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What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:11:45 PM

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The following quote was lifted from the "private vs. public" thread in this forum. I believe that it is worthy of a seperate discussion with a wider base..

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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There are just certain displays/behaviors that are not acceptable/tactful in public society-- vanilla, bdsm or anything else in between.

OK so now you all can really let fly and rant about what displays of behaviour you personally find offensive in public. This includes BDSM, Vanilla and anything in between....

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:18:24 PM

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Pretty much anything that blatantly forces others to be a part of a scene they have not consented to.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:22:39 PM

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I may as well kick this off. As a preamble and to head off a few folk, I have stated in severalthreads that ihave lead a slave in public on a leash. I have also stated and still state that I will not allow others dictate what i can and can not do. However i am a reasonable person and whilst I will resist all attempts of others to force wheir beliefs and morality on me, I can listen and even be swayed by reasonable debate. As an example of this, the discussions I had with a delightful lass in the aforementioned Thread and privately made me rething the public leashing ofa slave fromthe view not of adults who maty be offended but the possible wrong immage as seen by impressionable children... Kids are the most important resource we have.

My bigest bitch is the parents of unruly and disobedient kids who turn thm loose in shopping malls and supermarkets where the kids cause damage and discomfort to others... Parents who either can not or will not control their kids in public should have the kids removed from them...... I'm basing this on many istances in which I have been bruised, had a stick deliberatlely kicked from under me and been abused by foul mouthed urchins all whils Mummy dearest was watching and even when asked to take control, refused to do so often with foul mouthed comments.... (Some folks wonder why my home is a child free zone bar a few local kids who know it is a safe house).

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:23:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

Pretty much anything that blatantly forces others to be a part of a scene they have not consented to.

Even when this forces you to forgo something which is legal?

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:33:54 PM

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Top of the list stuff?
Parents who continually placate their screaming tantruming children by giving in to them, instead of removing them from the theater, shopping center or event.
Drivers unable to maintain their tempers along with those who's driving styles encourage them to lose it.
Right down to people who blow their noses while at the dinner table and
presidents who keep raising the national deficit while the republicans push through the relief from death tax for the wealthy.
oh, forgive Me, is politics not approved to rant on? I know for hell *I* wouldn't want to get started.. *laughies*

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:36:19 PM

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Talking on a cell phone but that's not extremely BDSM unless you beat said person with their cell phone. In a BDSM vein I find it offensive when a Dom/me berates their hapless sub/slave with abusive language. Shows a lack of class IMHO & the show is for others, not their sub/slave

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 4:44:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

Pretty much anything that blatantly forces others to be a part of a scene they have not consented to.

I don't consent to being part of :- kids behaving badly in public, adults arguing and swearing in public, people spitting in public, couples being overly affectionate in public etc etc etc but its never going to stop!!
I do however believe in freedom of expression and think that consent to a 'scene in public' is a fine line to draw, what offends one may not offend another.
After discussion on this subject before i rightly or wrongly am of the opinion that for example (and i hope you don't mind me using you as an example ironbear) that if i was out with my child no i dont want her to see a sub / slave being led on a lead but there again i don't want her seeing someone swearing and carrying on either. After careful consideration i realise that the lead objection was only so strong for me because it isnt the so called 'norm' where as someone swearing in public is.
On the other hand if i was out without my daughter neither of these would have a particularly great effect on me and i would probably find the sub / slave on a lead the far more attractive one to see.
I hope that made sense.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:00:58 PM

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I work a retail job part time in addition to my full time job. One of my pet peeves is when someone comes to my cash register and is on their cell phone. It makes me want to double charge them for stuff.

I also can't stand it when I'm in a restaurant trying to have a peaceful dinner and some wanker feels the need to talk loudly and obnoxiously on his cell phone. Oh and IB, I'm right with you on the unruly kids. Most often, I want to slap the parents more than the kids because they are the ones who are supposed to be controlling the bad behavior and can't be bothered to do so.

Ahhhh, I feel so much better. Thank you IB

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:04:38 PM

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I'm not an exhibitionist.

I don't play in public bdsm clubs either-it's part of me being a die-hard conservative. Sex is for your private quarters to me, no where else.

Nor do I hang around liberals who can't respect that. They can do as they please, I just don't care to hear about it.

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RE: What behavior do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:23:50 PM

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G'evening all:

IB, you asked for a list, correct? Ok, here we go;

Spitting.
Grabbing/scratching your crotch (male or female).
Dumping trash.
Unruly kids, anywhere, anytime for any reason, PERIOD. Let parents be parents and control the little buggers properly.
Cell phones in theaters or classy restaurants.
Someone so scantily clad (male or female) that you get an uninvited gratuitous view of their unmentionables if they bend over.
Berating someone so vehemently that they want to crawl in a hole and die. If they feel that degree is necessary? I think the relationship's already downhill.
Sloppy, disheveled, untidy appearance (male or female).

And last, but not least, even if it's not bdsm related, slow drivers in the left lane!!

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RE: What behavior do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:26:48 PM

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*applauds* Thank you GddssBella, I forgot about the slow drivers in the left lane. :)

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:38:07 PM

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Dear IronBear, Ladies and Gentlemen;

First Sir, I do thank you for starting this thread.

