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"1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share it? - 5/10/2013 7:55:55 PM   
TwistedPfister


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately for me, my reality is devoid of sex, intimacy, or affection. But thems the breaks. So, I live mostly in my head, which, I have to say, is a pretty cool spot in general. Anyway, I grew up in the late 50's and 60's, and ours was a pretty conventional household for the times. Dad busted his butt 60 hours a week to pay the bills, fixed stuff around the house, barbecued, and taught us how to do sports and ride bikes. Mom cooked, cleaned, looked smoking hot most of the time, and took care of us kids. She totally took care of my Dad, fetched his slippers and all of that, deferred to him in every way that we could see as kids, and really seemed to love doing it. And she was no wallflower. She had an Ivy League graduate degree and a couple of years in the workforce, and he had a GED. She gave it up to be the kind of wife and mom she wanted to be.

My own wife has suffered with mental illness for about 20 years, and although she has been under psychiatric care most of that time, she really isn't able to do much. I do the cooking and cleaning and over the years have done most of the kid stuff too, besides supporting the family. Sometimes, for my own amusement and sanity, I have pretended (while I'm cooking or cleaning) that we have a "1950's household" relationship where I'm the submissive wifey type doing the chores and trying to please her while she's watching me from the couch. Of course, she's not really conscious of this little scenario as its playing itself out in my mind, and she's not sitting there with a beer, demanding oral sex once I finish with the vacuum (I only wish). But, it makes things amusing for me, and I always rub one out right after the chores are done.

My question is "How many dominant women reading this would like this kind of arrangement if it was financially feasible?" Not to have a slave or sub, but a partner who was submissive in the same way many of our mothers used to be. Someone who would subsume their own career ambitions, take care of the home front, be a loving, intelligent partner, give them whatever kind of sexual gratification they wanted on demand,be under their control (allowance, how they dress, etc.) and basically be the 50's style wife. Not so much BDSM. Other than the financial responsibility of making all of the money, is this an attractive proposition to dommes in this day and age?

Clearly, I'm not asking for advice, so please refrain from offering any regarding my wife's situation. We actually get some of the best mental healthcare available. It's just unfortunate that some people are not particularly responsive to meds or therapy, and she is one of those. Thanks.
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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/10/2013 8:24:29 PM   
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We actually get some of the best mental healthcare available.


Oh. Okay then. Carry on.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/10/2013 8:39:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		By definition, a 1950's household is where the male has final authority. No, as a Dominant woman, I don't want that.

I genuinely feel sorry for your wife.


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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/10/2013 8:45:56 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		I thought the same thing but was in a pleasant mood so for once I bit my tongue, lol.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/10/2013 9:00:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

By definition, a 1950's household is where the male has final authority. No, as a Dominant woman, I don't want that.

I genuinely feel sorry for your wife.


This. ^^^^ ALL of it. Thanks LP for saving me the keystrokes.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/12/2013 11:05:50 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Sorry..but I think you would get a better response from other subs about the 1950s thing. I am one of them who does find a certain interest in it (& I am a sub or slave can't decide which). Maybe you mean a "head of household" where the gender is not specific? Although from reading many of these women's posts, I think several have established such things & it is not a fantasy but a reality that they worked hard to make true.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/12/2013 2:04:41 PM   
VioletViolence


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Status: offline 		Actually, I'd rather be the housewife. I love to cook, everything has to be just so and exactly the way I like it (although I'd have a service subby for the cleaning), I'd garden and do a bit of work from home. Hubby would bring in the paycheque and I'd be responsible for budgeting it and making every dollar count. Basically, pretty much what my parents marriage was like, but my Mom didn't work from home.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/12/2013 5:00:36 PM   
njlauren


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Status: offline 		I have heard of this kind of thing, some female subs live like that, and more then a few tg gals want to live like that, want the 1950's housewife thing, the Donna Reed kind of deal ....not my thing, but it is a common fantasy kind of thing in that world. On the other hand, I would be really surprised, even with let's say a woman who was really successful, would want a sub, male or female, in that kind of role, at least based on the dominant woman I have known. I suspect there are more subs wanting to play that out than there are dommes wanting it....

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/13/2013 4:07:20 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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My question is "How many dominant women reading this would like this kind of arrangement if it was financially feasible?" Not to have a slave or sub, but a partner who was submissive in the same way many of our mothers used to be. Someone who would subsume their own career ambitions, take care of the home front, be a loving, intelligent partner, give them whatever kind of sexual gratification they wanted on demand,be under their control (allowance, how they dress, etc.) and basically be the 50's style wife. Not so much BDSM. Other than the financial responsibility of making all of the money, is this an attractive proposition to dommes in this day and age
Yes, this is a very attractive proposition for many female dominants, myself included. The twist in mine (and other fem domes) wishing the 50s household, is you do work outside/inside of home, cook, clean, put out, and are grateful to your dominant lady for it.
Welcome to the boards. M

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/13/2013 4:12:35 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		I also found a couple of threads pertaining to this very subject, that you may enjoy reading.

