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LafayetteLady -> RE: Need Adivice ASAP (5/29/2013 4:15:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: HappilyMiserable
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Not all men feel the need to act like a white knight to ride to a damsel's distress.
Indeed not. Only the ones of quality.
Though I think the assignment of the gender roles in your metaphor is inapt. I would say rather the strong should feel a noble inclination to protect the vulnerable. In this instance a vulnerable person who happened to be a female submissive asked for help. The response with one or two exceptions was a feeding frenzy of callous mockery poorly disguised as bluntness.
To the OP: This isn't the guy for you. If he is transgressing your limits repeatedly and without regard for you, any agreement between you is broken. Leave. It will hurt dreadfully for a time. Then less. If you do not, you will not have the chance to find someone more worthy of your submission.
Wow, you just want to dig yourself a bigger hole, huh?
Kana is far from a "24-karat asshole," at least in the manner you speak of. Nor is he a "dick" in the manner the OP speaks of. How do I know? Because if he was, littlewonder would never have given him the time of day, let alone stick around for....I think it is 10 years?
Your whole concept of what people should do matches your description of yourself in your profile, that of a 9 year old boy. This is real life, not the fantasy world of a child where people will coddle you and make you think the world is all daydreams and lollipops. Christ on a cracker, you don't even know the difference between a dominant and a top.
Contrary to what Focus said, we aren't a "clique," nor are we a bunch of stupid people in a large group, like his sig line suggests. However, many of us have been around here for a very long time and we know each other, even if only on this site. Feeling some kind of allegiance to someone does not make you a click. It's more a matter of defending who someone is to someone who hasn't a clue.
As for the OP, she doesn't need rescuing, nor was she insulted by anyone until she made her comment. As Oside said, when someone is 38 years old and is having difficulty with such a simple relationship problem, they need to be told straight out, not coddled with a bunch of fluffy bullshit. She was told things aren't going to get better and to dump him. Did we pretty much do it with a "Dr. Phil" approach? Sure. But there is nothing wrong with that, especially when stating what should be obviously to anyone over the age of 25.
As for you? Grow up. A kinky internet message board is not suitable to 9 year olds.
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