I am most likely the one to be most appalled by dominants who must make a big drama in the dungeon, taking to raising their voice, trample the dignity of slaves/submissives that in turns shakes every individual within the whole dungeon. I also am appalled by silly slaves and or submissives who run about through the dungeon playing tag or, screaming for the sake of noise. In addition, I have seen plenty of dominants showing off as they use their whips and paddles, not paying one moment's attention to their bound victim. I do not feel these behaviors offensive.

I am also disappointed on how the dressing rules have gone from proper to disrespectful. I am a fuddy duddy perhaps but, in my earliest days in the lifestyle, black attire was more than a request. It was more like a uniform. People are dressing like slobs more frequently and it disturbs me. Now days, black slacks are easy to afford as well as T-shirts that are black, black shoes and or boots. Why men come in ratty clothes as dominants is beyond me. I agree to dress comfortable but why ratty clothes best suited for yard work? And, then you see a slave all dressed in what would be semi-formal.
It sends a terrible message in my mind's eye for dungeon and or gatherings. In one's own home is a different story however, I would wish men would dress more in what was standard black and or black leather. I also and equally disappointed in women wearing clothing that is loud in color and flowing, especially around fire play zones. It is a fire hazard.

I agree with previously posted comments on cell phones in the dungeon. Not only is it disrespectful, the phones can take photographs and video/movies so discreetly, that you can be a victim of non-consensual photography/movies. It invades one's privacy indeed.

All the posters have hit the nail on the head, when it comes to parents not maintaining control over the behavior of their children. Running about, taking things from shelves and stealing, screaming ear piercing screams, harassing those who are elder is appalling and agree that the parents should be subjected to sadism. Children can do with a firm spanking as well. Due to the politically correctness, control has been lost in all directions.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 5:59:55 PM

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most anything I post, I feel; is not acceptable....but I really
don't give a fuck........

Perhaps I am the odd man out.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 6:27:36 PM

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People who walk very slowly chatting in narrow streets
People who obviously need help though will not accept it
People who see people needing help though will not give it
Bad public art
People who are rude to waiting staff or receptionists
People who make a fuss over trivial things in shops be they shop assistants or customers.
Random people who compliment me in a lascivious way (in the same way that a drunken perv compliments a bar maids breasts)
Anyone who tries to impose their views onto people or their dominance over random people
People who mistake cockiness or pig headedness for intelligence.
People who see withholding important information as being something different from telling lies.
People who shout at their dogs many times when the dog is clearly is not going to respond to them.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 6:37:13 PM

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quote:

OK so now you all can really let fly and rant about what displays of behaviour you personally find offensive in public.

Screaming children, parents who smack their kids around in public, physical altercations between adults, and people who smell like they've not bathed in six months!

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 6:50:59 PM

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I personally don't care for the color black and I for one am glad it's not a dungion requirement. I also don't buy into the hype that wearing black makes people trying to look slim do it.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

It was more like a uniform. People are dressing like slobs more frequently and it disturbs me. Now days, black slacks are easy to afford as well as T-shirts that are black, black shoes and or boots.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 7:27:42 PM

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1. Boys with jeans below their butts.
2. Girls with jeans below their bikini line.
3. Underwear showing out of anyone's clothing.
4. Parents who allow their children to run wild
5. Parents who ignore their whining and crying child (who probably should be having nap time at that moment)
6. Parents who drag their kids anywhere after 8:00 p.m. on a school night.
7. Overt public displays of affection, this includes hetero, bi or gay people
8. People using foul language in public
9. People who don't know how to use the self-check machines.
10. People who use their fingers at the salad bar, instead of the provided utensils.
11. People who take things from the salad bar, when they haven't purchased the salad bar.
12. People who don't know how to use a four-way stop.
13. People who make a huge mess at a table and just leave it.
14. People who do not flush toilets.
15. People who change their baby's diaper in full view rather than in a restroom.

This could go on for a longgggggggggggg time, IB.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 7:47:43 PM

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I think everyone should show a little understanding where rude male dominants harass and attack their submissives in public. Additionally, those who talk at inappropriate times and places on cell phones need to be understood. These are just two of the many symptoms of a incurable childhood illness that affects them in many ways. I only wish someone like Jerry Lewis would have a worldwide telethon to find a cure for smallcox.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 8:22:38 PM

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I despise middle or upper class teenagers that behave and try to appear as if they are from the streets.

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RE: What behaviour do you find offensive in public? - 6/25/2006 8:33:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Caretakr

I'm not an exhibitionist.

I don't play in public bdsm clubs either-it's part of me being a die-hard conservative. Sex is for your private quarters to me, no where else.

Nor do I hang around liberals who can't respect that. They can do as they please, I just don't care to hear about it.

Do you hang around conservatives that can't respect that? Perhaps we could discard labels and then it would just be that you don't like public play and don't hang around with people who don't respect that.

"We are not enemies, but friends. We must not be enemies. Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection." Lincoln, perhaps our greatest president regardless of whether he was conservative or liberal.

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