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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 7/2/2006 1:06:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi secret. I didn't mean you specifically looked down at those in caretaking posistions, I meant it as a generality.
 
As for explaining the cracking of whips LOL, that can be troublesome. Might have to look into soundproofing a room for play.

And really, what floats my boat, so to speak, is the mental aspects..... I can do what I like without causing too much of a ruckus.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 7/2/2006 4:43:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Being that my children and I live with my parents, I'm in no position to judge anyone for living with his. I will say, however, if he has the means and his parents are self-sufficient, I would have to wonder why he's still there.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 7/2/2006 6:05:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are many cultures out there where extended families living together are quite viable an option.  And parents offer their children a home until they find a path in which to travel whether that is to a home of their own, a family of their own, a new location.  In many instances of these situations it is about taking the trauma out of their offsprings life and easing them into society.  Someone leaving home at 16, 17, 18 could possibly leaving prior to being ready to, hence making hard lessons come at them faster and lifes realities slap them harder.  These are choices made by the individuals themselves for whatever reason (lack of communication with parents, rebellious nature while living with their parents, refusal to conform to rules of the house, feeling they new it all and refusal to recognize the wisdom be taught by parents, refusal to put up with any more disfunction they were experiencing in their family, etc.).  Regardless of the age, maturity or whatever, when a person leaves home is the choice made by the family structure whether it cultural or not.  Why does a so called dominant living with his parents make him a 'mama's boy Dom'?  Perhaps it is all in the timing of events.  I know men that have lived with their parents well into their late 30's, this did not make them less dominant on the contrary pretty close to the opposite effect happened with them, they new exactly what they wanted, how they were going to get it, were very secure with themselves, financially stable, did not have alot of hard lesson issues, and to this day are doing extremely well with their lives.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 7/2/2006 6:20:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Amen aleshaDreams, and hallelujah, go sing it from a mountian cause girl you are right on!

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 7/2/2006 6:49:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		From my personal perspective, having a naked girl crawling around the house would not sit well with mom-I'll have to pass.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/30/2007 4:52:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		My x was a mommies boy,  his mom controlled his money, who he saw, when he saw them, he had to have her permission to come over, He lived with his mom because he was socially enept and was to emotionally stunted to ever live on his own or support himself, We're talking about a 25 year old who didn't even cut his own mustache, he claimed he didn't know how.Mom cut it for him. He claimed not to know how to cut his fingernails too, momma did that for him too.

Socially enept, unable to care for themself boys, I run the other way from, However living at home myself at 24, almost 25, because I have a healthy happy home life, am free to do as I please, come and go when I wish,  and I am going to school, and because I have a better living situation than on my own, I don't look down at others in similar situations.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/30/2007 4:56:48 PM   
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  From my personal perspective, having a naked girl crawling around the house would not sit well with mom-I'll have to pass.  -Caretakr


Agreed.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/30/2007 6:41:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		2000 census shows that we are more and more moving back to intergenerational living as elder parents need care and only 25 % of all families have both a mother and a father in the home.  The idea of nuclear family is actually very new has had its peak and is in a major decline.  I take care of my elder parents.  Is it a pain in the ass - yes.  But I still would not trade this time with them for the world.  What I find extremely frustrating is the lack of intergenerational housing stock such that we can both have a nice measure of privacy and so that they can continue to age in place and remain in their comunity as long a is possible.  We have to build in order to have such a place and land values are too high in their community. 

If the "Dom" in question has never stood on their own I would write him off.  If he has been out on his own for the majority of his life and for whatever reason is now cohousing with family I would suggest withholding judgement till you know the full story. And then their are plenty of folks out there who have um's from previous choices they've made that require their financial resources...this unfortunately is a common issue that if you want to be with them becomes your issue as well.  Personally, I think it would be a hard pill to swallow.  

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

As we age it is not always because it is advantageous financially to live with a parent, sometimes they NEED us to. Up until recently I was helping my mother with her husband who was very ill until he passed away. I have communicated with a couple of dominants in this position. Unless they communicated to you that they lived with their parents to save money, I would not assume this is the case. Some are taking care of their elderly parents. When this is the case I believe they deserve your respect for their ability to show such commitment to their family of origin. Personally I find this very sexy in a dominant.

I think in this society we isolate ourselves from our family, usually ending up far distances away from them, that is just not the way I prefer things. I love the connectedness of extended family. I do not find it shameful that people need each other to survive, the shameful thing in my opinion is to judge someone based upon their living situation as somehow a "mama's boy dom" when you have zero clue what their true situation is. I do not take financial advice from anyone until I research it myself.. and looks can be deceiving hun, someone that has champagne taste on a beer budget can fool you into thinking they are something they are not.. because their "lifestyle" is all on credit and they are in debt up to their eyeballs.

As a single mom I am not looking for someone to do it for me, my son is 16 and no one ever gave me anything, I did it for me and mine. I know how hard it is out there, but I do not expect more from others economically than I can do for myself. Domination is not about the cash for me.


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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/30/2007 7:45:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		In some cases, as with my current one, some guys have not the money to live on their own due to college, and thus living with parents is a viable option to allow them to get through college and earn the money needed to go out and live on their own.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/30/2007 8:06:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with most of what has been posted here. You really do have to take them case by case and find out the information before making any decisions. If they are just mooching off them like leeches , hit delete and block that user............problem solved!

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 8/31/2007 12:53:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		The fact that I live at home in my mom's basement makes me that much better a dominant. I know this because that's what my mommy told me.

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