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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 6:51:25 PM

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Kalikshama,

You were right to message him back on that one.

I do tell them what will happen, but just because its CM doesn't mean get right into the sex... i wanna know the person as well... if someone asks me "well what will you do when i'm a bad slave?" and i tell them, "first i'm going to have you gag and blindfold yourself, then i'm going to hogtie you and store you under my bed without food and water for a day" thats a descent punishment but to me, it depends on the individual, and the degree of wrong they did.... specifics come later for me. Because they are situational.

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Sixth- Sure i may be semi-new to this scene, but what is funny is you think that someone that has experience can satisfy another better than me.... i disagree. Because i am a student of the game. I don't just randomly do things, in this kind of dynamic there is a method to it.
Seventh- I don't have to be a part of the physical community to be kinky, so don't judge me seriously.

Men tell me all the time that they have experience. I want something more concrete, and if a man can say that he's active in the local community, or better yet, has given demos at BDSM events, that's a major plus. Sure, I've met men with much talent but little training, but I'm more likely to take a chance on someone who can back up his claim of experience.

I also get messages like this one from OKCupid, after I politely told someone he didn't have the experience I sought:

How rude to understatement my sexual abilities. .... I'm 6' 2", 200lbs, and have a thick 7inch cock, it's curved to hit the g spot. On top of that, a rock hard 6pack. And I can go for hours without cumming, or I can cum multiple times while staying erect.

That may be fine for vanilla chicks, but does nothing for me. Give me a sadist over a six pack every time!

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:05:51 PM

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ST,

I'm glad to make you clean your monitor! jk.

For the record, i'm not a player, i'm looking for a relationship ... have been in many successful relationships... you don't think for her to judge me like that was off base? Idk what to tell u.

For the record i have lots of love in my life, was merely creating this thread to see peoples prospective, and i got her prospective beyond what i wanted aka 2pac diss track version.

We may just agree to disagree on this one my friend.

I think perhaps you should stop putting words in people's mouths and realize that not everyone is out to get you, my friend

NOWHERE did I say ANYTHING about you being a player. I said (and I repeat) I wondered if the same prowess you experienced on POF was expected to follow you over here. Ah, its just as I suspected. At no time did I say ANYTHING about past relationships of yours nor did I ever utter the word "player" once. Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet? It took me a few YEARS to find the ideal partner I was looking for. I certainly wasnt on here within a few days of arriving complaining about the fact that I wasnt getting the attention I was looking for. It takes time. It takes patience. And above all else, it takes an ability to listen to people without putting your personal spin on whatever is being said unless it meshes with what you want to hear.

Instead of thinking the world is out to get you, perhaps you could stand down a little and maybe read what people are saying WITHOUT reading anything more into it than is there. You asked for thoughts from people, got the thoughts on peoples' minds, and are lashing out at everyone for giving you what you asked for.

< Message edited by SeekingTrinity -- 12/31/2012 7:07:35 PM >

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:08:37 PM

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I still don't think it was a slam on you, but we can agree to disagree... take all of this how you will, just use what you want and learn from it... I take you as a nice guy, young and brash but hell who wasn't at that age, and willing to learn and grow... just remember that to take all of this with a grain (or huge fucking heap) of salt...

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:11:23 PM

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Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet?

Let's also add that in the LA community, Dom men outnumber sub females at least 10:1. The women get to pick and choose and the competition is stiff. The Los Angeles area is full of good looking guys and bunch more that have money.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:14:47 PM

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Trinity,

True story, i was merely stating those points in relation to LP's comments that you read my response to. Only establishing who i am ... for the record ya kno?

I do like constructive criticism... the way she put it was like trying to scold me, and i wont have it. Period. I've done a lot for the US, i won't get into all of it, but i've done my duty many times over, i have a certain pride.... i believe i can handle anything thrown at me. I just don't like the way she came off so i was forced to play back.

Thats really as simple as it gets... i kind of wish we were all in person so we could maybe have a beer together and maybe laugh a little and just say "aaah its new years let bygones be bygones! :)"

I'm smilin regardless ...

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ST,

I'm glad to make you clean your monitor! jk.

