myotherself
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Joined: 3/9/2006 From: The cold bit of the UK Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LoyalBlackSub It seems that 8/10 dommes here are all about money Yeah, they're called finDommes. It's a legitimate kink. It may not be YOUR kink, but it rings the bells for others. quote:
There's nothing wrong with serving your Mistress with your wallet amongst other things, as a true sub seeks to please his domme any way possible. True sub? Who defines the trueness of submission? There is no handbook laying out the rules and definitions. There's a key for every lock, and saying that one key is 'truer' than another is just plain silly. quote:
I feel,however, that Findom takes away the integrity of our lifestyle and attracts the wrong women/scammers. There is no 'integrity' in this 'lifestyle'. There are people who want to meet other people to do compatible things with. It's not a lifestyle. It just is what it is. And as such, there's no more or less integrity in what we do compared to what other people do. quote:
If I message 30 dommes right now, 25 will say something along the lines of: tribute me, send me amazon giftcards, etc. They don't care who you are, or if you're even submissive, as long as you tribute. So they're not what you're looking for. Great, your filter is working. Just move on and keep on trying. Again, just because it's not YOUR kink does not make it wrong. You're just incompatible. quote:
It's like prostitution without having sex which attracts any attractive girl to make a profile and demand money as if they're dominant. Prostitution without sex?? Do you see how silly that is? Really? quote:
Femdom is turning more into a business venture than a lifestyle and that's not good for young subs just entering the lifestlye. Why shouldn't people make money out kink? You have to buy your toys from somewhere, don't you? That's making money out of kink. Some people use proDom/mes. You think that's wrong too? Others enjoy having subs buy them things. They're both happy, what's the problem with that? Any 'young sub' coming onto a site like collarme is inundated with advice about avoiding people who ask for money. Starting with the email advice which tells you not to send money to anyone for any reason. And there are dozens and dozens of threads on this side which endlessly debate the finDomme thing. So if any newbie is dumb enough to ignore the advice and too lazy to check the message boards, then maybe they deserve to get what they pay for. quote:
I'm not bashing Collerme, or even Findom. Findom used correctly, gives the Mistress ultimate control which I believe in. But the effect its had: fakes, scammers, picture stealing, and women looking for a quick payday is not good for us true subs and dommes. Right, so you think finDommes are ok, but only if they fit your own personal definition of finDomme? Again, just because it's not what you want does not make it wrong. And just because people don't fit the definitions you have in your head does not make them 'untrue'. It just makes you appear judgmental.
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