jola37
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt I think the big fear about being outed is mostly paranoia. Could it happen? Sure, but so could a lot of other things. Life is too short to spend your time worrying about it. It happened to me a few years ago, being outed with my friends. The worst person I had to face up to was my aunt who is very straight laced (also bags of fun and a good laugh), but straight laced. She was mortified to start with but one day she volunteered that she supposed it was ok as long as I gave money to charity as well. She though I was seeing a Domme at the time, which I wasn't and had never seen one at that point. It was the biggest paranoia I had for most of my adult life and in hindsight was such a huge waste of energy as none of my mates gave two hoots about it. Very occasionally (hardly at all now) I get the odd ribbing but it's affectionate. Nothing changed, invites didn't dry up etc :-) I think my face was as red as a tomato for a few weeks though until it dawned on me that it didn't really matter. Anyone who is worth being your friend wouldn't care and would be happy that you have a way of finding happiness and an escape from the grind, as you are happy for them finding a way of happiness. I understand in the workplace it can be a different matter as the people you work with may not be your friends and could make your life difficult. If handled correctly though, I have often seen in cases like this that the one flinging the poo is often the one to be ostracised, not their 'victim'.
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