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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 3:40:20 AM   
needlesandpins


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Status: offline 		anything that involved me, and another person being part of my ex's fantasies. that didn't work out well at all because my ex forgot about the part where you don't get to micro manage real people like the ones in your fantasy. a spontaneous threesome with a housemate and a guy I knew years back was a lot of fun though.

as to my own actual fantasies that I can play out; well my playmate and I have experimented with those, and still are. so far I've really enjoyed how they've gone. I haven't had a 'never again' moment, but I think that is because I have trusted him with the fantasies. if I had given those to my ex then yeah, I could have seen those being ruined to try with anyone else.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 3:54:45 AM   
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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 5:11:36 AM   
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I'm much better off at roleplaying and making clips, than giving away my life - doesn't quite work for me

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 5:38:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		An orgy. 3 or 4 people enjoying each other in one place is fun. More gets confusing and increases the possibility of drama.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 5:54:53 AM   
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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 6:22:32 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		That soooooooooo sounds like something that could have happened to me. I'm known for having sensitive skin and getting bad reactions to odd things.

I agree about rope, on both sides. In my mind it's so sexy and sensual, the reality is I'm a knot dyslexic. I feel that with my many years doing this, I should be a rope expert (not).

The reality of someone spending whole minutes rigging me up is boring as all hell.

I've also realized I'm a major maso in my own mind only. When things hurt too much it brings me out of sub space and makes me cranky.




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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 6:29:51 AM   
Kana


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are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life?


-Orgies.
Much less attractive in real life.All too often they are closer to eyebleach.

-Threesomes
Gals ain't that big and I don't wanna look up and see my buddies hoodads dangling immediately in front of me. That=instant shrinkage.

-Needles under the nails.
Yeah, for some reason it just was soooooooo not hot.Maybe it was the gal or the chemistry and I should give this one another try.but yeah,it didn't do too much for me.

-Then there was the itching powder incident. Yeah, that one worked so much better in my mind



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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 7:56:45 AM   
Rasciallymisty


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Status: offline 		Can't say I have any I would not want to do again..... But I am enjoying reading this tread as some of the things gone wrong are fantasy I have but have not tried. Thanks for starting this thread.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 8:13:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana

-Needles under the nails.
Yeah, for some reason it just was soooooooo not hot.Maybe it was the gal or the chemistry and I should give this one another try




FFS Kana - every time I come from behind the sofa to read your posts you dream up some more seriously evil shit!




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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 8:28:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Back when I first got into the scene, I wasn't the Domliest Dom on the block. I was under the impression you have to start at the bottom and worked your way up (hey, I was a nineteen year old). Hooked up with an older woman who wanted a toy to play with, and I thought I could handle a whipping no problem.

Problem. I managed to gut it out for a couple of sessions, but I finally had to put my foot down. I was and am in no way, shape, or form a masochist, pain didn't turn me on, and she wasn't all that skilled with the damn thing. I still have marks on my back almost thirty years later from her. I also discovered I didn't like being restrained, either. Both of these revelations had bearing on what I did with my following (bottom) partners as to treatment while in scene.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 8:55:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Forced anal. In fantasy it is hot to think of having someone just flip me over and take it.

But when the reality occurred, arriving at my BF's house and being taken without lube or mental energy made me hurt inside and emotionally shut off.

It was his favorite thing to do and I ended things after about a month even though we were otherwise compatible.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 9:14:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I suggested a fantasy that made me so hot when I read it. It was hot while we did it, but afterwards, it was bad and I felt too dangerous.

Unfortunately, my selfish asshole ex was so into it, he did not stop and eventually, I ended up in the emergency room and hospitalized for 7 days.

Ridiculously enough, it is still a hot fantasy, but as in all things, better left to read about.


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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 3:17:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel

Plastic wrap.

I probably shouldn't have done that in mid summer. There was an odor involved due to heat, closely confined sweat, and no aeration. Maybe I should try that again sometime. Sometime when it isn't 90 degrees in the shade.


ha ha ha dude yeah totally.

also a friend of mine who became a pretty successful fetish model has horror stories about her first gigs, which involved plastic/vinyl/latex modeling in phoenix. like i think it was autumn in phoenix, so the temperatures only in the mid 80s to low 90s. in her words, "there isn't enough goddamn air conditioning in the world."

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 6:23:42 PM   
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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 6:55:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always thought that it would be terribly exciting to have sex in a movie theatre. One day a guy and I went late on a Monday night and it just so happened no one else was in the theater. We figured it was now or never and snuck into the back rows so we'd hear someone right away If they came it. My heart was pounding the whole time, but I was just so scared someone was going to walk in (so was he) that it was a very wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am experience. Seriously, from penetration to orgasm it was MAYBE 2 minutes, and that's being generous. It wasn't like he wasn't a good lover, or like it wasn't super hot...it just definitely wasn't like it played out in my fantasies.

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 6:59:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I did a 3-way once and it pretty much sucked - and not in a good way. I doubt I'll ever try that again unless it's with a pair of college cheerleaders with daddy issues.


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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 9:03:51 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: myotherself


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

-Needles under the nails.
Yeah, for some reason it just was soooooooo not hot.Maybe it was the gal or the chemistry and I should give this one another try




FFS Kana - every time I come from behind the sofa to read your posts you dream up some more seriously evil shit!




Nothing original there darling-I was just a young buck trying to reenact some shit I remembered from old war movies (Didn't have the internet or forums then to ask old timers for ideas,pick their brains, steal their evil.
I thought it would be so fun.Tying each finger down I was so excited-I felt fucking medieval. But then the actual insertions, the way she reacted-yeah, that was so not the hot sort of agony.
I was 100% let-down.

Shrugs-course, now that I'm rethinking about it,maybe I should have done a take two on her toenails.
Hell, maybe I should do it to Mouse, see if we get a different sort of response

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 9:05:19 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
Forced anal. In fantasy it is hot to think of having someone just flip me over and take it.

But when the reality occurred, arriving at my BF's house and being taken without lube or mental energy made me hurt inside and emotionally shut off.

Are you trying to tell me there's another way to do it?

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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 9:23:18 PM   
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RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you'v... - 12/22/2013 11:44:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AlluraVogue
I always thought that it would be terribly exciting to have sex in a movie theatre. One day a guy and I went late on a Monday night and it just so happened no one else was in the theater. We figured it was now or never and snuck into the back rows so we'd hear someone right away If they came it. My heart was pounding the whole time, but I was just so scared someone was going to walk in (so was he) that it was a very wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am experience. Seriously, from penetration to orgasm it was MAYBE 2 minutes, and that's being generous. It wasn't like he wasn't a good lover, or like it wasn't super hot...it just definitely wasn't like it played out in my fantasies.


I did that but the floor was cold (winter) so I threw my full length $5,000.00 fur coat down (I lived in Detroit, it gets pretty cold). Anyway, it almost ruined the coat. There were hard candies stuck to it, some soda syrup and god knows what that other stuff was.

I used to do a weekly movie date with one girl and reach under her skirt making her cum with my fingers. I would torture with orgasms while other people were in the theater and she had to be quiet and not wiggle around. It drove her crazy and often delayed her orgasm several times so when she finally did cum, often she would end up squirting.

The eventual sister slave to the weekly movie slave, wasn't allowed in chairs and had to sit in the theater isle. At erotic theaters I would have her lean over and blow me while kneeling.

I am sorry you didn't like your sex in the theater experience. It can be a lot of fun. I hope you give it a whirl again sometime.


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