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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 2:23:27 AM

SerWhiteTiger

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People that make lists of what is required in order to be who they are tend to be the biggest posers.
Just saying and based on my own life experience.

Requirements for being a tiger:

1. You're a big cat
2. You have stripes
3. Razor sharp flesh rending fangs
4. You don't befriend Pooh bears, you eat them

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 2:35:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger

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ORIGINAL: petitespot

People that make lists of what is required in order to be who they are tend to be the biggest posers.
Just saying and based on my own life experience.

Requirements for being a tiger:

1. You're a big cat
2. You have stripes
3. Razor sharp flesh rending fangs
4. You don't befriend Pooh bears, you eat them

So you're saying that a tiger who lost his fangs in a tragic hunting accident is no longer a tiger? Quit preaching your One True Way.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 2:40:54 AM

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I'm not too worried, nor do I give a rat's ass about the "basic traits" YOU'D expect a Master to have. Neither of us hold the "Master" standard for others to emulate. And as far as spiritual growth is concerned - BDSM is obviously not the only way - as any lifestyle can be used. I choose to use BDSM as more than just a casual, fly-by-night play-time endeavor. I choose to use it as a means of awakening the inner self for myself and anyone that chooses me as their source of information. But being spiritual in a forum that uses pain & sex as a means to an end - does not mean it's worth any less than a "established" religion or cult.
And as a new user of this forum - I will return your cute one-liner barbs. I'm a fighter and will do so whether or not it is part of your "spiritual" definition.
Anytime one cuts & paste snippets of conversation without looking at the context we will most likely get the wrong impression. So many inverted pyramidal statements are being made based upon snippets AND used as a weapon to break down or question the writers' motives/intentions that there is no way out of this dilemma and there will always be those who either make fun of or make a challenge based on a snippet. Do your worst.
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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 3:02:07 AM

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"So you're saying that a tiger who lost his fangs in a tragic hunting accident is no longer a tiger? Quit preaching your One True Way."

This is what I've been trying to say. Labels are required and dictionary definitions make the rules for many a board game. But no one wants a list of requirements, a list that defines (but with many exceptions - including the tiger who lost its fangs) who and what we are - and what we should inspire towards. It's so much easier to criticize those that make (sometimes, futile) attempts at defining our culture.

The very first order God gave Adam was to name things (no - I'm an atheist). When we name things or people or add adjectives, titles or degrees - we differentiate them from "the others" or their surroundings. As we go deeper and deeper into definitions we get so infuriated with some (that differ from ours!) that many people and their definitions often end up in the courts - sometimes all the way to the SUPREME court. Thus definitions are a necessity and when we talk about the differences between a top, dominant or a master (and their female equivalents) we talk about our own experiences, reading material, other lifestylers, common sense, logic and even our legal status as defined by the courts. So we can make lists, definitions and even add our own spins - but they mean nothing except to the people who practice it - or not.

So I agree with your definition of a tiger. Even if the original classification does not include fully functioning, exactly 3" fangs! A tiger is who you want a tiger to be. The name of the game is the name...... lol
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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 3:14:25 AM

SerWhiteTiger

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I would say that a Master doesn't choose to insult a bunch of people for disagreeing with him.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 5:58:51 AM

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I'm late to this rodeo, but to the OP:

You are young - how lucky :)

You'll come to discern men who possess the qualities you need. It's a learning and growing process - you can't go by a checklist or a software program.

You'll learn to look for that je ne sans quoi that defines a dominant personality. I'm 50 and it's still a "feeling" rather than an outright knowledge - at least at first.

Have fun - your life is wide open ahead of you.

IP~

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 6:24:39 AM

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Tall dark handsome with an accent. Air of mystery. Smiles very little, walks like they own the world. One word gets results. Courageous bold just disciplined, and doesn't talk much. Wears a leather belt on faded jeans, hard as a rock, big arms. makes the knees weak, instantly causing you to want to be pleasing. Causing inspires and desires........

Ok I shut the romance novel.

Someone has been watching Hidalgo again...

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/14/2013 7:09:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: DrMaster4U2

I'm not too worried, nor do I give a rat's ass about the "basic traits" YOU'D expect a Master to have. Neither of us hold the "Master" standard for others to emulate. And as far as spiritual growth is concerned - BDSM is obviously not the only way - as any lifestyle can be used. I choose to use BDSM as more than just a casual, fly-by-night play-time endeavor. I choose to use it as a means of awakening the inner self for myself and anyone that chooses me as their source of information. But being spiritual in a forum that uses pain & sex as a means to an end - does not mean it's worth any less than a "established" religion or cult.

You missed my point, but in doing so helped reinforce it for me.

Ta!

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Do your worst.

Oh, I save my "worst" for those that merit it.

I have a strong sense that would be a terrible waste of my worst were I to expend any of it on you.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/17/2013 8:18:43 PM

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I know this one!

He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

No need to thank me.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/18/2013 7:32:03 PM

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Is the throne made of gold, or porcelain?

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/18/2013 7:34:00 PM

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compressed carbon fibres! The dom is a "greenie"!

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 10:32:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: anglotexan
I know this one!

He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

No need to thank me.

Priceless!

I swear if I ever go to a kink event I'm dressing like this. Gawd my friends will probably be horribly embarrassed (bonus points from my perspective).

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 1:28:22 PM

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Alright, done. If you're up for this I'll do the same... we'll be a dom version of the the Thompson twins.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 2:04:12 PM

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He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

Close enough?

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 2:06:36 PM

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He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

Close enough?

Rawr!!!!

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 2:35:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

Close enough?

Fnar! I will pay money to see this...

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 7:52:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

Close enough?

What??? No shaved testicles? I am SO disappointed!

perhaps "The Thompson Twins" can contribute a lil sumpin' sumpin'

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/19/2013 11:48:32 PM

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no, but a shaved butt.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/20/2013 8:24:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: anglotexan
I know this one!

He will be wearing a three piece suit, look rather cross/constipated , has shaved testicles, wears a monocle, sits upon a throne and uses eyeliner.

No need to thank me.

Holy shit . . . and I thought all you needed was the club card and a T-shirt.

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RE: How to recognize a true Dom - 10/26/2013 7:59:45 AM

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II don't think there are any real rules for a "true" Dom ( i hate that...what does that mean??)
BUT.
If someone starts demanding you perform tasks immediately. Barks orders in a first message etc. you can be pretty sure He is here for the knee jerk reaction of some who will fall for this. Avoid them. A Dom who is sincere in finding HiS match will carefully ask you about yourself. Tell you about himself.

Wow. It sounds like 2 people getting to know each other!!! Imagine that. We may be kinks. But we are just people first , looking for that right fit .....

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