(Does Anyone seek a male wife?)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4389146/mpage_1/key_male%252Cwife/tm.htm#4390095
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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/15/2013 5:20:04 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Back in the early fifties I was being breast fed. All serious offers considered.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/15/2013 8:05:05 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm not a male sub but I am a female slave who somewhat lives this life except I also work outside the home but basically I do all the cooking and cleaning, fetch his shoes, put them on him, get him his tea, make sure his clothes are ready for work, etc....

When I was married I didn't work and that's exactly the type of relationship I had except that I paid the bills as well because he was in the military and was gone a lot of times so I learned to take care of that as well.

Master has mentioned lately how he became spoiled by me staying home and not working last year. He misses the extra care I was able to give to him all day long.


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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/15/2013 9:18:40 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
Back in the early fifties I was being breast fed.
Are you politely trying to say you miss the ** uhm nevermind**?
M


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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 3:53:11 AM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
Back in the early fifties I was being breast fed.
Are you politely trying to say you miss the ** uhm nevermind**?
M




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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 4:18:40 AM   
chatterbox24


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Status: offline 		I am not going to make any negative comments about your home situation. I feel some empathy and understanding about your fantasy, If it makes everyday life easier to get thru the day and do the necessary things, to run a household, more power to you. Working outside the home, coming home and doing it all too, plus on top of that taking care of an individual with mental illness would be rough. I could imagine wanting to lose one of those huge responsibilities, and having just one of them.
My situation is a bit different, I call a lot of the shots, but I do stay at home and take care of the domestic duties and bill paying. While my husband brings home the money, but he will step right in and do domestic duties at anytime, if I ask.
Happens all the time these days where the woman brings in the money and you have a stay at home dad, or a man who takes care of the home front. Not sure its a dome's thing, but it sure seems to be a common vanilla thing.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 4:54:21 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		As has already been pointed out, the focus of the 1950's lifestyle is the male as the dominant bread winner and the female as the submissive domestic minded housekeeper/chef. If your fantasies include the male as the sub, than it's not 1950's -- maybe 1980s??

Not that it matters what you label it, it's a valid fantasy that many male subs share. There is an entire subset of male subs called 'sissies' who love to dress up in girly clothing while cooking and performing housework chores.

Of course there are female dominants who seek such male subs, though it's my experience they are in the minority. Now, if your real question is what are the chances of you finding a fem domme willing to help you cheat on your mentally ill wife, I have to say your chances aren't good.

Though I sympathize with your situation, this lifestyle is *supposed* to be about trust, honesty, self knowledge and personal integrity. Given your situation, I can't see a way for you to maintain your personal integrity and act out your fantasy in real time.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 6:02:20 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I see a man coping with a very serious situation and making the best of it. Whatever he calls it and however it works or doesn't with that title, I think his meaning is clear. Kudos for sticking with the family as you have and stepping up... most step out. If you can utilize whats going on and incorporate it into something pleasurable... good for you! You aren't saying... will someone play with me because my wife won't. You aren't saying beat me... plug me... fuck me. And you aren't asking how you can get your wife to take part. You are asking if this is an interest of others.

I have had what I called role reversal relationships. That later got retitled, but it is easier for some to understand as a role reversal, though often outdated in a two income society. I brought home the bacon and they cooked it. I loved it. I like my men in jeans and they were no where near wife status, but they had the role of a wife of those times. It was a very rewarding relationship for us. However, these days I don't recommend anyone not having work history and social security benefits that can be used if life doesn't work out where you have good retirement funds privately.

If I could support a household again... I surely would. I'm still working on getting back there.

Again, kudos for sticking around and stepping up, whether you get some kinky or sexual reward from it or not... most do not stick around and step up, so it is nice to see. Thank you for the view.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 12:43:40 PM   
LittleGirlHeart


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Status: offline 		Maybe if I could have two men. I like the male being the bread winner go getter, bust was to get to where they are.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/16/2013 1:21:44 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		Seriously, folks, I read the OP twice and nowhere do I see him asking someone to help him cheat. I just seem him picking people's brains while he does the "in sickness and in health" thing.

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RE: "1950's Household" fantasy - anyone share... - 5/17/2013 1:48:10 AM   
Dreamless


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Status: offline 		Actually, I find the traditional 50s household with the twist that later on I get to tie him up and whip him, quite a fine idea. He goes forth and wins the bread, I make delicious food and keep the house clean the way I like it without anyone getting their sticky fingers into my precise system of organized chaos... then the submission stops there.

Though I think I like working too much to do full time housewife.

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