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THIS is success... - 12/17/2013 10:34:12 AM

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About 6 years ago I started to talk to a local man here on cm. We talked online for a long time, mostly because he was looking for NSA fun and I was looking for a relationship. He was funny, intelligent and we meshed on so many levels.

About a year after we started talking, we decided to meet for coffee. The chemistry was certainly there and we both decided we would try for a relationship. He was single, divorced and extremely wary of commitment.

We spent several wonderful months together. We laughed at the same things, loved the same movies, indulged our passion for Rocky Horror and Monty Python together. He was there during some dark times in my life and he was my rock.

But as time went on it was clear that commitment was something he still wasn't comfortable with, so we agreed to part as friends. I loved him dearly as a friend and he felt the same about me. We were blessed, and he rejoiced with me when I found Master (here on cm) and our relationship blossomed into something special.

Today I learned he had died. I hadn't heard anything from him in a few months, but assumed he was busy at work (he'd recently set up a company). He died in September and I hadn't known. His family didn't know about me, so I was never told about his passing.

Obviously I'm devastated, but I'm also so very, very happy that cm brought us together. Without Karl I would not be the person I am today and in love with the man I have.

This story may have a sad end, but it was truly wonderful while it lasted and I will always remember him as my very dear, beloved friend.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/17/2013 12:20:23 PM

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/hugs/

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/17/2013 12:38:23 PM

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Oh, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. How wonderful that you have such happy memories of him to comfort you while you mourn his loss.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/17/2013 7:24:10 PM

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Thank you so much for writing this.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/17/2013 9:22:55 PM

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Hugs, I am sorry to hear of your loss.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/18/2013 3:57:52 AM

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Salute to Karl, not only did he have great taste in women, anyone that likes both Rocky Horror and Monty Python can't be all bad. Thank you for sharing your story about meeting him here and the time you spent together. May he rest in peace and all your memories be fond ones.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/18/2013 10:33:12 AM

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Thank you everyone for your kind words at this difficult time.

But for all you people who don't know me and who think the site is full of 'fakes and flakes'...there ARE real people out there, but only if you put in the time and effort to get to know people and make the effort to go out and meet people.

No-one is going to deliver you the perfect partner on a plate the minute you joint - you reap what you sow. Be patient, be genuine, be willing to take a chance. Then maybe, just maybe, you too will find a person who will be your friend until the end. Surely that's worth waiting for?

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/18/2013 7:45:11 PM

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Thank you for sharing your positive experience. It is too often that people focus on the negative. Your story was inspirational, and I really enjoyed reading it.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/20/2013 5:13:10 PM

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What a fantastic attitude you have. I am so very glad that the good memories will help you through your grief.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/22/2013 4:08:34 PM

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's absolutely true that even if a relationship does not work out, you can meet wonderful people that impact your life.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/22/2013 4:10:40 PM

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I am sorry for your loss.

May the God of the dead reward him according to his merits.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/25/2013 10:58:01 PM

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So sorry for your loss. That was a lovely post.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/27/2013 9:20:24 AM

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I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you remember everything good about him with great fondness.

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RE: THIS is success... - 12/29/2013 3:27:07 PM

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I too am sorry for your loss, but happy that you had such a great friend in him and beautiful memories to remember him by.

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