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A question for Masters. - 11/11/2013 11:27:49 PM

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Dear Sir's and Master's..

she would like to inquire as to what is generally sought in a slave when One is seeking someone to make Their own?

and at what age did You find You were ready for a submissive as a serious slave, and understand the meaning of that to her?

Thank You All for Your responses.

RE: A question for Masters. - 11/11/2013 11:33:06 PM

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Loyalty, duty, respect, service, honor, integrity, personal courage (and a nice, shapely ass doesn't hurt)

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/11/2013 11:35:45 PM

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Thank You Sir, for Your reply.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 2:41:36 AM

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NOT third person speech. It's pretentious.

I have been having long talks with a couple of men that I think most would agree are masters. They both have the same ideas about this. Be who you are. Be the BEST you that you can be.

That's it. Good with numbers? Become a CPA. Animals are your thing? Volunteer with an animal shelter and go to vet school. Enjoy yoga? Go through the teacher certification training. Great at cooking? Start a bakery.

Do your best to BE your best. The rest follows.

good luck,
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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 3:47:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: alumina
she would like to inquire as to what is generally sought in a slave when One is seeking someone to make Their own?

I looked for the woman wearing my wedding ring. Carol and I ran into this when we were already married. Were that not true I'd have been looking for all the normal things I'd be looking for in a wife plus a "default submissive" personality (eg: someone who submits pretty much to the world at large).

and at what age did You find You were ready for a submissive as a serious slave, and understand the meaning of that to her?
Well, we ran into this when I was 42-ish? The 2nd part of this is nonsensical to me. Why would I know or care what this might mean to some random self-identified slave on the internet? This is an M/s relationship. What it means to ME is the only relevant factor. And what it means to me is something akin to marriage with a really broad swath of absolute obedience thrown in.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 4:00:15 AM

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Welcome to the discussion side, Alumina.

I suspect your previous owner was into the third person speech, which is why you're doing it, but it's awkward to read and doesn't go over well on a message board where most find it pretentious at best.

Also, for your information, you may address your question to masters in the 'ask a master' subsection, but any and all can and will respond. This is just a heads up for a person new to this forum.

As to your question, I seek honesty and integrity above all. I can accomplish a great deal as far as shaping a relationship along the lines I desire, in terms of service or duty or pleasing me, but I can't make a person be honest, nor give them personal integrity, they have to have that all on their own.

I also like a open mind willing to learn, and one very receptive to me. From my experience, this is a matter of personal chemistry. Some want me in their brain, others do not. If they don't, I have no interest, since this is primarily mental for me. I'm not saying I'm not into the physical side as well, but I fall for brains, not bodies.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 4:27:17 AM

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I look for vanilla compatibility. Someone what I like talking to is the absolute top priority.

Also, she needs to feel comfortable with my lead, and I have to feel comfortable giving it to her.

As someone who's taken a lot of Chemistry classes - why'd you pick that username? Just nosy.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 4:49:48 AM

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When I'm looking for a sub, I look for somebody I like talking to and being around, who also wants to be submissive to me (in contrast to some people, I'm not all that concerned with her approach to the world in general...it's just different ways of approaching it). I really can't be any more detailed than that. I like different people for different reasons, although I know I'm not going to like somebody who's dishonest or rude, for instance.

I started seriously looking for a sub when I was 22. Some people might say that's too young, and maybe it was, but we've all got to start sometime. I've made some mistakes, but I've learned from them.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 5:37:31 AM

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Hello!

So you're going to get a good range of replies, and the essence of all these replies is that there really isn't any standard theme - although there are a lot of common traits.

My ideal submissive...

Startlingly clever, opinionated, self confident. She's honest, principled, and likely to be a professional.

