are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life?

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HipPoindexter -> are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 3:28:25 PM)
i'm not talking about the realm of omg pure fantasy like my dream of being topped by nicki minaj and both of 1980s mtv's julie brown's simultaneously. no no, rather i'm referring to something you've actually tried and decided is only going to be hot in your head. for example: i always THOUGHT heavy cbt was going to be insanely sexy. i'll spare you the details but, as it turned out, about five clothespins in to what my then gf assured me was "really goddamn light" cbt play i was shrieking and mewing like a kitten in a thunderstorm. i still totally think about it. still find the concept insanely hot. will never do it again. have reality and fantasy ever collided uncomfortably for you (on either side of the exchange)?

ExiledTyrant -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:03:27 PM)
Every time the lottery drawing is held... Man the fantasies rock up until that point. Exiled

FrostedFlake -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:24:35 PM)
Skateboard.

HipPoindexter -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:26:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake Skateboard. i have so many cool skateboard tricks i can totally do in my mind.

FelineRanger -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:30:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Every time the lottery drawing is held... Man the fantasies rock up until that point. Exiled HEY! Stay outta my fantasies! [:D]

ExiledTyrant -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:35:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelineRanger quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Every time the lottery drawing is held... Man the fantasies rock up until that point. Exiled HEY! Stay outta my fantasies! [:D] Pffftttt... Buy a winning ticket and really make me suffer... Cuz I'm gunna do it to you should I find the golden ticket. Charlie

LaTigresse -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 4:37:11 PM)
Singing and dancing. I hit every single wrong note between all the right ones and I have no rhythm when I try to shake my groove thang.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 5:04:49 PM)
Marriage.

ResidentSadist -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 5:19:55 PM)
I can handle rainbow, especially in a nice steamy tiled shower. I rather enjoy the sounds of her distress, the heaving, chortling, choking and sucking my cock with a knife to her throat as she is told not to miss a stroke. All that torture pleasantly outweighs the odor . . . but anything to do with scat just don't get it for me.

shiftyw -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 5:41:21 PM)
Rope stuff =/ It seemed so sensual and artistic- but I find it so boring, I like to struggle more than I was really able too, maybe it'd be more fun with someone more experienced in it, but it wasn't for us in the end.

MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 6:02:34 PM)
Plastic wrap. I probably shouldn't have done that in mid summer. There was an odor involved due to heat, closely confined sweat, and no aeration. Maybe I should try that again sometime. Sometime when it isn't 90 degrees in the shade.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 6:21:09 PM)
More of them than I can recount here. But the number 1, biggest one is being a "slave" 24/7.

kalikshama -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 6:59:13 PM)
Yup, being a slave was fun when my ex and I were long distance, but not so much once I moved in with him, at which point the dynamic changed drastically.

Greta75 -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 7:14:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw Rope stuff =/ It seemed so sensual and artistic- but I find it so boring, I like to struggle more than I was really able too, maybe it'd be more fun with someone more experienced in it, but it wasn't for us in the end. Yea, I agree. Those intrinsic rope design, takes forever to tie, and by the time it's all looking pretty and I'm all bound up, I'm bored, and it doesn't enhance my pleasure any more than a simple spread eagle. And well it doesn't feel as good as I thought it would be, and also, it's too artistic! I mean, especially in consensual non-consensual plays, does it make sense for your "attacker" to have so much time on his hands to tie everything so prettily? I've done the tied up inside body, have it squeeze your breast and tighten at your clit, put on normal clothes and walk out with my xdom. I thought that would be awesome for me. But it was so un-awesome! I don't know, it was just uncomfortable and I didn't get like a super sexual turn on from it. And I just kinda felt, it wasn't exciting for me, it wasn't fun. I didn't feel humiliated since it's all covered up, just my xdom know what's beneath. It was just, I was expecting some awe-inspiring feelings from being bondaged inside but I didn't feel anything. And what drew me into bondage, why I like being restrain, is how it changes the energy, the feeling, like a supernatural state of consciousness. I like those magical feelings, which something so simple as sitting watching TV with my hands bound behind my back could bring. That Jap bondage pretty rope stuffs really made me feel nothing.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 10:32:31 PM)
A while ago an ex-partner really wanted to try sounds. It didn't go well at all, but it did make for a very interesting threat in the future. [:D]

MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 11:11:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw Rope stuff =/ It seemed so sensual and artistic- but I find it so boring, I like to struggle more than I was really able too, maybe it'd be more fun with someone more experienced in it, but it wasn't for us in the end. Yea, I agree. Those intrinsic rope design, takes forever to tie, and by the time it's all looking pretty and I'm all bound up, I'm bored, and it doesn't enhance my pleasure any more than a simple spread eagle. And well it doesn't feel as good as I thought it would be, and also, it's too artistic! I mean, especially in consensual non-consensual plays, does it make sense for your "attacker" to have so much time on his hands to tie everything so prettily? I've done the tied up inside body, have it squeeze your breast and tighten at your clit, put on normal clothes and walk out with my xdom. I thought that would be awesome for me. But it was so un-awesome! I don't know, it was just uncomfortable and I didn't get like a super sexual turn on from it. And I just kinda felt, it wasn't exciting for me, it wasn't fun. I didn't feel humiliated since it's all covered up, just my xdom know what's beneath. It was just, I was expecting some awe-inspiring feelings from being bondaged inside but I didn't feel anything. And what drew me into bondage, why I like being restrain, is how it changes the energy, the feeling, like a supernatural state of consciousness. I like those magical feelings, which something so simple as sitting watching TV with my hands bound behind my back could bring. That Jap bondage pretty rope stuffs really made me feel nothing. If I may be so bold: it's probably poor technique. During the process of tying there should be rope slithering all over the subs body, constantly tickling. Of course it can get a little old if you use rope is just too fricking long that it takes hours to draw a single loop through. I've made that mistake in the past. :-( On the other hand, if all the knots are tied just right every movement you make will, um, jiggle in all the right places. It takes a little practice and a lot of reading to know precisely how to do that though. A rope dress takes some time to tie but if I put this one knot, in just the right place, you'd be in waves of bliss just to be sent to clean the floor. That's assuming that you like being restrained.

shiftyw -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/21/2013 11:31:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw Rope stuff =/ It seemed so sensual and artistic- but I find it so boring, I like to struggle more than I was really able too, maybe it'd be more fun with someone more experienced in it, but it wasn't for us in the end. Yea, I agree. Those intrinsic rope design, takes forever to tie, and by the time it's all looking pretty and I'm all bound up, I'm bored, and it doesn't enhance my pleasure any more than a simple spread eagle. And well it doesn't feel as good as I thought it would be, and also, it's too artistic! I mean, especially in consensual non-consensual plays, does it make sense for your "attacker" to have so much time on his hands to tie everything so prettily? I've done the tied up inside body, have it squeeze your breast and tighten at your clit, put on normal clothes and walk out with my xdom. I thought that would be awesome for me. But it was so un-awesome! I don't know, it was just uncomfortable and I didn't get like a super sexual turn on from it. And I just kinda felt, it wasn't exciting for me, it wasn't fun. I didn't feel humiliated since it's all covered up, just my xdom know what's beneath. It was just, I was expecting some awe-inspiring feelings from being bondaged inside but I didn't feel anything. And what drew me into bondage, why I like being restrain, is how it changes the energy, the feeling, like a supernatural state of consciousness. I like those magical feelings, which something so simple as sitting watching TV with my hands bound behind my back could bring. That Jap bondage pretty rope stuffs really made me feel nothing. If I may be so bold: it's probably poor technique. During the process of tying there should be rope slithering all over the subs body, constantly tickling. Of course it can get a little old if you use rope is just too fricking long that it takes hours to draw a single loop through. I've made that mistake in the past. :-( On the other hand, if all the knots are tied just right every movement you make will, um, jiggle in all the right places. It takes a little practice and a lot of reading to know precisely how to do that though. A rope dress takes some time to tie but if I put this one knot, in just the right place, you'd be in waves of bliss just to be sent to clean the floor. That's assuming that you like being restrained. I do like restraint- but my top hadn't had much rope experience, so I'm sure there is some truth to what you say. However- I'm not a small girl either and I think rope might just be better on a different canvas as well?

MariaB -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/22/2013 1:57:36 AM)
Doing a take down with Steve. For a long time I imagined the perfect take down. Fighting him to the point of overcoming him and having him at my mercy. Although I sort of managed to do it once through coercion, I had to use a load of props and a few strong men. Steve is very strong and he fights like there's no tomorrow. He floors me every single time :( and I always end up getting hurt. I've given up on that one now, much to his disappointment because he enjoys flooring me!!

lizi -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/22/2013 3:04:21 AM)
I thought I was going to love getting my face slapped, it didn't work out well.

myotherself -> RE: are there any fantasies you've abandoned once you've tried them in real life? (12/22/2013 3:26:25 AM)
In the early days of my exploration into bdsm I volunteered to be a rope bottom for a workshop. I thought it would be hot...it was, but not in the right way. Apart from being bored half to death while I was being tied up, about 10 minutes into the process my skin started to feel warm. I thought it was some kind of emotional/physical response to rope and the restriction. It continued to get hot and a bit uncomfortable...and after a further 10 minutes I had to ask for the rope to be removed because I wasn't feeling too well. Turns out I was allergic to something in or on the rope, and I ended up with raised welts everywhere the rope had been. Fortunately I had antihistamines at hand and the reaction didn't get bad enough to need medical attention, but that was enough to persuade me that shibari wasn't really 'my thing' [:D]

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