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Help please - 9/6/2013 4:18:04 PM

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Please help!! I have been with my Master for 8 months. When we started our relationship he told me I had to close me collarme account, so I did no questions asked. He has continued to remain on the site and has on two occasions attempted to engage in a new relationship with new slaves on here. I only know this because one of the slaves saw Master and I together and sent me several emails telling me he was a player and cheating on me. I told him I was getting emails from a slave on collarme and what she said. He denied everything, I believed him. She then sent me all the emails between them and told me they were soulmates and she hoped I died. I told him again and sent him all the emails. She then sent a Dom/Master pictures of me and gave him my email address. He then stared contacting me and said he was going to take what belongs to him and he had visions of me crawling in a wedding dress with a collar and leash to him...my rightful owner. I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him. His actions put me in danger. He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again? I feel do open and raw, he broke my heart and slave spirit, what do I do? I love him

RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:25:00 PM

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He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again?

You don't.

Ditch the slave spirit garbage and get your feet planted in reality. The guy lied to you consistently and on a very serious topic and hasn't ever come clean or apologized. Seriously?

While we're at the "re-enter reality" advice, some idiot "dom/master" you don't even know says he's going to force marry you and you think that means something? Are you living on Gor?

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:26:48 PM

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He cheated on you and lied to you, and you're asking how you trust him again?

Why should you?

Dump his sorry, lying ass and get someone who deserves the title of Master. And do me a favor and quit calling him that - using that term on a cheater demeans the title.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:26:53 PM

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Is this behavior that would be acceptable to you in a vanilla relationship?

How do you trust someone who has demonstrated over and over again that he is un-trustworthy?
Answer: you can't.

http://www.buildfreedom.com/content/books/survive/

Why do you love someone who has treated you with so much disregard?

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:27:47 PM

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I'm not clear, is this all online or real time?

And, your 'master' has lied to you, of course you can't trust him.

As for the other 'master' who emailed you, wtf? Stop communicating with him.

You need to be able to create clear boundaries for yourself before you can engage in a healthy relationship of any sort.

Please work on this.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:44:46 PM

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Good Lord! What are you 12 years old? This is like Middle School pre-teen drama.

Would you tolerate this crap if it were a vanilla relationship?

Your Master is a piece a crap. The chick he's banging is psycho...and you've got some weirdo that deserves police attention emailing you.

Pull your head out of your butt and start using it to put together an intelligent thought.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:49:22 PM

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You are acting like a 17 yr old and a first "love" not a 46 yr old female.You have been used and taken advantage of, it happens all the time. Move on, learn from it and go forward.
you may or may not be honest in your desires, you know for darn sure he is not. YOU are worth more than that, even as a slave, heck especially as a slave.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:57:19 PM

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Your Master is a piece a crap. The chick he's banging is psycho...and you've got some weirdo that deserves police attention emailing you.

Well yes, but could you say it bit more clearly please? Oh wait... that'd be no :)

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 4:57:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1

Please help!! I have been with my Master for 8 months. When we started our relationship he told me I had to close me collarme account, so I did no questions asked. He has continued to remain on the site and has on two occasions attempted to engage in a new relationship with new slaves on here. I only know this because one of the slaves saw Master and I together and sent me several emails telling me he was a player and cheating on me. I told him I was getting emails from a slave on collarme and what she said. He denied everything, I believed him. She then sent me all the emails between them and told me they were soulmates and she hoped I died. I told him again and sent him all the emails. She then sent a Dom/Master pictures of me and gave him my email address. He then stared contacting me and said he was going to take what belongs to him and he had visions of me crawling in a wedding dress with a collar and leash to him...my rightful owner. I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him. His actions put me in danger. He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again? I feel do open and raw, he broke my heart and slave spirit, what do I do? I love him

1) He lied to you. He looked for other women when that wasn't what you agreed. He showed no remorse. And why do you want to trust him again? Walk away, feel sorry for yourself for a little while then say 'what can I learn from this?' and move on.

2) Block any method she has of contacting you.

3) Most people here have had inappropriate messages from some guy claiming he should own us. Block him too. However, something smells fishy here. It doesn't make sense for her to contact a random dominant and him to go along with it. I suspect girlfriend and stranger-dom are the same person, and unless you've met all these folks in person, I wouldn't be particularly surprised if your 'Master' is the same person also.

Sounds like someone is playing internet games with you.

How long did you know him before you decided to submit? Had you met him and dated him in the flesh? Had you taken time to trust him as a person and find out about his life, or were you turned on by the idea and jumped into giving him power right away?

