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RE: Youth versus experience - 4/13/2013 3:14:53 PM

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Seems he meant "maturity" (in you knowing what you want out of the relationship instead of just being a blank slate) instead of actual "experience" (know exactly what to expect) but I obviously wouldn't know from second hand information.

Speaking from experience I'm usually hesitant when I come across someone asking 'to be molded into a (take your objectification pick)' since they are most likely ones who don't know what they want or are otherwise wasting my time with having cold feet in the end before an actual meet (and I'm never one to rush). Youth or experience are otherwise irrelevant to me in finding a partner.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 4/13/2013 3:24:42 PM

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I don't see why my age would limit me.
I can go into a bar but can't drink. Thats fine, I don't need to be focusing on drinking
And "partying" just that desire to plesse my master.
My parents are M/S . They fully understand and relocations is not a concern.
I prefer experience because I am not experienced why im hoping for an older dom

Think about it. All those women that have had masters before must have had a first. Thus, at one point they all were as inexperienced as you.

So.... who told you that you need to show your tits before someone will be interested? Was it one of your parents?

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/15/2013 10:38:40 PM

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I prefer someone relatively inexperienced... I like the idea of building from the ground up, without either of us having too many preconceived notions. However, the submissive knowing what they want out of a relationship and us being basically compatible; as well as the submissive being a strong, intelligent, and ethical person is much, much more important to me. The little details don't matter so much as the person's submission being worth having.

Edit: I must agree with Baroana on your profile pic. Perhaps I'm a minority, but I prefer pics that are sexy but classy. Besides, do you want a dom who sees your pic and comes for the body only, or one who reads your profile and comes for the mind as well?

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/16/2013 1:22:32 AM

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I never compare these two things.

Here's the important things to me.

1). Is she attractive to me or not. Call me shallow but this makes a big difference. If I'm not attracted to somebody, my dick ain't getting hard and there no way in hell we're having SEX. (it's a myth that all men will fuck anything that moves or holes in mattresses or trees).

2). Is she Kinky and really into D/s.

3). The Fun factor is next on my list. Is she or is she not fun to be around and have in my life. This alone brings a form of pleasure and is a stress relief. Laughter is a good thing.

4). Intelligence or Creativity. Stupid people without much common sense get on my nerves. Why in the Hell would I want to live with that kind of torture 24/7? I want to have verbal as well as physical intercourse with a sub/slave. Creativity is rather interesting and Entertaining, as such as it should be. This appeals to some of my other senses other than what's between my own legs.

5). Honesty and Communication skills. This should be self explanatory and is the foundation which all things are built upon. Including trust.

6). Kinks, Wants, Wishes, Hard Limits, Experience, everything else please refer to #5

7). Balancing things out. Is sorting through everything in #6 and living life.

Personally, I really could give a damn about how experienced or not she is. Sure it's great to know, but it's not what I'm looking for or even screening for at the start.

Age range, yeah I have a general age range. It's not set in stone, there's a little deviation to it... even more if 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 fall into place.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/16/2013 7:44:43 AM

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OP: You are 18. Your youth and inexperience - in life - are the easiest things to mention when offering an explanation for rejection.

That being said, presenting yourself as a pair of tits ready to relocate doesn't indicate that you are a complete person, and is unlikely to attract people looking for a complete person.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/16/2013 10:12:13 AM

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It is possible that it is just your youth, and not so much your experience.

An older Dom may not believe that one your age can be certain of what you want, and thus wary of getting involved in something that may not pan out. Or they may be wary of overwhelming you and of finding themselves on the wrong side of the law.

If you find a Dom you like, I wouldn't give up just because they may not take to you right away. I would advise you to accept that it may take a while to convince them of your sincerity.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/16/2013 1:15:23 PM

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OP: You are 18. Your youth and inexperience - in life - are the easiest things to mention when offering an explanation for rejection.

That being said, presenting yourself as a pair of tits ready to relocate doesn't indicate that you are a complete person, and is unlikely to attract people looking for a complete person.

Now Now, you're shattering the illusion that every Dom/Master is simply looking for a Human Blow up doll. LOL

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/16/2013 11:18:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsEloquence

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OP: You are 18. Your youth and inexperience - in life - are the easiest things to mention when offering an explanation for rejection.

That being said, presenting yourself as a pair of tits ready to relocate doesn't indicate that you are a complete person, and is unlikely to attract people looking for a complete person.

But it probably will attract people looking for a potential doormat.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/17/2013 5:07:49 AM

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Hi, this is my first post in the forum but I'd still like to offer my $0.02.

I've been a dom for the larger part of my life and I've lived in different constallations/relationships over the years. Most people I meet call me very experienced but I just recently met a girl who is now my sub and I'm relearning everything with her. She's new to the D/S lifestyle and fairly inexperienced but that's probably more of an asset than a hinderance. I love her to death and really enjoy discovering everything all over again, togeather with her.
So, no! Youth and inexperience is not a bad thing, at least not in my book.
The mindset and personality is so much more important than anything else.

Instead of worrying about finding "a master", focus on finding "the master" who is right for you. There are plenty of posers out there who're just looking for an easy score.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/17/2013 7:38:59 AM

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So, youth or experience?

Neither.

It's not a job. I'm much more interested in who this girl is, whether I like spending time with her outside of M/s "stuff," whether we click well, whether she has the qualities I need and desire in a girl, and whether my sense of things is that I have the qualities she will desire/need in a Master. Otherwise, it's just going to be short term play.

And if it's short term play--who cares? Play and move on.

In short, I look for a girl who's a mutual good fit. The rest is just details.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/17/2013 7:41:08 AM

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That being said, presenting yourself as a pair of tits ready to relocate doesn't indicate that you are a complete person, and is unlikely to attract people looking for a complete person.

^^Exactly^^

There's no shortage of willing tits in the world.

Additionally, a single photo and a posted yahoo address screams "commercially phishing for emails for sex sites."

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/17/2013 3:17:18 PM

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A pair of Great Tits ready to relocate at any moment...

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RE: Youth versus experience - 5/17/2013 6:00:38 PM

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I can't speak for others, but i have always like "Sub.s" that are new , they are mostly unjaded, and there is the bonus of not needing to unlearn old routines. Youth is nice, but i have had 2 "Sub.'s" that where new to the life-style in there 40's. they where eager to learn.

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