RedMagic1
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ORIGINAL: Missdressed I have a sub I play with on a semi-regular basis. I always made it clear he was just a play partner until I found the elusive ltr. He has hinted very strongly that he loves me. So I continue to see him ? I won't give you advice, but I think I know what happened. Here's my two cents. First, contrary to stereotype, men tend to be more romantic and less practical than women, especially as both sexes mature. Example: women tend to be better off emotionally after divorce, and men tend to be worse off, despite all the pressure from younger women to "put a ring on it." Moral of the story: men want companionship and romantic security more than women do. About your specific situation: a friend of mine once said to me, "Everyone needs one person in their life who they can reveal their innermost self to, and who will not judge them." It is an amazingly powerful release when you find such a person, especially if she's an woman you find attractive, and she accepts your sexuality. If he isn't accustomed to "thinking poly," it doesn't surprise me at all that his logical conclusion would be, "She must be the One." Especially if he wasn't secure in his submissiveness before he met you.
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