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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 4:47:19 PM

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my point to crazyml's thread is that he doesn't get the right to tell people to fuck off and leave the site just because he doesn't like what he's reading.

Actually...he does. Just as you have the right to tell him "fuck no".

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Things I have seen....

Photos of drug use in threads....
Photos of children.... possibly the most tasteless was one of an infant with a condom over its head
Personal Information... phone numbers, addresses, ect.
Drug conversations... ranging from sorta funny to simply asinine.
Pedophile jokes/Drug jokes... if you cant talk about either, why does anyone think they can joke about them?

As far as "passing things on by"

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 4:57:33 PM

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In our family we always tell each other something is stupid or even that they are stupid. Not a big deal. We fight, we argue, we debate, kiss and make up and move on. No big deal. So we all don't agree and so we think each of us is stupid. That's their view....not the end of the world. We all think my oldest sister is an airhead. We've even told her at times when she is always, always late for stuff and always, always forgets to do something that we reminded her of 10 times. Yeah, she gets all whiney about it. We roll our eyes and everyone moves on. We're sisters. We've done worse to each other lol.

well,.. for me it is a big deal.. I wont be kissing and making up with my brother.. he not only said hurtful things but he used his position as executor to make things difficult for me and lord over me.. he is vindictive.. and he's a lawyer so that should tell you everything.. lol I will never forgive him for that.. and I feel no loss, cuz people like him I want nothing to do with.. family or not..

maybe your sister would be less of an airhead if you didnt keep telling her she was, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.. sometimes people become what is expected of them..

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 6:52:50 PM

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I come to CM to enjoy myself. It's my little neighborhood playground. I like this playground, and I'm OK with abiding by the rules of the playground. Personal attacks are not allowed in the rules of the playground. I don't want to have to deny myself playing on the jungle gym - or only playing on certain parts of the jungle gym, because other people aren't following the rules. The personal attacks affect my enjoyment of this site. I don't want to have to avoid threads or have to sift through post after post to get to the fun stuff. I find *that* to be an imposition on *me.*

Now, I realize this is not a perfect world and there's always going to be some sifting going on. But to me, posts containing personal attacks on others is litter. Litter that is against TOS. Why should I accept that imposition? You say "Why spoil it for others?" and I ask, isn't that what threads full of attacks are doing for readers who don't want to see that shit?

I call CM my little online "Cheers" bar.
Thanks NV, there are a few of us that don't find "personal attacks, nasty, belittling, constant or continuous mean spirited remarks ", amusing or entertaining.
We also have a RIGHT to feel this way.
Keep picking up the trash, and I will also do what I can to keep things tidy.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:05:27 PM

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I hate to do it, but again I will reference the four lesbians. I grew to dislike them quite a bit. I thought their posts were vicious and offensive, designed to provoke. I used to roll my eyes at the thought of others here engaging with these "people" who were constantly negative, posting inflammatory nonsense, and insulting many, many people. (Myself included...I believe I had to ask them to refrain from calling me a cunt in their response.)

So you know what I did? I didn't read their posts. That's all. I would never have dreamed of reporting any of them based on how I thought they were treating other people. I would not have ruined the experience that someone else was enjoying just because I didn't like them. Because then Heather/Hannah would have been right. I would have been acting like a cunt.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:08:52 PM

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Kaliko, I am not sure if your post is aimed at me, but we have the RIGHT to report people on here.

We don't need permission or a consensus of opinion in order to report posts.

Just as people have the freedom to go over 50 pages giving "constructive criticisms" to the powers that be.
The powers that be also created the "report" and hide features, which I enjoy using!

I have several people on hide, and I make it a point NOT to read many posters/and threads.

I always wonder about those that complain incessantly over several posters, but REFUSE to put them on hide, and continue to respond to them.

I USE the hide/ignore feature, it's great!!

I am very selective in what I read, and respond to on these boards.
In fact, I bet I normally don't read 80% of the threads created on this board.

I am honestly answering the question asked in this OP, and I am not ashamed of reporting people.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:21:25 PM

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Alright, if you all do not get me clones of Lucylastic and Tazzygirl, I am gonna report you all

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:25:29 PM

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Alright, if you all do not get me clones of Lucylastic and Tazzygirl, I am gonna report you all

lol, report me, make my day!

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:34:31 PM

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Kaliko, I am not sure if your post is aimed at me, but we have the RIGHT to report people on here.

We don't need permission or a consensus of opinion in order to report posts.

I also have several people on hide, and I make it a point NOT to read many posters/and threads, in fact, I don't read 80% of the threads on this board.

No, I changed it to a fast reply. Your post and the one or two before it got me thinking about it, but it was a fast reply because I've really said it all before. I fear I may be approaching broken record territory. I just seem to not be able to help myself from posting on this topic every time it comes up. It's an illness.

