigs, Danny's cuffs, etc. A woman in bondage... submits more deeply. I love making a woman vulnerable to sensations that will make her dewy wet with waves of building passion that fuels her desire to please me!

I love flagellation! To savor a woman's feminine whimpers and moans of prolonged pending surrender thrills my primal desires! I use floggers for warm-up, crops/dressage/single-tail whips for giving stingy kisses. If you love the cane... and wear short pleated skirts... I know what you need! I take time to map a woman carefully... testing your reactions to various
levels or intensity... till I find the right mix of sensations that make your Mistress my slave... your wonderful mind!

I am sensual, engaging all of a woman's senses. Grapes to strawberries, rabbit fur mitts, vampire gloves, ice phallus mixed with dripping wax, brass belled nipple and labia clips, warm almond massage oils, long stemmed red roses and bear grass, special fx, silcone dildos and astroglide, my cock/mouth/teeth and powerful hands... Kuma Sutra honey dust to lick, soft candle lit rooms, blue and red light bulbs, enya/enigma/peter gabriel enhancing the mood! Much more!

I love creating a special scene for a woman that has expressed her deepest desires to me! This sets me apart from most Doms. I love casting a spell of mastery that allow full expression of a woman's inner being! I am financially secure. Buying fetish attire for a slave girl of mine, or tickets to a house party across the country is not going to limit me!

Fetish attire. I love a feminine woman. High heels, short skirts. lacy blouses, Victoria Secret lingerie, thi-high nylons, ff-stockings (UK grade), corsets. I love a woman with renaissance spirit... chainmaile on a
woman really excites me. Latex is my favorite material for a woman to wear... it conducts heat, like a second skin, the material is so sexual and whippable!!! PVC is ok, spandex is great! I love northbound leather goods... a woman that wears leather and likes to smell and lick leather is most delightful! I love black attire, though a simple summer dress, white heels, pink hose... a stiff breeze that makes you hold the short hem down... as I twist and tug on your nipples leading you through a meadow
after I have chased and captured you for ravishment! Colorful attire, white for instance to me translates into ultra-feminine submissive... stripping away your vanillaness and transforming you into a dark angel
...I like that contrast.

I am safe, sane, and consensual. If your a novice, consider reading "Send me the thorns, screw the roses!" before we meet. I practice safe sex, know how to keep my quality toys properly cleaned, and I always have a safety plan that we discuss and agree to before we play. I have taken the time to properly educate myself via bdsm workshops DFP Galas, TES 25, BR98, and Boston’s BDS. I have integrated erotic activities that appeal to my sense of intimate expression from what I have learned and observed from experienced folk in the scene and other aspects of my life... such as meditation, yoga, and my love for the outdoors. I am disease free and healthy. I have never smoked and rarily drink. To me there is no greater rush than thrilling a woman to the very core of what she desires
and craves from me. I am open and nonjudgemental and expect the same respect from you when we meet. I prefer to meet socially first to become familiar with each other... far more efficient and more enjoyable
than virtual exchanges.

Much more. Looking forward to your response!

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My response:

William,

Thank you so very much for such a well thought out (and executed) comedy. I appreciate your efforts to amuse me while I drink my morning coffee.

To further amuse me I intend to post and share your email to collarme.com where some of the lifestylers there are sure to get as much amusement from it as I do now.

Good luck with your quest (I suspect you may need it).

Superlatively,
Suz
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Gentlemen, your thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: MizSuz


I take no offense. In fact, there are many people who feel the way you do. I, however, am of the opinion that once you send an email it is not yours anymore. If it were snailmail and you put it in the post box it would no longer belong to you. The same applies here. The notion of true anonymity on the internet is a fantasy.

Besides, I learned when I was 12 that if I didn't want someone to see something I should never write it down. I dont feel compelled to play by the 'moral code' of someone who would deal with me thusly. Morals are an individual thing. Integrity is key and this man had none. I figured I was acting in integrity by telling him what I intended to do with it.

Blind adherence to morality creates a nice little place for people like this to perpetrate their chaos on others. I choose not to enable that, I choose to think and decide for myself.

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ORIGINAL: MizSuz

Gentlemen, your thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

10 yrs old. just sayin'.

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Stephan,

These are some great thoughts and I appreciate your insight. It didn't occur to me until after I had made this post that the person who sent that email may have actually been trying to play out a 'take the dominant down' fantasy and, while his approach was pitiful, that there are some women who may have responded either positively to the approach itself or may have "risen to his challenge" and would have engaged him on his terms and therefore he would have been moderately successful anyway.

I'm too hung up on consent. TAKING things from people isn't a part of my make up. In fact one of the reasons I like begging so much is because it keeps the lines of responsibility very clear. Even if I did have submissive proclivities it never would have occurred to me to respond positively to his inquiry. I do not find "dominant who aren't afraid to take what they want" in first time interactions attractive, positive, or even marginally intelligent.

I'm glad you got the chuckle too. hahaha I know I did and, as I said in the my original response to him, I thought some folks on here may have found it amusing (while also finding it rather sad).