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:21:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1

Please help!! I have been with my Master for 8 months. When we started our relationship he told me I had to close me collarme account, so I did no questions asked. He has continued to remain on the site and has on two occasions attempted to engage in a new relationship with new slaves on here. I only know this because one of the slaves saw Master and I together and sent me several emails telling me he was a player and cheating on me. I told him I was getting emails from a slave on collarme and what she said. He denied everything, I believed him. She then sent me all the emails between them and told me they were soulmates and she hoped I died. I told him again and sent him all the emails. She then sent a Dom/Master pictures of me and gave him my email address. He then stared contacting me and said he was going to take what belongs to him and he had visions of me crawling in a wedding dress with a collar and leash to him...my rightful owner. I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him. His actions put me in danger. He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again? I feel do open and raw, he broke my heart and slave spirit, what do I do? I love him

Why in the world are you letting these crazy people affect your life negatively? Divest yourself of the drama and move on. I'll never understand the thought that because someone is into BDSM they have to take random drama if it falls under the BDSM umbrella somehow.

Get control of your life and put things in order. All of this is bizarre, would you even consider putting up with it if it were just a regular relationship? I sure as hell wouldn't.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:34:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Your Master is a piece a crap. The chick he's banging is psycho...and you've got some weirdo that deserves police attention emailing you.

Well yes, but could you say it bit more clearly please? Oh wait... that'd be no :)

I could try......but it would probably violate ToS....

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:41:56 PM

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No I'm not a child. Master/slave should be built on trust. Part of me still trust him. I have filed a police report and arrest have been made on the crazy so called Master.

I want to believe in my current Master. If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:46:05 PM

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GIVE YOURSELF ONLY TO SOMEONE WHO DESERVES YOU. Find the person who respects your limits. So many subs forget this detail in their desperation to be "Owned". If it doesn't feel right, then it isn't. LEAVE.

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ORIGINAL: yourslavetobe1

Please help!! I have been with my Master for 8 months. When we started our relationship he told me I had to close me collarme account, so I did no questions asked. He has continued to remain on the site and has on two occasions attempted to engage in a new relationship with new slaves on here. I only know this because one of the slaves saw Master and I together and sent me several emails telling me he was a player and cheating on me. I told him I was getting emails from a slave on collarme and what she said. He denied everything, I believed him. She then sent me all the emails between them and told me they were soulmates and she hoped I died. I told him again and sent him all the emails. She then sent a Dom/Master pictures of me and gave him my email address. He then stared contacting me and said he was going to take what belongs to him and he had visions of me crawling in a wedding dress with a collar and leash to him...my rightful owner. I love my Master but I feel betrayed by him. His actions put me in danger. He has never apologized to me. How do I trust him again? I feel do open and raw, he broke my heart and slave spirit, what do I do? I love him

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:47:12 PM

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He has betrayed your trust.

You do not need to ask to be released.

He voided the 'contract' when he lied to you.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 5:47:19 PM

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No I'm not a child.

Then perhaps you should stop acting like one.

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If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful

You've got to be kidding me. You don't ask, you tell.

I find it ironic that you're worried about being disrespectful when he has no respect for you. HE LIED TO YOUR FACE.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 9/6/2013 5:48:07 PM >

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 6:12:57 PM

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You've got to be kidding me. You don't ask, you tell.

Allow me to rephrase that in true master/slave speak... and in this case I mean "true" in every single sense of the word.

Throughout history, when things have gotten untenable, the answer for a slave is "flee if you're able".

You don't go to your damned master and ask for release. You flee. That's what "real" slaves do. And heck, that advice came from a genuine sword wielding, "I own your ass" gorean dude. It's got pretty much everyone's stamp of approval on it.

If the OP is unable to flee then there's no more advice to be given, she's screwed.

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 6:58:43 PM

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I want to believe in my current Master. If I choose to walk away, how does a slave asked to be released it hour being disrespectful

I recommend, "I'm dumping your sorry ass. Rot in hell, you lying SOB."

That's more respectful than he deserves.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 8:02:51 PM

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~FRing it~

If lying to you and bringing nothing but abso-fucking-lute chaos to your world are both honorable characteristics in a dominant in your eyes, by all means....stay with the lying sack of monkey shit.

But if you in any way value yourself one tiny little shred, "master's" sleezebag ass should get an introduction to both your ass and the curb. Life is too short for that shady slimeball shit

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RE: Help please - 9/6/2013 8:02:54 PM

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How did the other slave get your email address? I don't understand how she would have contacted you if your collarme account was closed. Or how she got pictures of you to forward to another Master. I'm so lost.

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RE: Help please - 9/7/2013 12:16:52 AM

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How did the other slave get your email address? I don't understand how she would have contacted you if your collarme account was closed. Or how she got pictures of you to forward to another Master. I'm so lost.

Hey, stop spoiling a good thread with logic and common sense!

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