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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:18:57 PM

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kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:31:55 PM

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How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir?

How is that any different than vanilla dating? People rarely find the person they're compatible with on the first try.

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I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated.

Please see what Broken Kajira wrote:

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I know his very first message to me wasn't "hello" or "hi" ... it was just that I was a fucking fake, lol.

While he might very well be frustrated, but he's using it as justification to behave like an ass. You reap what you sow. His behavior is determining his experiences here.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:32:43 PM

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I'm actually amazed at the negativity of those who do use these boards with regularity. you're all in your own little click and just think you're the cats fuckin meow. Truly astonishing the bullshit I read here. Least y'all give me a good laugh every now and then. Especially when you call someone else a whinger when you yourselves are demonstrating what a whinger is by being a whinger. It's just fuckin funny

You and the OP need to get out and have a life. If you can get a vanilla date out in the real world or on a vanilla dating site and rock her world (not just in the bedroom, though that helps) then you can do it here as a dominate male. The opportunities for male doms are pretty awesome from what I can tell.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:34:27 PM

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I don't know why folks seem to think that the BDSM community is any different to any other vanilla dating site.

There will always be fakes and posers.
There will always be those that pretend to be what they aren't.
Oh... and don't forget the proverbial scammers out there trying it on anyone they see.
There are also those that just don't "gel" when they are together so the chemistry just doesn't spark.
There's those that start off ok and for some reason or other there are issues in one that the other cannot or will not deal with.

For most people using such sites, they see how things go and if their bait doesn't catch anything after a while they change tactic and/or the bait they are using.
However, there are some that just think what bait they are using must be right (because it's bait and the waffle says it works) and therefore they assume that the site is full of crap and fakes. These are the ones that won't change tack or bait and prefer to think the rest of the world is at fault rather than assuming that they themselves, or their approach, are the ones that need remedial help.

I rather think that OP falls into such a category.
And because his bait fails, he assumes there's no decent fish in the river to catch.

Just my

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:36:48 PM

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kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

His profile, nor the OP, has nothing to do with frustration and everything to do with belittling others.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:50:20 PM

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What amuses me in my sleep-deprived state is that a whinger joined in the convo late to complain about all of the people whinging about the OP who is the biggest whinger of all.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:52:39 PM

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tazzygirl Why? Because I abhor fat? Or I expect a slave to actually act and be as they say? This isn't nilla. If it was nilla there wouldn't be much point to me looking for a slave here. How it is like nilla though is as my wife says. Boys drool. Girls rule. As evidenced by all of the holier than thou female posts here

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:52:53 PM

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kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

Actually, he was the first one i met in real time. I fell head over heels into the fire with him. and loved every moment.

and having been on this site for a while, it gets old when people come on and complain about how no-one is real and everyone is fake or wants money to play. If they settled down a bit, they would see that a bit of patience goes a long way - as does meeting people early on in the process.
I do have to say that being a female sub makes it way easier for me to meet people than being a male dominant. I have the numbers on my side.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 2:54:54 PM

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and yes - boys do drool, and girls do rule. Duh!

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 3:07:13 PM

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kiwisub12 spoken like a twue submissive *chuckles

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 3:19:11 PM

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When my Sir died, i started the process again - and met several men that as nice as they were, they weren't for me. And as gently as i knew how, i let them know it. I guess they could have got upset and called me a fake sub - but it wouldn't have made me any the more inclined to change my mind. The nice thing about being in the 21st century is that we all get to choose who we dominate/submit to.

My Sir was as dominant a man as you could want to meet - but there were those who thought i wasn't as submissive as i should be. Of course, he was dominant enough for me to submit to, and in all the ways he wanted. I can be a huge smart arse, but all it took was a look for me to rein myself in.
The thing is, is that there isn't a submission or dominant scale judging us all as to wheither we are or aren't what we say we are. If i say i'm submissive, then i am, to someone. Just because someone else wants to call me a fake doesn't make it so.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 4:03:49 PM

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tazzygirl Why? Because I abhor fat? Or I expect a slave to actually act and be as they say? This isn't nilla. If it was nilla there wouldn't be much point to me looking for a slave here. How it is like nilla though is as my wife says. Boys drool. Girls rule. As evidenced by all of the holier than thou female posts here

So you are the OP. That is actually beneficial to know. However, no, its not because you "abhor" fat. Thats a personal preference. One you are entitled to make. However, you pass into judgmental space when you start attacking people you have no interest in simply because of that weight.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 4:15:08 PM

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kiwisub12 No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

Master emailed me after I had been here just over a month. It didn't take me long at all to find him.

