CynthiaWVirginia
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Joined: 2/28/2010 From: West Virginia, USA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia I tried to come in this thread to catch up on it, but after reading this quote... quote:
ORIGINAL: SailingBum Suffice to say if she represents a "typical domme" it doesn't surprise me that dommes can't find anyone to play with! BadOne Holy cr*p! Reality check time: The day that ANY Domme cannot find "anyone to play with"... ...is the day the earth stops spinning around on it's axis. I didn't necessarily agree with your prior statement, Cynthia, but I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't agree with this. I wouldn't have the balls to look Myself in the mirror if I tried to pass that off. I've always said that if I couldn't find play partners, I'd hang this shit up. Seems like I'm still kicking. There's a big difference between "can't find play partners" and refusing to settle. There seems to be a misconception somewhere in this thread that because I am frustrated with the way some submissive men approach the courtship process I am having difficulty finding men to keep my dominant side satisfied. This isn't true. Sometime the screening process can be challenging, but it's more a matter of being "irritated" at what some men try to pass off as effort. This is always my takeaway and I think most femdoms may be able to relate. If I open my doors and welcome submissive men to approach me by saying "I'm looking and this is what I seek," I am often a bit irritated at what comes my way. If I instead go on "pursuit" and find men - often who are vanilla, to be honest, and start that way and convert them into bottoms, I get what I want. I already have a primary partner and a secondary partner. Everything after that is gravy. I was making an observation. And hopefully encouraging some sub men to ask more questions when they are courting. It's been enlightening! I'm also able to spend more time on on the forums, and now that the NHL schedule is out am planning my travel schedule and this is motivating me to network accordingly. Akasha Akasha, I saw your OP as educational...not as a complaint...nor as evidence of an inability to get play partners. You are bringing up a problem that all females who get letters at CM have faced and offer a solution to those who are interested in improving the situation. Psst...I've been reading articles you've written for a bit over 9 years, and yeah, I'm something of a fan. I've also sent numerous newbies, both male and female, to read your articles and get some education. (Why should I say the same things over and over and over again, when someone like you has already done a good job of writing it down? Glad that you have posted most of them here at CM this past year. ++++++ @ LadyPact Yeah, I know we butt heads on some ideas, lol. Your experience has been very different from mine...as I live in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere. I'm envious of all the dungeons you have been a member of...folks there have been able to see your presentations. And, from what I've heard others say, these places also host classes for newbies to help show them the ropes, as well as teaching folks how to safely do edge play. Areas that have large, well established kink communities are blessed. Those of us in the sticks find our fresh meat at places like CollarMe.
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