And very very naughty.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 6:01:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: muhly22222
in contrast to some people, I'm not all that concerned with her approach to the world in general...it's just different ways of approaching it)

Actually, just so you know, I put that qualification in there not because I care about how my slave approaches the world as a whole. It's because a dominant personality could never offer the levels of control I associate with "slave". Not that I have any corner on the market for what "slave" means but I'm reasonably certain what it means to ME would require a submissive personality.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 6:56:58 AM

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I look first at the eyes of a person. If those can't hold my attention I could care less about the body. After that I look for honesty and the ability to stand beside me as an equal. I wouldn't want someone who merely wishes to be used or objectified. Really it comes down to looking for someone to be in a committed relationship with. After that finding limits can begin.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/12/2013 7:28:50 AM

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She has to be fun, articulate, insightful,self-assured, and share the same low tastes that I have. Outward appearance isn't as important as inner beauty, as cliche as that sounds. I've been with very attractive women who were hideously ugly on the inside, and plain women who shone like diamonds. Age is irrelevant-I was 19 when I started this game, and was into my first in-scene relationship as a dom (although we didn't use titles and terms as much where I was) by 23. And I'm with the others-save the third person speak for the bedroom-it doesn't read well here.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 8:43:35 AM

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What is generally sought is what is sought in general. I know, heavy huh. But there is a point. What is sought is different for each individual. Which kinda makes it irrelevant. Instead think about what you are seeking in a Master. From your profile it seems you already have a rather good idea what that is from past experiences. And yes, you do have the right (indeed the obligation) to seek what it is you desire. M/s works best when the people involved are well suited to each other.

The age issue is tricky. In my opinion you are too young to be giving up such complete and total control. The reason I say that might surprise you. It isn't that you aren't old enough to know what you want/know what you are doing. It is that you aren't old enough to have the wisdom that age brings. Wisdom takes time. It takes years. Some twice your age never learn it. (A sad reality). And some learn wisdom at a younger age. Might you have it already? It is possible, though unlikely. If you are truthful with yourself, you can answer that question. You should answer that question. What it boils down to is this. The line between a healthy M/s relationship, and a harmful one is slender, and often difficult to recognize. Be careful.

Oh yea, I'm gonna disagree with what the others have posted on your choice of third person speak. If that is what feels right for you, then do it. It may or may not look pretentious on a forum, and people may find it annoying. But if that is who you are, what others think about it is not important. Bee Yourself!

Gotta tell you, that smirk of yours is about the cutest, most adorable, and lively one I do believe I have ever seen. That is a Grade A+ smirk. (No that is not a come on. It is a compliment. Simple as that). Never lose that smirk. Never.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 9:08:31 AM

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Oh yea, I'm gonna disagree with what the others have posted on your choice of third person speak. If that is what feels right for you, then do it. It may or may not look pretentious on a forum, and people may find it annoying. But if that is who you are, what others think about it is not important. Bee Yourself!

I'm absolutely with you on that. I would not select her for using such speech. But that is a GOOD choice and it's a good thing that she spoke as she felt was right then I evaluated that and determined "bad match for me". If someone were a serious masochist I'd hope they would mention that also because that also would mean "bad fit for Jeff" and all is well in the world.

Authenticity is an important life skill. I always applaud it.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 12:21:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: alumina
she would like to inquire as to what is generally sought in a slave when One is seeking someone to make Their own?

High intelligence and a great ass.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 12:29:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: alumina
she would like to inquire as to what is generally sought in a slave when One is seeking someone to make Their own?

High intelligence and a great ass.

Most definitely... The smarts to know when to bend over and the looking good in that position I is always a. Good thing!

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 8:40:09 PM

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I have to chime in because I agree with Dyfrynt...your smile is adorable. I don't quite see your smile as a smirk but it is lovely nonetheless. Very cute picture.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 9:12:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: SubvsSlave
I have to chime in because I agree with Dyfrynt...your smile is adorable. I don't quite see your smile as a smirk but it is lovely nonetheless. Very cute picture.

Fine fine... I'll chime in on the adorable smile too. I've liked that profile shot from the first time I saw it.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/13/2013 11:57:51 PM

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Big brains, mad skills and compatibility.

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RE: A question for Masters. - 11/14/2013 4:08:47 AM

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Music taste that isn't shit.

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