I know we have the right to report people and I've said before that the only valid reports in my mind for forum posts would be for threatening or illegal behavior.

I have trouble understanding why I would report someone when other people may be enjoying the conversation. In fact, I'm of the belief that even when, or especially when, someone is arguing with another on these forums, they are in fact enjoying themselves. They are invested and are feeling passionate about their debate and isn't that a good thing? And when we're impassioned, don't we sometimes get a little heated? Goodness, I know I do. And I know of some people that thrive on that and the two or three of us can sit around the table and raise our voices and be sarcastic and roll our eyes and it will be one fuck of a great conversation.

And then for someone to sit at that table and tell someone I love to argue with that he/she has to be nicer to me? First of all, way to be a killjoy. And secondly, I find it to be condescending. It's insulting to me that someone else may think they need to monitor how others speak to me on the forums. I'm 39 years old, for pete's sake. I got this.

(And for the record,...I personally don't engage with people on the boards if I know they're going to be nasty. You will seldom see me be truly argumentative on here, and even these last few posts are quite a stretch for me. I'm actually kind of a chickenshit on the boards. But that may be why I so enjoy watching those who have monumentally larger balls than I. And I dislike having that pleasure taken away from me. It's part of why I like the boards, and part of why I feel they're in decline. But that's another thread. Or two.)

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:44:40 PM

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maybe your sister would be less of an airhead if you didnt keep telling her she was, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.. sometimes people become what is expected of them..

So I take it you don't joke around with your siblings, calling one an airhead as you stick your tongue out at her, calling the other one a bitch because she dragged you into something you didn't want to do only to have us all laughing hysterically on the subway and telling the other to get the shit out of her ears because you yelled for her 3 times across the parking lot and she STILL didn't hear you and she gives you the evil sister stare? LOL

Yeah, sorry that's me and my sisters. We do things like that. Yeah, sometimes one of us gets upset over it or something but then something else stupid is said and we all end up just rolling our eyes, smiling at each other and it's over. Simple. Yeah, there were a couple times one of my sisters has really hurt me but ya know? In the end we're all still sisters and we all make sure to keep in touch even if it's just to complain about "your mother did this today...".

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:50:22 PM

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In the end we're all still sisters and we all make sure to keep in touch even if it's just to complain about "your mother did this today...".

LOL - I do that. I call my sister to say "Listen to what your mother did." And her response is always "Oh, so now she's my mother?"

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:51:51 PM

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haha....yup, it's always the other sisters' mother.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:52:59 PM

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I have trouble understanding why I would report someone when other people may be enjoying the conversation. In fact, I'm of the belief that even when, or especially when, someone is arguing with another on these forums, they are in fact enjoying themselves. They are invested and are feeling passionate about their debate and isn't that a good thing? And when we're impassioned, don't we sometimes get a little heated? Goodness, I know I do. And I know of some people that thrive on that and the two or three of us can sit around the table and raise our voices and be sarcastic and roll our eyes and it will be one fuck of a great conversation.

I am only going to comment on this section, because the other portions of your post have nothing to do with what I wrote.

The thing is, no one is telling you to report anyone.
The OP was, "Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone?"
I honestly answered the OP, and I can guarantee you there are many chicken shits who report people all the time, that will not answer this question in public.

I have the option of reporting people, and no one is going to dictate who or what I report, nor do I need anyone's permission to tell me what I can and can not report.
I might go report crazy one day, and than that will be between me and the mods.
A lot of this is for the mods to sanction and deal with in the end.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 7:59:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
I have trouble understanding why I would report someone when other people may be enjoying the conversation. In fact, I'm of the belief that even when, or especially when, someone is arguing with another on these forums, they are in fact enjoying themselves. They are invested and are feeling passionate about their debate and isn't that a good thing? And when we're impassioned, don't we sometimes get a little heated? Goodness, I know I do. And I know of some people that thrive on that and the two or three of us can sit around the table and raise our voices and be sarcastic and roll our eyes and it will be one fuck of a great conversation.

And then for someone to sit at that table and tell someone I love to argue with that he/she has to be nicer to me? First of all, way to be a killjoy. And secondly, I find it to be condescending. It's insulting to me that someone else may think they need to monitor how others speak to me on the forums. I'm 39 years old, for pete's sake. I got this.

(And for the record,...I personally don't engage with people on the boards if I know they're going to be nasty. You will seldom see me be truly argumentative on here, and even these last few posts are quite a stretch for me. I'm actually kind of a chickenshit on the boards. But that may be why I so enjoy watching those who have monumentally larger balls than I. And I dislike having that pleasure taken away from me. It's part of why I like the boards, and part of why I feel they're in decline. But that's another thread. Or two.)

well,.. I ignored the quartet also & the threads they took over...