For the record, i'm not a player, i'm looking for a relationship ... have been in many successful relationships... you don't think for her to judge me like that was off base? Idk what to tell u.

For the record i have lots of love in my life, was merely creating this thread to see peoples prospective, and i got her prospective beyond what i wanted aka 2pac diss track version.

We may just agree to disagree on this one my friend.

I think perhaps you should stop putting words in people's mouths and realize that not everyone is out to get you, my friend

NOWHERE did I say ANYTHING about you being a player. I said (and I repeat) I wondered if the same prowess you experienced on POF was expected to follow you over here. Ah, its just as I suspected. At no time did I say ANYTHING about past relationships of yours nor did I ever utter the word "player" once. Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet? It took me a few YEARS to find the ideal partner I was looking for. I certainly wasnt on here within a few days of arriving complaining about the fact that I wasnt getting the attention I was looking for. It takes time. It takes patience. And above all else, it takes an ability to listen to people without putting your personal spin on whatever is being said unless it meshes with what you want to hear.

Instead of thinking the world is out to get you, perhaps you could stand down a little and maybe read what people are saying WITHOUT reading anything more into it than is there. You asked for thoughts from people, got the thoughts on peoples' minds, and are lashing out at everyone for giving you what you asked for.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:16:33 PM

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Your so right... but i gotta say, money to me doesn't matter, if you have it you have it.... whether in a drop top AMG, or a 91 corolla with no rims lol!

They all wont fall at my feet, but one will... and then i wont be posting as much anymore :)

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity
Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet?

Let's also add that in the LA community, Dom men outnumber sub females at least 10:1. The women get to pick and choose and the competition is stiff. The Los Angeles area is full of good looking guys and bunch more that have money.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:18:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity
Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet?

Let's also add that in the LA community, Dom men outnumber sub females at least 10:1. The women get to pick and choose and the competition is stiff. The Los Angeles area is full of good looking guys and bunch more that have money.

Wow....nice to have those kind of 'odds' in your favour!!

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:18:11 PM

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No swearing@! my virgin ears!

I'm taking notes Sin...

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I still don't think it was a slam on you, but we can agree to disagree... take all of this how you will, just use what you want and learn from it... I take you as a nice guy, young and brash but hell who wasn't at that age, and willing to learn and grow... just remember that to take all of this with a grain (or huge fucking heap) of salt...

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:20:06 PM

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Y'know, I think I need to expand on something I've mentioned in other threads. Get out and play.

Go to a spanking party, or some kind of party featuring an activity you like. Get into conversations with people, women as well as men. Enjoy the conversations, and get to know people. Ask a few if they would like to play with you, after you've ascertained that they're free agents and not owned.

It'll be rough going at first, with rejections. But sooner or later, you'll get a Yes. Once people get to watch your technique, you'll get some interest.

It took me a couple of years to fully become a part of the local spanking scene. Now, I get to play with two to five women every party. There's not a single regular attendee who hasn't seen me top and knows that I'm safe and enjoy playing and try to make sure my spankees do as well. The end result is that I am known locally, and if I ever did become single (which is not on the horizon), then word would get out and I'd have local matchmakers abuzz.

My story is not unique. A good local rep is invaluable. Go and begin making yours.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:23:48 PM

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lol... hun if I were younger and in Cali I'd sweep you off your feet ;-) You'll do fine.. don't settle and remember to put it out there exactly what you are looking for and you will find her..

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:25:46 PM

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My story is not unique. A good local rep is invaluable. Go and begin making yours.

+1 ... local rep/interaction is where it's at. In my case, years ago to my surprise I ended up playing with two women that I met at a local regular BDSM gathering......never did that before (nor did I ever think I would be comfy playing with someone I wasn't personally involved with) but we had a blast that afternoon/evening to pop my "platonic play cherry."

Actually, one of my New Years resolutions is to reactivate my social life now that things are in a good groove for me professionally in my second career. That includes getting back out now and then to interact in the local DC/MD/VA kink scene where/when/as I can.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:40:45 PM

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Its been 2 weeks, dude. What the heck are you expecting....the submissives and slaves to come out of the woodwork to fall all over themselves at your feet?

