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HoneyBears -> RE: Two Switches (11/7/2013 5:02:41 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SweetAnise
To the OP, It is important to know yourself and be comfortable with whatever you are or will become. I have always been the odd one out of the box. The outcast so to speak. The unique or eccentric person. That is completely fine with me. Being a switch in the kink/lifestyle has afforded me the honors of being myself and never being ashamed of it. It takes awhile to become comfortable in your own skin but I am always open, learning, and evolving.
Well said, and it helps to educate others to think outside the box.
Those who are heavily involved in their BDSM lifestyle seem to be less tolerant of switches, we have found.
They assume switches are confused. They assume because I am dominant, my boy must always be sub or slave to me.
What I found was that the qualities I wanted from a sub fell short with so many male subs.
The ones that excelled at serving could not perform in bed beyond oral worship.
The ones who could perform were terrible at compliance, were not of a subbly disposition, not very trainable beyond focusing on getting their own fetishes and kinks gratified in the name of serving a "goddess."
Then there are those who no longer want to think for themselves and mistake this for slavish devotion.
By pure luck, or fate or destiny, I found a sub whose previous mistress had trained him into becoming a switch, or more of a service top for her.
I do not need him to top me, but it did get him out of the male sub mentality he had felt conflicted with in terms of his own masculinity.
We both like variety (in food, our tastes, disliking routine), and we find it in one another, with no desire to look elsewhere.
I always tell him he never ceases to amaze me. He tells me I never cease to inspire him. I hope that never changes.
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