ResidentSadist
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Yes I have experience with strong-willed women and it takes a paradigm shift on your part. If your Master is experienced and familiar with this, he can provide the education, but you are the one that has to learn to change your perspectives. This book should be helpful: The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man by Laura Doyle Surrendering is coming to terms with reality--that YOU are the only one YOU can change. Doyle gives practical tips and tools for replacing critical, controlling, or nagging behaviors with respect, trust and gratitude. A surrendered wife bravely and courageously commits to making a loving, nurturing marriage the most important goal of all -- and she will receive that and so much more. This book is easy to read, practical, and best of all it WORKS! There are many other books about submission and sLavecraft that are also very good. Take a look at the -=BDSM Book List=- link in my sig. Seriously? We're recommending sexism now? I love submission, but I'd rather never submit again than follow the advice of anti-feminist claptrap like Ms Doyle. Just sayin' Regardless of gender, that is what the OP requested . . . how to submit. The fact to book uses her own experience from her gender perspective does not devalue the education and relationship tools she has to offer. To deny her validity just because she is woman writing from a woman's perspective is your sexism, not mine or hers. I believe in BDSM, M/s and D/s style relationships where authority and power exchange deny the equality of power for men or women, lesbians, gay, bisexual, transgender and hetro. It's not sexism or anti-feminism if it has nothing to do with gender but everything to do with believing Dominants should dominate and submissives should submit regardless of gender. Sure, and as soon as she writes 'The Surrendered Husband', I'll be all for it. The beauty of BDSM is that power is based on D or s, not male or female. In Doyle's world of biological essentialism, that kind of neautrality can only be dreamed of. It'd be like recommending a 19th century slave manual for a mixed race couple - bigotry is bigotry no matter how many parallels it shares with BDSM. Doyle seems like a square vanilla Christian heterosexual housewife. I am pretty sure she also has religious beliefs I do not agree with. But that does not undermine what she wrote about learning to surrender any more than her lack of writing the antithesis book, The Conquering Husband or companion books The Surrendered Husband, The Surrendered Lesbian Husband, The Surrendered Transsexual Husband etc. Seems a shame to waste or discount a good resource due to prejudice against the vanilla source. And "the beauty of BDSM" is not always androgynous, asexual, SSC or politically correct. That is your prejudice.
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