Let's also add that in the LA community, Dom men outnumber sub females at least 10:1. The women get to pick and choose and the competition is stiff. The Los Angeles area is full of good looking guys and bunch more that have money.

Wow....nice to have those kind of 'odds' in your favour!!

I guess, but I mostly found it annoying. Kind of like running through the lawn sprinkler is fun, but getting sprayed by a fire hose isn't.

You have to have your boundaries set in stone, otherwise you'll be overwhelmed. And there's a lot of chaff to sift through. Arrogant guys made themselves easy to spot, so at least that narrowed it down some.

When I broke up with my ex of 6 years, I waited a few weeks before I said anything to anyone that wasn't a close friend. When I finally did, the next day I had 60 emails in my inbox....and those were all from guys I knew in real life. In a four week period, I had over 400 messages (this is pre-Collar Me and the like).

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:44:28 PM

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For the record, i'm not a player, i'm looking for a relationship ... have been in many successful relationships

I won't be reading the back and forth on this thread, but I saw this line in the scroll window and it caught my attention.

Unless you are, say, fifty years old, I doubt your definition of "successful relationship" is the same as my own, if you've had "many" of them.

I've been glad you're starting these threads, because I'm sure many other people have the questions you're asking. However, for whatever it might be worth to you: from the way you phrase your OPs, you strike me as a serial online dater, who is most likely to attract women looking for experiences rather than relationships. I mean no moral judgement or snark by this, but it might be worth considering.

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Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 7:52:07 PM

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Your so right... but i gotta say, money to me doesn't matter, if you have it you have it....

It may not matter to you. But to some women, it will matter. Los Angeles is Los Angeles, after all.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:06:33 PM

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Thanks for the feedback... i used to be one of those about 2 yrs ago... then i got over it and matured... having meaningful relationships is all i care about.

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ORIGINAL: ccc3333
For the record, i'm not a player, i'm looking for a relationship ... have been in many successful relationships

I won't be reading the back and forth on this thread, but I saw this line in the scroll window and it caught my attention.

Unless you are, say, fifty years old, I doubt your definition of "successful relationship" is the same as my own, if you've had "many" of them.

I've been glad you're starting these threads, because I'm sure many other people have the questions you're asking. However, for whatever it might be worth to you: from the way you phrase your OPs, you strike me as a serial online dater, who is most likely to attract women looking for experiences rather than relationships. I mean no moral judgement or snark by this, but it might be worth considering.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:07:48 PM

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Very right... which is cool... money does help, but the soul is the soul, i'll always have mine.

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Your so right... but i gotta say, money to me doesn't matter, if you have it you have it....

It may not matter to you. But to some women, it will matter. Los Angeles is Los Angeles, after all.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:12:33 PM

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Very right... which is cool... money does help, but the soul is the soul, i'll always have mine.

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Your so right... but i gotta say, money to me doesn't matter, if you have it you have it....

It may not matter to you. But to some women, it will matter. Los Angeles is Los Angeles, after all.

You keep missing the point. It reduces the number of women in the community that are available for you to date.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:31:58 PM

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Got the point. I am aware LA is the capital of gold digging, however it's also the capital of transition... so many immigrants here from the world... most are poor!

C

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ORIGINAL: ccc3333

Very right... which is cool... money does help, but the soul is the soul, i'll always have mine.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: ccc3333

Your so right... but i gotta say, money to me doesn't matter, if you have it you have it....

It may not matter to you. But to some women, it will matter. Los Angeles is Los Angeles, after all.

You keep missing the point. It reduces the number of women in the community that are available for you to date.

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:37:28 PM

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I just smoked my last cigarette.

I hate everyone now.

(I'm just preparing for the self loathing part).

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RE: Is Collarme . com the best place to find a Sub/Slav... - 12/31/2012 8:58:29 PM

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Preciateit... you know your name got bleeped out! all i did was S I N ... you must be bad!

lol

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lol... hun if I were younger and in Cali I'd sweep you off your feet ;-) You'll do fine.. don't settle and remember to put it out there exactly what you are looking for and you will find her..

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