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asianfetish24 -> would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 8:03:10 PM)

A newbie would love to hear what you have to say... thanks in advance for sharing.



littlewonder -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 8:07:55 PM)

Well being we've been together over 7 years now and I tell him I love him all the time, he seems to be more than happy with it.



RaspberryLemon -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 8:41:09 PM)

Of course the answer will differ depending on the individual and what they seek from their relationship(s.)

In my life, of course my Master is happy to know that I am in love with him. He is in love with me as well. That is the type of relationship we both want and are happy to have with each other.



JeffBC -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 8:55:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: asianfetish24
A newbie would love to hear what you have to say... thanks in advance for sharing.

Yes, I'm thrilled to death that the woman I'm dopey in love with loves me back. Otherwise, things get really awkward around our house. Love works best bidirectionally.



LafayetteLady -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 11:14:43 PM)

I don't see why not if you are in that type of relationship.

Is this something you are worried about saying to your partner?



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 11:20:48 PM)

Well..depends...I think if I told the Dom I am seeing now that I loved him..he might make a run for it (of course I could say the same if those words come from him!!). Like all other relationships..depends how long you have known each other, what you are each looking to get out of the relationship, if you think the other person is saying "I love you" to pressure you into something...Probably no other. 3 tiny, one syllable words strung together can elicit such a range of emotions!!!



LadyPact -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/2/2013 11:59:00 PM)

OP, first, I'm going to thank you for recognizing that the term "Master" applies to both male and female. You may label yourself a newbie, but on this, you are quite exceptional. Well done!

Unfortunately, I am probably about to disappoint you. To hear that a slave loves Me, has affection for Me, is all well and good. Being "in love" with Me is not something that I want, nor is it on the table to be reciprocated. There is no romantic component on My end in My dynamics. I am very honest about this and have attempted to make this very clear in all of My years of being involved in WIITWD.

Keep something in mind. I am absolutely in the minority on this. If I were the type of person who only seeks monogamous relationships and did not have a primary partner who fulfills that component in My life, I'd probably be singing a different tune. I find that the majority of folks do want that as a part of their M/s. In My opinion, I would say at least 90-95% of folks out there don't agree with Me.



ARIES83 -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 1:15:12 AM)

To be honest, a detailed answer would make me sound like a monster rather than a master...
The sesame street version... I guess it depends on the person and what they want, but generally, I think most would be flattered at the very least.



garyFLR -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 1:30:39 AM)

I certainly hope that he would be happy about it, otherwise, why enter into a deeply personal & physical relationship with you?



ohsobroken -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 4:56:04 AM)

asianfetish24, I've wondered the same thing..but I guess it's like most have said- it depends on the relationship. I made the mistake of expressing myself and he shut down shop.



garyFLR -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 5:23:32 AM)

I'm so sorry to hear that, but, perhaps, he wasn't going to be right for you. You will find HIM, promise [:)]



DarkSteven -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 5:43:45 AM)

Being a Master has nothing to do with it. Some men and some women love to hear it and some don't.



BossyShoeBitch -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 5:50:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ohsobroken

asianfetish24, I've wondered the same thing..but I guess it's like most have said- it depends on the relationship. I made the mistake of expressing myself and he shut down shop.


I'm sorry that happened to you.

If I'm being perfectly honest, I'm nervous about the same thing happening.
I say it so often and so loudly in my head while I'm looking at Him, that sometimes I'm sure He can hear it.
I'm not about to let anything mess up what we have, so for the foreseeable future I'm good with not saying it out loud and/or not hearing it said.




crazyml -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 5:58:33 AM)

Hello there,

For me, ultimately it's essential. I'm after a long term, loving, M/s relationship.

But LadyPact provides a perfectly valid alternative...
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Keep something in mind. I am absolutely in the minority on this. If I were the type of person who only seeks monogamous relationships and did not have a primary partner who fulfills that component in My life, I'd probably be singing a different tune. I find that the majority of folks do want that as a part of their M/s. In My opinion, I would say at least 90-95% of folks out there don't agree with Me.



(Not that LadyPact would be all worried and anxious if I didn't think her choice was valid ;-) )

The key (rather boringly) is for you to be clear in your own mind about what it is you want and need, and for you to be able to communicate those needs to a potential Master.



immoral -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 6:13:36 AM)

I adore my Master with every atom of me.......I think if I couldn't say it 1000 times a day id burst !!
im lucky he allows me to do so ..



Greta75 -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 6:42:19 AM)

There is a group of doms who believe love will ruin D/S element, like if he had feelings for the sub, he'll lose control. Things like that.

So it depends on the dom.



JeffBC -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 8:16:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Greta75
There is a group of doms who believe love will ruin D/S element, like if he had feelings for the sub, he'll lose control. Things like that. So it depends on the dom.

There is a similar group of subs. My experience is that those who claim love ruins the dynamic generally just don't like love at all and are using it as a "trueness" club. The whole gig of losing control because of love simply baffles me. What these people mean by "love" and "control" are clearly not what I mean. All in all, these folks are really rare in the real world so I don't spend much time trying to sort it out other than "they had bad experiences with love at some point".



LadyPact -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 12:40:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

Hello there,

For me, ultimately it's essential. I'm after a long term, loving, M/s relationship.

But LadyPact provides a perfectly valid alternative...
quote:



Keep something in mind. I am absolutely in the minority on this. If I were the type of person who only seeks monogamous relationships and did not have a primary partner who fulfills that component in My life, I'd probably be singing a different tune. I find that the majority of folks do want that as a part of their M/s. In My opinion, I would say at least 90-95% of folks out there don't agree with Me.



(Not that LadyPact would be all worried and anxious if I didn't think her choice was valid ;-) )

The key (rather boringly) is for you to be clear in your own mind about what it is you want and need, and for you to be able to communicate those needs to a potential Master.

Wasn't worried at all, ML. Thanks for the mention.

I think it's worth adding to the topic here that there are a lot of different types of M/s and because those dynamics are based on different things is where there are going to be different answers. Service based dynamics are going to be one of these. You're not going to find the "in love" element as often in these types of structures. They are most closely related to a boss/employee situation. A fondness might develop over the course, but you're not going to necessarily have a romantic component.

I would have to say, in My opinion, it's important to know what type of dynamic you are dealing with.



OsideGirl -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 12:50:05 PM)

The correct answer is......<ba bum bum> It depends.



Kana -> RE: would a master be happy to hear his/her sub is in love with him/her (6/3/2013 2:48:56 PM)

Love:It's such a nice lever.



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