I found several men that were not compatible, but not one "fake". They were all real people, even if they were not the man for me.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 4:30:25 PM

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Well...this is a fascinating jumble of various rants...

Posers and Fakes - no one other than me has been approached in a bar by a guy who swears he is Chief of Medicine at some hospital? Or a photographer for Vogue? Or that he golfs with the president of the US, owns and pilots his own plane, is on the UN Security Council's Speed Dial? And my personal favorite...he owns a mansion, has a billion dollars in the bank, has 3 degrees, loves kids and dogs...but he can't find a single "good woman to share it with?" The Internet just allows them a wider audience. Fortunately, it also gives us background checks, databases to check sexual predators, inmates and judiciary records..

Law of Supply and Demand - frankly the demand for no limit slaves, bisexual women who want to be slaves, and men who will pay for everything is exponentially higher than the supply...much like employers who want to hire the top 1% of those who graduate from Ivy League Colleges...expect to make concessions, pay above average wages, provide benefits and perks that make you a more attractive option than one of the other 200 men or women who are looking for the same thing. If every women in the US was a size 0, with sculpted cheekbones, flowing manes of hair and legs up to their armpits...supermodels would be making $10/hr too. Frankly, based on the number of offers I have received... You are applying to be my master..treat your messages to me like you are interviewing and trying to impress because, frankly, you are. I hate your message or feel insulted, I am deleting & going to the next applicant who, unlike you, recognizes the need to woo upfront because he will never get to the stage where he can negotiate terms unless he does...plus they know that the more intrigued I am, the higher up on the candidate list they go which leads to negotiating power in his favor...

Finally...as one of those spelling czars..somebody PLEASE correct the title of this thread. It is driving me insane!

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RE: Negative experiences - 12/4/2012 4:33:33 PM

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Fixed.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 4:49:35 PM

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No I mean it sucks for a great many. How many wannabe's did you have to go through before you met your Sir? Before you found your appropriate match? I can understand the Op's frustration. Their approach sucks. But they simply sound frustrated. The clique (see? proper spelling an old dog can learn new tricks) here belittling them further I don't think is helping much. They just sound like they're taking their own frustrations out on him (or her, whichever the case may be) Which is like a dog chasing its tail. Not much is accomplished. But it sure is funny to watch

I agree that it is funny to watch, but probably not for the reason that you do. I happen to find some of the comments that folks here on the forums make to be hilarious. Having looked over the pages of this thread, I think that comes from a good sense of comedy, rather than frustrations. The majority of folks on this thread are in long term dynamics so maybe, just maybe, they have success where the OP has failed. As the old saying goes, you can't argue with success.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 6:53:47 PM

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tazzygirl Where do you come up with the idea I'm the OP? you said you or he. which the you would imply me. But I'm not the OP

Neither I nor my wife believe there's any such thing as a "no limit slave" Ask most any no limit if they do housework. Invariably they don't. Welp, there's a limit. no limit is bullshit and we all know it. Full service isn't no limit. For myself, I don't have any real desire to invest emotion online. Nor do I impose control or any of the other vagaries online. I consider it ignorant behavior. With no real validity in reality. Perhaps I'm wrong. Oh well. Won't be the first time. I really don't expect to find a slave at this site. I've been burned too many times to believe in the unicorn. I just find the place kind of humorous and full of hypocrisy. Which that in and of itself, at least makes it interesting to some small degree. Thanks for the entertainment

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 7:08:11 PM

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 7:52:36 PM

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I agree, their approach sucks. However, free or not, the site does suck for finding an appropriate match .. (and no, I don't expect flattery to get me anywhere)

Sorry, folks, but I read your profile and you're going to have a really tough time finding a woman to suit you. The only suggestion I have is to start off D/s and work into M/s. Finding a bi woman willing to join an existing relationship is tough, and you wanting it to jump into M/s right away ain't helping.

You might do better at local events. But if you're in NM, I wouldn't expect many events outside of Albuquerque and Santa Fe.

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RE: Negative experiances - 12/4/2012 8:50:34 PM

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DarkSteven I appreciate your input. However, this isn't our first dance. (though the this profile was created in '10 I've been a member of the site since '04) Nor do I expect the profile to attract much of anyone. Let alone a full service slave. You're right though. Ain't much in NM. That's why when I've the opportunity. I visit Denver more often than not .. and as a (sort of) last point, we don't seek a bisexual slave. My wife isn't bi. Which in actuality. Just makes it that much harder. Tis the breaks ..... your profile on the other hand, reads really well

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