The problem is that the thread becomes totally dominated by 2 or 3 people and most that dont want to get in the middle of an online fist fight just run away from the thread entirely & ignores it.. which is why it becomes dominated by the 2 or 3.. What is wrong with the 2 or 3 people doing that via email instead of taking over the thread? Imo, its very much like thread drift, and that is not allowed..

I get that you enjoy watching that, some people enjoy watching UFC on tv too (which to me is the visual version of these "battles" lol), personally, I find both boring, brutal and instead of contributing to the thread, I just leave... I cant be the only one that does that..

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:01:58 PM

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I have trouble understanding why I would report someone when other people may be enjoying the conversation. In fact, I'm of the belief that even when, or especially when, someone is arguing with another on these forums, they are in fact enjoying themselves. They are invested and are feeling passionate about their debate and isn't that a good thing? And when we're impassioned, don't we sometimes get a little heated? Goodness, I know I do. And I know of some people that thrive on that and the two or three of us can sit around the table and raise our voices and be sarcastic and roll our eyes and it will be one fuck of a great conversation.

I am only going to comment on this section, because the other portions of your post have nothing to do with what I wrote.

The thing is, no one is telling you to report anyone.
I have the option of reporting people, and I don't need anyone's permission to tell me what I can and can not report.
I might go report crazy one day, and than that will be between me and the mods.

And when someone goes report crazy, and when posts are being removed, and when posters are receiving warnings, forum members leave. They get annoyed at their limited ability to express themselves. And then I come here and I search for their posts and they're gone. So that is why I care. Some of my favorites are no longer here (or not here much) and I miss them, is all.

Okay. I'm done. I've been moving for the past few days so now I have all this pent up CollarChat energy.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:13:28 PM

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maybe your sister would be less of an airhead if you didnt keep telling her she was, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.. sometimes people become what is expected of them..

So I take it you don't joke around with your siblings, calling one an airhead as you stick your tongue out at her, calling the other one a bitch because she dragged you into something you didn't want to do only to have us all laughing hysterically on the subway and telling the other to get the shit out of her ears because you yelled for her 3 times across the parking lot and she STILL didn't hear you and she gives you the evil sister stare? LOL

Yeah, sorry that's me and my sisters. We do things like that. Yeah, sometimes one of us gets upset over it or something but then something else stupid is said and we all end up just rolling our eyes, smiling at each other and it's over. Simple. Yeah, there were a couple times one of my sisters has really hurt me but ya know? In the end we're all still sisters and we all make sure to keep in touch even if it's just to complain about "your mother did this today...".

of course the context in how that is done is important.. if you are joking and everyone knows it then that is entirely different than what i am talking about..

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:15:36 PM

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lol Kaliko calm down!

I will say this, I rarely report anyone.

I have been on collarme over 8 years, and I doubt I have made over 20 reports {that's about 2.5 a year}.
I admit these numbers could change!

So when threads go poof it ain't me, it's your "buddies" who won't admit to reporting people.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:22:30 PM

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lol Kaliko calm down!

I'm all hyped up on caffeine and jalapeno poppers.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:23:18 PM

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And when someone goes report crazy, and when posts are being removed, and when posters are receiving warnings, forum members leave. They get annoyed at their limited ability to express themselves. And then I come here and I search for their posts and they're gone. So that is why I care. Some of my favorites are no longer here (or not here much) and I miss them, is all.

Okay. I'm done. I've been moving for the past few days so now I have all this pent up CollarChat energy.

Someone on one of these threads someplace said they go to a forum where there is an anything-goes forum and people that want to go crazy, name call and battle it out can go there.. the rest of the forums posters have to play nice.. maybe that is a possible solution?..

Some of my favorite posters are gone also but I have not asked them why, I sorta thought it was cuz of the continual personal attacks and they just got tired of that and banging their head against the brick wall.. I expect the reasons vary for each person tho..

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:30:02 PM

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of course the context in how that is done is important.. if you are joking and everyone knows it then that is entirely different than what i am talking about..

Is it joking?.....or not? In my family...we may be joking but we all know it's also true. The thing is...we're all adults and we laugh, we fight, hell we've had hair pulling fights and egg battles from being angry at each other and 5 minutes later we're sitting on the steps smooshing another egg in the face of the other because hey, we're sisters. It's what sisters do. Then again, I grew up in a very large family. I have quite a few siblings. If you can't get over it then you might find yourself being the only one sitting on the porch eating dinner...by yourself because everyone else sees you as the big crybaby.

Anyway, back to your regularly scheduled catfights.

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RE: Lets be honest have you ever reported anyone - 1/13/2013 8:50:49 PM

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Anyway, back to your regularly scheduled catfights.

lol, I don't see any catfights, where are they?

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